How do I tell him?!?!

[MamaMia09]

So I just found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant yesterday and my 1st ob appointment is 2/11/14! This was not a planned pregnancy & I'm not sure how to let the father know. I'm 25 & he's almost 36, we've been dating for three years total, exclusively for 2 years now. He already has two children and I have one child as well. We've both expressed wanting at least one more child but not until we're married (to each other, or others) and are in better places in our lives, so I'm not exactly sure what to do or how to tell him & I'm terrified.....can someone please help me? Any advice will be greatly appreciated! Before you ask I was on birth control but due to a chronic condition I have to take antibiotics frequently and believe that may have made my birth control less effective so I REALLY was trying to prevent this.

[MamaMia09]

That is amazing that you hadn't been together that long and he could read you so well and be very supportive congratulations on baby #2 as well! I just hope my situation will work out as well as yours did lol I'm just praying that after being together this long he'll see me through this more than anything I'm just afraid of being a single mother to 2 children....he was with his ex for 15 years and she got pregnant right after they met and he stuck by her and their kids are 10 years a part!! Wish me luck and thank you for the advice!!

[starresky]

OK so you guys have been dating for awhile... It will be alright and I think he will be OK with it... From my own experience with the father of my 3rd and current baby I barely knew him and got knocked up... But before I knew I was pregnant we had spent about a month or so together... When I realized I was I had already had a pap scheduled so I wasn't gonna say anything till I got it confirmed... Before my appointment while I was at school I got a text out of nowhere asking why I hadn't started my period... All I could do was laugh and give him the news on my lunch break... For someone I really didn't know to even be a little in tune with me let me know that something's are just meant to be... That was 3 years ago and now here comes my forth and our second... Good luck and congrats!!!

[MamaMia09]

Thank You! You're very right, I just want to get through my first ob visit next week. I'm also worried because I'm a type 1 diabetic with high blood pressure so this one as my first will be a high risk pregnancy. My emotions are all over but one thing I do feel is blessed because I know there are so many deserving women out there who want to have babies as well but can't. Just going to go one day at a time.

[Veronica555]

Congratulations btw lol.

[Veronica555]

Your going to tell him anyway.  There is no need to wait and anticipate the moment. Just tell him and thats it, its for the two of you to bare. It wont be as bad as you think, it never is.

[MamaMia09]

Thanks ladies, at this point I'm hoping for the best and preparing for the worst lol! I know Valentine's day is next week so maybe I'll tell him then, I just want to be sure this is a viable pregnancy before I drop any unnecessary bombshells. I'm sure if this is fate it will all fall into place and work out the way it should.

[Rylensmommy521]

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[Rylensmommy521]

When I found out about my son I just tested the dad and told him but and again we weren't together and still not. I would honestly just come out and say it to him but in a good way. Im sure he will be fine with it. Things happen for a reason.

[ReneeM1987]

Well i know the plan has changed about waiting till marriage but you know everything happens for a reason =) anyway, maybe do something cute to tell him. I'm sure he'll be happy. Maybe make him dessert and reveal it that way.....