HELP! tricky work/doctor appt situation

[usuk]

hi ladies - i need some advice and i'll be brief in my set up. DH and i just partnered with another couple in their existing company in january. we still have a house in another state, and so is my doctor who has been with me through 3 MCs in 11 months. we go back and forth every weekend to get the house ready to be sold. and usually make dr appts for friday or monday. now after my 3rd MC, the doc put me on injectables and wants to do an IUI friday. i have a big meeting friday which i cannot move. and my partners are just saying to make the doctor later friday or monday. i am so embarrassed to take more time off work (since i went twice in january to get bloodwork and US, 6 times in feb/march to confirm preg, MC then D&C, and now here i am again in april/may getting shots etc to time it right). each time we leave work early or get in late. they get preg easily and i think are sort of judging how much we are intervening. and to put the clincher in, she got preg in february too and is now 15 weeks. how do you tell a dr. that although he donated very expensive follistim to you, you can't make the IUI? or how do you ask your partners to let you do this when in all likelihood, there will be other meetings which will get screwed up too because of your bad luck in TTC.

[YvetteY]

Lol! You poor thing...the dogs in the car!!   At least it's your dogs and not your other kids!  Ha! ha!   Good luck! I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you!  And at least you're not in Phoenix Arizona where we are getting into the hundreds!!   I can't even take my poor dog out for a walk after lunch like we used to!!    

[adgal]

Ah, the joys of ttc!  This must be so stressful for you.  In all honesty, I would probably be very straight up about what was happening and the importance of the timing of the procedures.  I understand not everyone is comfortable with that, but most are sympathetic when they know the whole story.  Whatever you decide, you know I wish you luck!!!!

[usuk]

okay so i moved the IUI appt to 3pm. which means when the meeting is over at 12pm, i have 3 hours to make a 2 1/2 hour drive and get DH to go in a cup. OMG. and i will have my dogs in the car!!!! dear god.

[YvetteY]

Just be upfront with your partners.  I wouldn't miss the IUI especially since you're using donated follistim.  People are understanding when they know the situation and arent left to assume things.  

I have to take off a lot of time from work....prior to getting pregnant and while I am pregnant.  I just told my mgr the situation and they were okay with it.  I do have the opportunity to make time up.

[thetam01]

hmm good luck. what about having the iui later in the day after the meeting or very early in the day before the meeting..  what about the very next day or the day before.. iui can be a little flexible.  they can give ur trigger shot a little earlier or a little later and iui can be done 24 to 40 hours after trigger shot.. and u can go right back to work after iui which does not take long.. i wouldn,t let the doctor down this time since they donated the med to u because he may think u don't appreciate it..  good luck on whatever u choose..

[40smama]

Oh, boy - this is a tough one - good grief!  I think any advice I give won't be good as I don't know your entire situation and if you talk to your doctor about this dilemna, he/she's likely to say well, how do you plan on getting pregnant if you can't make your appointments especially when it's for a IUI?

After thinking a little more about this, I wonder if you can confide about this to one of your partners and get his/her support?  I know you feel like you're being judged but if you are, then truly these people need to mind their own business & learn some compassion.  Also, it wouldn't hurt depending on your relationship w/your doctor to explain your work dilemna to him either.

Another thing to think of is once you're pregnant, you will have lots of other doctor appts. - will that mess you up at your place of work?  Or can you plan all of these on Friday/Monday?

Bless your heart - I hope it all works out! - jen