I have to confess

[MillyVaz]

I have to confess I had avoided getting pregnant before because of labour pain. Everytime, I had always an excuse, work, school, too early and lose weight first. But then at 38 yrs old, I thought it was getting late for me and that I was putting at risk my motherhood. I decide it was time, and that I have to overcome my fears of birth. If my mom, my sister did it, why I wasn't able to. I like to hear others story, and I think this will pass, pain is there but it will be temporary. I have learned there is no gain if there is no sacrifice. ;) My time is getting closer and closer. I'm at week 38 and 3 days! Tomorrow I will see the OB, to be check for dilation. I wish this part of checking could wait until I get into labour. On my last two check ups, I wasn't dilating, and I believe she hurt me when she checked me there. I had bad cramps after she did that.I will ask tomorrow if that is really necessary to be done before labour day starts. Thanks everyone for your words of support in this forum! I feel ready for this challenge, and I will let you know my baby sucess birth's story.

[itsmis]

You are not alone. I also put off having babies because I am not only afraid of labor, I am terrified of it. I was in The delivery room with my sister when I was 22, it did not go well and they ended up doing emergency c section on her. It freaked me out so bad I wouldn't even consider getting pregnant until last year. Something about turning 35 opened my mind to it

[chloegc1023]

I had my first baby at 27 and when I was in labor, I wasn't even sure I was experiencing true labor pains.  I just thought the labor pains were going to be knife stabbing and they weren't, instead they felt like menstrual cramps.  Then when I finally figured after talking to my friend that I should go to the hospital, I wasn't even scared that I will be having my baby that day.  I got an epidural for sure, and that helped tremendously, but I wasn't scared.  I always knew that women have been having babies forever and that I was no different.  Now I'm having my second and I feel the same, and will be having an epidural again.  Just keep up the attitude that ur sis did it, and ur mom did so u can't u, and ull find that it's not so bad, but I would get the epidural if I were u to help make ur labor more pleasant.  goodluck!

[ncmama46]

Your body knows what to do and labor is different for everyone.  It can be painful or a breeze just depends.  The end result however is the pain will be gone almost instantly after birth and you get to hold that sweet baby.  This is my fourth baby my youngest is 14, I honestly don't even remember the pain.  The labor and birth I remember but not the pain.  You'll get through it just fine trust yourself and your body.

[spade22]

Most women are scared of labor pain.  That said, keep in mind that many women give birth without any form of pain medication and there are many options to minimize or completely alleviate the pain during labor if you want to take those options.  Discuss with your dr at your next appointment.