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Starting Over
Is anyone in the group starting over? If so tell me how do you cope with this? I am 38 and I'm 6weeks pregnant. I have one other child that is 17 and will graduate in May and attend college in fall of 2015. My family is not supportive at all (especially my daughter). I was a good mom, successful, and very careful until now. Sometimes I just want to cry.... Any help or suggestions appreciated..
I am also starting over I have just turned 35 and my daughter is 18 this month! My family also weren't very happy a first but they have come around and now being very helpful just give it time it definitely helps :)
Iam 35 and I'm starting over too my son just turned 19 jan 3rd and he graduates this year he wasn't very happy but he came around my 13 and 16 year daughters weren't so thrilled neither but I think they will come around once she is here!
I too am starting over with a 17 year old who is extremely pissed and let's me know she does not want to share her mom. She let me know it better be a boy... I am not paying her any mind I am a good mom to her and she soon will spread her wings and leave the nest. Hopefully by the summer she will have an attitude adjustment, if not it's OK. My family thinks I'm crazy and let me know it.
All very helpful comments. It is good to know I'm not the only mom who is starting over. I will be patient. I know it will all work out.
She'll be fine I'm 36 i have a 20, 18, & 17 year old daughters and an 11 yr old son and a 6 yr old daughter.... My oldest had an issue because of the father. she barely acknowledged my pregnancy until the last month I am 6 months now she understand that the new baby was an IUD baby and wasn't planned at all but she has come around she attends my doctors appointment with me when she can and she realizes that she have a life of her own and so do I and instead of her making me feel bad about being pregnant and starting over she knows that she's going to eventually move out and start a life of her own. so she's gotten better with it. so I was just saying be patient with her she'll come around but I wouldn't do well on it and I wouldn't push the new baby on her she just have to understand that actually you're going to be the one that has to support this baby not her and you know how to share yourself with two people and that doesn't take away from her
I'm 44 complely starting over. My son is 19 and my daughters going to be a senior in high school. I am divorced and been dating my boyfriend for over a yeat. We decided we wanted a baby together. It's like completely having another life all over again. No regrets for me I'm just happy that it happen so quickly. Now If someone could just tmy son for me lol!
I'm 36 and have daughters 14 & 21. I'm 21 weeks into my 3rd pregnancy and trying to figure out the same thing! To top things off, my oldest daughter is pregnant also and due on the same day as well.
Thank you for all your kind and encouraging words. I want my baby and I won't let anyone get in the way of it.
I have 3 daughters, 20, 18, 10 from my first marriage. I divorced 8 years ago and remarried and now have one on the way (38 weeks today). I know all about the difficulties of starting over. My oldest daughter especially has really struggled with it and was quite upset at first. It seems she's coming around here in the last few weeks but I still get the occasional negative comment every now then especially because she's in college but still lives at home and doesn't think a new baby should justifiably affect anyone else in the house (rearranging rooms for example). Fingers crossed that she will come around.... I know your frustration. :(
I'm starting all over.. she will get over it trust me .. I was going through hell with my mom and daughter but now all is calm .. Good luck
I'm also 40 and have 3 other kids one is 18. U can't allow family or friends upset you bout a choice UR makn with UR life a baby is a blessing and if they don't wanna be involved that's there loss. U have a lot to worry bout with keeping UR lil one safe so don't get stressed. They will come around eventually worry bout U right now.
19 weeks, I'm due the same week my two boys turn 16 & 7, also have an 11 year old daughter. I was shocked to say the least...
I too am starting over at 39/40 . I am due August 31 I turn 49 August 26 . I have a 8 yr old daughter and 11 yr old son . They both seem so excited right now . How ever I know there will come to a point were they are going to be at complete opposite points in there life . I am so concerned about my pregnancy and keeping our little peanut safe .
I'm 20 weeks and have a 19 year old son. Give your family time to come around. I'm sure they are in shock. Alot has changed over the years. Especially the prices of things. You'll be fine. Hang in there.
I'm 24 weeks pregnant and have a son that just turned 18 and will be going to college soon too. My son is happy and my family is too. I was worried at first but everything is going fine with the baby.
I am a daughter of a mom who started over and at first I was mad at mom and knew she didn't plan to but I realize that she wanted more than me but was just not happy with my dad but something to tell you to make family less upset get along with the family be there for your daughter understand that it is hard to go from being your moms whole world to sharing with a new sibling yes I was 15 and wanted less mom but it fe
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