trying to quit smoking at 32 wks

[mich33]

hi i am 36 yrs old and trying to quit smoking as i am 32wks pregnant i am finding things very difficult to quit and i try to think of my baby health and feel so guilty when i do smoke i am still struggling here i am using patches and have support from nhs but it is still difficult.   I know i may stick for it but would rather have advice support from other people trying to quit:)

[adgal]

Well, the thing is, smoking is an addiction.  I had a fight with one of my closest friends when she was quitting and I just wasn't there yet.  She was so mad at me, but I just couldn't.  I love her lots and it had nothing to do with her being important to me, but an addict is an addict.  That being said, when I gave it up I knew I couldn't count on others to do the same.  So I explained that for my health and that of my childs, I had to not hang out with them until I was over that initial hurdle.  I understand why you would be upset with him, but at the end of the day, when giving up any addiction, it's up to you honey.  Let him know you are still friends, but you need to stay away for now.

Don't give up on this.  It is never too late to quit, and trust me, if I can do it, anyone can!  You can do this.  Just take it one minute at a time and fight those cravings with whatever works for you. It gets a bit easier every day and you will beat it.  And just think how good you will feel when you are holding that baby, knowing that you did this for him or her.  Don't give up!!

[mich33]

I came on this site for support not being insulted i am still trying to give up smoking and i have reduced it dosnt help that my best friend smokes as well but he is also trying to give up and struggling with it,  It is causing friction between us as i need more support from him as sometimes he has influcenced me but not meaning to, today we had a n argument about it as he said i shouldnt give myself a hard time about smoking but i got annoyed with him as its like hes saying take it casually which i dont because of my baby, he then roled a fag in front of me and when i got angry he said he thought i wouldnt mind as i had already had.  I am now thinking what kind of friend is he and we have had an argument and not on speaking terms now, he says he wants to support me on this but what kind of support is that??    Was i wrong to get angry with him as he is struggling to or was i right to get angry??

[adgal]

Perhaps we could keep our comments to helpful advice as opposed to judgement?  In my experience an attack is not helpful, good solid advice is.  Thank you.

[Quintenswife2003]

I agree with K
I quit cold turkey...
Why even post that .. You should have quit by now..
I bet you'll even smoke in the car and house with the baby..
Poor kid is too young to smoke!

[adgal]

I remember going through quitting...it is truly the hardest thing I ever did.  All I can say is keep at it.  If you cheat, quit again.  I wrote down all the reasons I was quitting and carried the list with me.  Also, once I had an ultrasound pic, I carried that around as well.  Whenever I was tempted to give in to the cravings, I would look at it, and it reminded me why I didn't want to smoke.  It helped a great deal.

Don't beat yourself up...it only causes more stress, which triggers the cravings.  Stay away from anyone and everyone in your life that smokes, and reach out for support whenever you need to.  Stay as busy as you can, and carry around lots of healthy snacks...carrot sticks were great for me and honestly, I often held them like a cigarette..lol.  

You can do this. Just keep at it!!

[KAnuCmEY]

I quit cold turkey when I got pregnant, just because I knew their health is worth more then my own selfish habit. Being a good mom in my opinion is putting my children and their needs before my own and it started from the moment I found out I was pregnant.