Shettle's Method Failed on me.

[Gili]

Ever felt down when you find out second baby is the same gender as the first?  First of all, I used Shettle's method to try for a boy after 1st healthy daughter.  The timing was literally within 12 hours before I ovulated.  Just had 18 weeks ultrasound.  Sonographer said 98% sure it's a girl even though I thought I saw a boy part on the screen, but a second look after the baby flipped looked like the boy part was gone.  Could have been the cord that was right in front of the girl part.  Secondly, I'm not that young anymore.  I dont' want to have more than 2 kids.  Now that second is a girl, I feel incomplete as I kept dreaming of having the second the opposite gender.  I know the baby is healthy and that's what matters most.  But, I can't get over my depression that's doesn't seem to go away.  Everytime I replay the sonographer's announcement of the baby's gender, that voice just stab me.  Anyway, I had an emotional breakdown in front of my OB as well.  Just can't control my prego hormone.

Anyone have had 2 girls and feeling that you want to go for a third?  I had that thought, but fear that it'll be another girl and I would go through worse depression.  Besides, who knows if a third try will be a boy?  Furthermore, I feel that keep having girls could be a problem of my hubby and my mix of conditions.  My hubby is always hot.  He always have to stop in the middle to turn on the fan or AC.  he might have killed all the boy sperms even with boxers on.  I never come during intercourse.  So having that said, I think I'm tied to girls only which makes me feel incomplete.  Thanks for reading.  Just want to get it out.

[40smama]

I'm with V - I'm having a hard time relating but, I'm so weird - I have three girls already & now am pregnant w/a boy but secretly sort-of wanted another girl!  But after going through all of the ttc we endured, I realized in about 2.2 seconds to be extremely thankful for the healthy baby I'm so blessed to be carrying.

What about counseling?  I would suggest that if your feelings remain so they won't interfere w/your relationship w/your new baby.  

[nursekim]

I used the same method this time around also....except we were hoping for a girl, as we already have a 6 year old little boy.  I can totally understand how you feel, I am still very upset/disappointed about it and if it is brought up I get very tearful about the whole situation.  Look at it this way.....you have your girls. Girls always stay close to mama. Boys are adorable when they are small and you always love them, but they "leave" for their wives.  I am really battling that idea now.....I have no little girl to be my "forever best friend"  I think we will try again, but I am like you.....It will probably be a little boy again.

[rukiyar]

I have 6 kids and the first four where girls, and even thought I would have liked to have a boy I was still thrilled to have my girls, finally my fifth viable pregnancy it was a boy and the next one after that was a boy too, so now I have my two sons and guess what I am currently pregnant 22weeks with you guessed it another girl and I am real excited my youngest dd will be 7 yrs before Myah comes and my yougest the two boys will be 4yrs and 2yrs. But to me Healthy after suffering two devestaing m/c is all that matters when you see her it wont matter either too you I guarentee she will melt your heart just the same congrats and god bless

[lhughes]

Well, I'll have to toss in my 2 cents.  I was SURE Lauren (our second girl) was going to be a boy.  So sure I had them check each time we had an ultrasound.  We wanted a boy badly.  I was a tad disappointed, mostly because I knew she was going to be the last baby we could have.  And mostly the disappointment was because we had a COOL boy name "Nathan Jackson" after my dad and dh's granddad.  And didn't even have more than a first name for a girl.

Well, we batted around girl names for forever, nothing seemed to really get us excited, before coming to the weirdest conclusion.  And it was just before my dad passed away....  Lauren ???? became Lauren Jackson and it sounded so good, it stuck.  So in honor of my dad, Ray Jackson Belcher (yes, I got a lot of ribbing for that last name in school), our little girl carries the name we would have given to the little boy we wanted.

She might forever wonder about the sanity of her parents (what child doesn't), but we all liked the name. Little Lauren Jackson has been the best thing there ever was.

And to top it off, God knew better.  Having to have her early because of the need to continue my chemo, we didn't need to worry about her lung development (like a little boy).  So, all in all, she came out just the way she should.

[pcarsey]

With this one.. everyone in my family wanted a girl except me, I didn't care as long as it was healthy! Well I'm having a boy and although my DH, DD and DS said "dang it", they have gotten used to the idea and all are just fine and excited with it now. It could be your hormones, hopefully you will get used to the idea and things will settle in and you will enjoy some part of being pregnant. I will add, I have a daughter and a son, and my daughter always wanted a sister. She loves her brother, but there is something that 2 sisters have that a brother and sister never will and vice versa... Give it some time. Good Luck

[1nana]

A little disappointment I can understand, but depression? That's going overboard. Focus on the fact that she is healthy. That should be first and foremost.