Shettle's Method Failed on me.

[Gili]

Ever felt down when you find out second baby is the same gender as the first?  First of all, I used Shettle's method to try for a boy after 1st healthy daughter.  The timing was literally within 12 hours before I ovulated.  Just had 18 weeks ultrasound.  Sonographer said 98% sure it's a girl even though I thought I saw a boy part on the screen, but a second look after the baby flipped looked like the boy part was gone.  Could have been the cord that was right in front of the girl part.  Secondly, I'm not that young anymore.  I dont' want to have more than 2 kids.  Now that second is a girl, I feel incomplete as I kept dreaming of having the second the opposite gender.  I know the baby is healthy and that's what matters most.  But, I can't get over my depression that's doesn't seem to go away.  Everytime I replay the sonographer's announcement of the baby's gender, that voice just stab me.  Anyway, I had an emotional breakdown in front of my OB as well.  Just can't control my prego hormone.

Anyone have had 2 girls and feeling that you want to go for a third?  I had that thought, but fear that it'll be another girl and I would go through worse depression.  Besides, who knows if a third try will be a boy?  Furthermore, I feel that keep having girls could be a problem of my hubby and my mix of conditions.  My hubby is always hot.  He always have to stop in the middle to turn on the fan or AC.  he might have killed all the boy sperms even with boxers on.  I never come during intercourse.  So having that said, I think I'm tied to girls only which makes me feel incomplete.  Thanks for reading.  Just want to get it out.

[Peaglenut]

This may sound harsh but are you just a little bit mad??  I've just lost a baby. Be grateful your girls are alive and healthy or maybe you could just give the baby away seeing that just want the two and try your shettles again for a boy...........ridiculous woman!

[stephie4]

Many go through what you are feeling. I had the opposite....  I have an 11 yr. old boy, and was wishing for, and basically had my mind set that i was having another boy....

Here's the thread:
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/394470?post_id=post_2316937

BTW, i'm 28 weeks, with a girl.  

[Gili]

I'm beginning to get uesd to the idea of all girls now.  Hubby told me it's a matter of talking to someone until I'm tired of it.  My brother has two boys and he joked about exchanging one with me since he and his wife wanted a girl so badly.  I wouldn't try my soon-to-be-borned girl for anything of course.  I feel guilty thinking about a friend that couldn't have kids, period.  But, it's almost a fact of life that people are bounded to be disappointed when they don't have want that they or what they have been expecting.  Anyway, I wouldn't have a family of four with a boy and a girl.  But, I still wouldn't trade for anything now that it's a reality.  At times, I still wonder if the sonographer is wrong.  The last sonographer was very experience and he was right on the dot.  This one seems less experience, but why should I doubt her accuracy?  I know it's just a subconscious desire for a boy after a girl.  It'll absolutely be irresponsible and heartless to abandon your own kids for anything else.  Yes, I'll love my second daughter.  I have been looking at those 3/D ultrasound printouts of her face every night before going to bed.  It helps me to accept her and feel blessed that the doctor said she's very healthy.

[rene67]

I'm sorry that you are concerned about the gender, and feel incomplete because you wanted a different gender.  Maybe some counseling would be helpful.  But I'm with vsentz and many of the women here, I've had 3 miscarriages since 2006 and am concerned I may not have any children.  I would be so happy to have ONE healthy child.

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but worrying because you wanted a different gender seems shallow.  Plus, there are benefits to having either one, even both of the same gender.

In 3rd world countries such as India and China, girl babies are routinely aborted because the parents want boys.  There are some historical reasons for preferring boys, but in our modern world, there is no good reason.  I am not saying you would ever consider aborting, however your thinking is in line with some in the 3rd world.

Also, there is no documented study that says timing intercourse gives you a different gender.  I have not heard of the Shettle's method but doubt it has been studied extensively.

[kindergal]

It sounds as if you may in need of professional therapy.  Ask your OB for a referral.

[azqtpies]

I am having my third boy!  my one daughter is grown and my son, now have my 9 yr son at home and my 4th child my lil boy on the way shortly, I have found  you adpat and love them no matter what I think we are all convinced early on what we think it is, and then nope its not! with a lil time we all absorb and are just estatic... as i am sure you will too! I love my girl, but whew... I would take 10 boys before 10 girls anyday!...lol Good luck  to you for a healthy baby.