Can I have a baby at 46

[angeleyes467]

Im interested now in having a baby at 46 first time trying. I been trying for a few years now and tried fertlity meds for about 9 months I took 50 mg only. 2011 It did not work.

My Dr. said my eggs are not as strong.  I guess it's my age. Im upset. he did say dont give up . So Im not gonna. I also had pollops and had 1 removed. 7 months ago. Im fine now. I had tinging of blood frequently. So wanted to be safe/

Now it was removed I always get checked every 6 months. Im clear. Also he thinks I need some help having a baby. and wants me to see a uncologist to see if they can help me with fertlity options. . I can't offord IVf now and all the others tests now.

So gonna try 100 mg of fertlity meds for 2 months, never tried that high MG. So I pray god grants me a baby I'm not listening to my gyn he said dont take them I am for 2 months. Then not sure after.

I want a bbay so bad my husband and I. I tried for a few years but i never always looked at the calander that can be alot of it also. I just had sex is all when ever. LOLO So please let me no if you guy's think i should not give up yet ? I need a baby so bad. God only knows. Also if not I do not want to adopt or anything I want my own blood. Please let me no what you think ? That I should not try no longer or keep trying.? Thanks get back .

Thanks Angel

[AnnieBrooke]

Please also be clear that "donor eggs" does not mean another person carries the baby.  The eggs are donated to you and your husband, and you carry the baby.  A woman's uterus is functional for a much longer time than her eggs are reliable, so you could get pregnant by a baby created with your husband's sperm and a donor's egg, and you would carry the baby and give birth to it.  

[adgal]

Most credible RE's will not do IVF on a 46 year old women using her own eggs.  Also, a gestational carrier using your eggs isn't the answer either unfortunately.  You see, the reason most women at 46 have trouble conceiving and carrying to term is not the overall health of their body.  It's the age of their eggs.  So the fact that it is your own eggs is the issue.  The reason so many of us in our 40's begin to look to donor eggs/embryo adoption is because the age of our eggs makes chromonsomnal abnormality much more common, which is the primary reason for miscarriage.  I am not trying to steer you away from what is your choice and belief, just explain why surrogacy would not be the answer for you.  I do truly hope you are successful.

[angeleyes467]

Thanks and I do hope im granted a baby. Just would try IVF and i mentioed to my husband if we can have some one have our child he said he is not sure about that. I wonder what it cost? Well I am not given up and if so then god thinks it's not for me to have a baby. I would be a great mom. Your correct though what your saying and thanks. I waited to long darn. Angel

[angeleyes467]

Arrr thanks but if it don't work not gonan do that. Rather my own or can try IVF mayeb once. Just can't now. Im upset but strong and i pray to god alot he can grant me a wish a baby.  I am not given up. Never.
I just have to watch calander more. lol
THANKS

[AnnieBrooke]

Having had my first child late in my childbearing life, I should be entirely empathetic with everything you said.  And I am, except that you said you only want a child if it is your "own blood."  A lot of people raise kids they are not biologically directly connected to who love them and are loved in return, and who find parenthood with them as fulfilling (or more) than some people do raising their "own blood."  Look around and see how great your friends and relations are doing with their kids and you will see plenty of examples of what I mean.  A child of your "own blood" is no guarantee you will find parenthood joyous, and a child not of your "own blood" that is a wanted and adored child will be a happy situation for you.  If you get to a point where you are down to either having a child or not having a child, donor eggs and adoption are still out there, and you might get to the point where you are really grateful that they are.  Good luck to you.

[adgal]

Well, I would never say to give up.  I will say in all honesty that at 46 your chances have diminished a great deal.  However, your RE is the best person to advise you.  Should you ever change your mind about alternatives, there are options such as donor eggs or embryo adoption that many women have had great success with.  You still carry the child and give birth, and I have yet to meet a women who chose these options have regrets, or not feel the child was "theirs".  Anyway, not trying to tell you that is what you should do, just that those are available options.

At 46 it does happen, it is just not as likely.  But if this is what you want and your Dr. say's to keep trying, I would keep trying!  You may very well be one of the lucky ones.  All the best to you.