Too much too think about

[Juliaschill]

So my hubby now knows,and well this was his thought, It was meant to be,but Wanted me to think about adoption, he said that we were blessed by getting to adopt 5 wonderful children and we know with out a doubt that these children were meant to be ours no matter who gave birth to them, Maybe it is our turn to have a baby for someone else, and bless them. I am not sure what to think about this, any thoughts????

[blessedmomof3]

I to am glad to hear you have come to a decision you feel good about. Yes it will be hard at times and be alot of work, but as you have said yourself  it is all worth it! I'm sure this baby will fit right in w/ the family and the other kids will welcome him/her and love him/her very much. CONGRATS!

[adgal]

I'm so glad to hear you two have made a decision and you feel right about it!  I was pretty sure that would be the outcome...I just don't see you giving up a child.  I agree with the others...he wasn't thinking with his heart.  Probably some shock there as well.  Once again, you two will be wonderful parents just as you already are and things will work out just fine.  XOXO Amanda

[rubyinparadise]

Julia, I'm so happy for you that you've made the decision together and that you've agreed to keep this baby. Congratulations! :)
Try not to worry too much about what your husband said. I agree with pertykitty that he was just thinking like a guy. They are solutions-oriented. He wasn't thinking with his heart when he said it-- but it sounds like he is now. All the best!

[pertykitty]

im sure it will be difficult at times, im sure you will more tired than you ever dreamed, but you will have your family together.  its not for me to say, but it just seems that after carrying this baby you wont want to do anything but deliver and hold and kiss on him or her.  

men sometimes have a way of looking at things that are non emotional.  he will realize what he said and he will most likely feel the kicks and imagine playing ball in the yard and such.  it all works out, crazy sometimes, but i it does!

[PamelaBee]

Personally, I could never give away my own child.  If there's a will there's a way...God provides.

[Juliaschill]

We had a long talk last night and I Knew that I could never give up my child "unless I was sick and could not care for him or her" Just really messed up as to why my Husband would say something like that. He told me he felt guilty about "HIM getting me pregnant"as if I didn't have anything to do with it,LOL Long and short of it,We want to keep are baby! I know that I am still in shock,but even at my crazyest moment when all of my kids are needing attention at the same time,and I just want to crawl in a hole and take a nap, I only have to look at there faces and all the doubts fade away and I am just a very lucky MOMMY. so we will gladly keep this wonderful gift that God has given us and do the best we can. You guys are the best thanks again

[Victoria01]

Such a personal decision and I know you will make the right one for you and your family. At one time I thought adoption would be the only way for me to have a child and I know what a gift it can be, but I don't think I could adopt five children and then give up one of my own. Just know that whatever you decide it has to be the right decision for you and we are here to support you either way. Pray long and hard and the right answer will come to you.

[melimeli]

ummm don't think so.. I think that is for people who cannot give a home to a child.. you can and you will.. a hole would be in your heart your whole life.. that would be filled with well we gave the baby up so they could have a life with a two parent home etc.. but you can give your baby that.. so your hole would just be left.. with we gave our baby away...

[rubyinparadise]

All the very best to you as you make this decision! Trust your heart and the "little voice"-- that's how the Divine communicates with us. :)

[Juliaschill]

Thanks Ladies, I will take it one day at a time and do alot of praying, on a Good note all the kids have settled in and things are not as crazy as they were a few months ago! thanks again,

[Super_sally888]

Hi,

Glad that hubby now knows and now he can support you.  

It is far too early to be making any sort of decision about adoption or anything else.  This is his immediate reaction to finding out. Just like your immediate reaction was to feel totally overwhelmed.  Men like to fix things and coming up with a 'fix' is his way of handling it too.

Take each day as it comes. You have many months ahead of you.  I know with your strength and faith the right answer for you will come to you and hubby.

Hugs and support.

Sally

[adgal]

It sounds to me like you have some difficult decisions ahead of you.  No matter what this baby is a gift and you know how I feel about adoption.  As someone who not long ago thought that would be my only option, I truly believe it is the most beautiful gift you can give someone.  At the same time, it would be an incredibly difficult thing for you to do.  As the others said, it is a completely personal decision, and you have support here no matter what you decide.  Love ya my friend. Amanda

[momof8215]

I agee with hoping4_2. However, I don't believe that you were meant to have a baby for someone else, especiallyl because you adopted your other babies. It doesn't make sense to me...but that's just my opinion. I believe that God doesn't give you more than you can handle. You were able to adopt other people's babies, God wouldn't have you give your own...do you understand what I mean. Either way, you know we all have your back with whatever you decide...we are here for you!!

[blessedmomof3]

WOW, ummmm not sure what to say about this. I think it's great that he wants to give such a wonderful gift, but it's your body and there for your decision and there is alot to think about. You have 5 kids to care for. Wish I had answers for you, but I just wanted to let you know that I think what ever you decide has to be what is right for YOU.