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11wks 5day *vent*
Just went in for my 1st trimester check up and was told that my baby has a deformity and now im left with the decision of continuing the pregnancy or not :(
Give the baby a chance!!! :)
If it was co joined twins would you be having these same thoughts. They have similar risks and around the same amount of surgeries needed to correct. It may not be as bad as it looks on the ultrasound. Be patient and give the baby a chance. I hope things work out for you and your baby... our thoughts are with you...
Thank you everyone... Im feeling better after putting it in God's hands what ever the out come I can only trust in God that he will see me and my family through it all
God makes no mistakes, your precious baby will be just fine.
Make sure to get another U/S they can show some crazy things that aren't actually there at times. Praying for you!!
Getting more than one or two doctor's opinions might be a good idea too. Don't give up hope yet. And my personal view, if the child would have a life of suffering, then is it srkfisg or selfless to continue the pregnancy?
My mom was told I would have severe facial deformities that would affect my ability to communicate and eat. I turned out perfectly healthy and with a very normal face :) . Granted this was 30 years ago, but you never know. Is it worth it to terminate and always wonder what if, or carry him to term and get to spend what time he has with him? I know this must be heartbreaking for you.
My deepest sympathies. Only you know what you're able to handle. Know you are in my thoughts.
Thank you for your prayers and I have Googled it (which I know i shouldn't have) and found that most babies like this are either still born or dont live but for a few days after birth . So I ask myself what do I do 5 months (because of other reasons I will be delivered at 38 weeks) from now when I give birth to a still born or to my baby for him to only live for a few days? But then again who I'm i to not give him a chance ? And yes I have 3 other children this baby would be a "Irish twin" to my 4 month old. I just know that this will be the longest week of my life...
I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. You must feel devastated. I think getting a little more information and testing to confirm is a good idea. But I would like to add there is a lot to consider here. Multiple surgeries are dangerous, expensive, and time consuming. Then there is the possibility of a life long necessity for additional care. You may need to make your home handicapped accessible. This is a lot of financial and emotional stress to put on a family. I would ask the doctor to be very specific about what the child's life will look like. Then I would take a long look at finances and support systems. Do you have other children to care for? Can you take time off of work to be there for these surgeries? Do you have family that can help? This doesn't sound like a small 'imperfection' this sounds like a very serious thing that will greatly impact your life. So please don't be hard on yourself for considering not continuing the pregnancy. I really hope the doctor made a mistake and all is well. Lots of support to you no matter what you decide.
It's a tough situation and I'll be praying for you and family. Give your baby a chance..nothing in life is guaranteed, even a perfectly healthy baby might develop health issues later in life. Good luck!
I was sent off for more blood work and go back in a week for the results me and my husband do believe in miracles and I can't even wrap my head around me having an abortion because my baby won't be "perfect"...
Oh no what will you do
It was through a sono that we saw that My baby legs did not separate. If he (or she) does make it through delivery he would need countless operations
What kind of deformity does the baby have? There are many times they see something in uterine and women end up having perfectly healthy babies.So many deformities are manageable too.
I'm so sorry! Did they specify the demormity or the life long issues that would go along with it? What does your gut say?
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