Am I right to be angry?

[bracojo]

Hey ladies not sure if it's the hormones or if I should be mad at this. Like most people already know I have been in the hospital for 8 weeks. We just closed on our home which I haven't gotten to see yet only on pictures last Friday. My husband has been moving since Saturday and arranging the house. He just called that a couple who we are not very close to came to visit and the wife arranged the kitchen and put all my spices away and arranged all my plates cups pots and so on. Am kinda upset Because I didn't give anybody the permission to do that. Expecially since I haven't even seen the house. I want to put stuff where I want
My kitchen and my clothes are off limit. Sorry it's long just wanted it of my chest am so upset.

[RockRose]

You have a say on everything,  honey.  It's your home.

Best wishes for the rest of your pregnancy,  and I hope it all goes well.

[bentsmommy14]

I'm very particular about everything but she was prob just trying to help so you don't come home to a boxed up kitchen you can always rearrange everything

[bracojo]

I will put all comments to consideration and rock rose you are right.am mad at the thought that I can't be okay enough to leave here to arrange my new place and ignoring the act that she did. The reason for wanting to rearrange it is that I want to get the satisfaction that I put that there and I at least have a say on something. Knowing I won't have a say on anything else. Which is kinda hard on me.

[kfw6293]

I'd feel grateful for her taking her time to help.  I'm sure I would rearrange it later. But For someone to take the time out of there day to help is awesome amd your blessed to have someone like that in your life! I'm sure she was thinking about you and thought she was doing you a nice favor while she unpacked everything.  You should get her a Thank you card or maybe take her or to lunch after u being baby home n settle in to get to know her and say thank u.

[RockRose]

Our posts crossed.

The thing is,  you CAN do your kitchen.  But for now,  temporarily,  your husband has a working house.  

It's not like she came in and rearranged the kitchen you had already arranged.  That would make me crazy.

She tried to bring some order where there was none,  and you can take your time rearranging when you would like.

[RockRose]

bracojo,  I really don't understand.  

She did you such a sweet favor,  I'm sure with the best of intentions.

Why are you so resentful?  It seems to me when you get there the chances are very high that she's arranged your kitchen in a way you might have,  with a lot of care and that things are placed in a way that they "flow".  

Why are you determined to place all the things in a different order?

This isn't permanent.  It's not like she came in and sold your baby furniture and put stuff in that she wanted.  She sweetly unpacked so your husband has a set up kitchen.  

I really am trying to understand why you feel so violated.  Maybe it's because you can't be there and you're sick and damn tired of being in the hospital.  :(

[bracojo]

I do appreciate what she did but I would have rather she didn't. I wanted to do the kitchen no matter how long it will take.

[bracojo]

Rock rose I understand what you mean but this is also a woman who I don't know much. She has only visited me one other time. Maybe if it was my mother or sister or even someone I knew I would not be this upset. And now that kitchen will be the first place I will rearrange and make sure everything she arranged will be placed some where else.

[RockRose]

So you've been in the hospital for 8 weeks,  and when you get out you'll have a brand new born with you?

Honestly,  I think you owe this woman a huge debt of gratitude.  It's not like she picked your appliances and countertops - she unpacked so your husband has a working home right now,  and you can come home and arrange your kitchen at your leisure.

Unless I am misunderstanding something,  I really can't imagine being upset.  I think you owe her a big favor in the future.

[Halynka]

I'm sure friends meant well. I like things certain way too.  I just want to say if it was me I would still rearrange things later at least u won't have to unpack boxes later.

[bracojo]

Am glad am not as crazy as I thought. My husband does not see why am upset. Yes I can rearrange later. But I would have rather it was left alone these are things that can't go bad. The kitchen was the biggest part of me agreeing on us buying this house it's beautiful  and  I love to cook and probably spend more time there than any where in the house. My husband feels am being too sentimental about it.

[tat87]

I would be annoyed also, but I have friends who were in your position and so grateful for any help. Unless it was my mom, I would probably have my husband leave it untouched lol. My mom and I are organization freaks.

[JamieNVance]

Ya id be pissed. The kitchen is my place so my hubby would know not to let anyone touch my stuff. Plus couldnt it have waited so you could do it? I get that they r trying to be nice and help but thats weird. It only makes u feel less a part of the whole thing im sure.

[2cherubsntwingirls]

I too am very particular about my kitchen, and look forward to setting it up after a move, so I understand. But I am sure your friend had only the best intentions while doing it. Knowing when you come home you will likely have a newborn taking your time and you will be exhausted. And not be able to relax until you are all settled, I  sure she was just trying to take something off your plate. Sorry you have been in the hospital and are missing the adventure of moving. Take care