I'm 34 wks and mine is still not ready :( my brother told me it didn't set in for him until the baby was born!!! So frustrating!!
We had set up 2 appointments to abort, first time I couldn't do it, second time he didn't have the money to. So I told him you have 2 weeks because I'm not aborting after 11 weeks. When I know in 2 weeks he's moving into his new place and he has his bills to pay. Is that wrong of me?
When they see the baby usually.
No if you don't want to abort your baby you don't have to. It's your baby just as much his.Let him walk if he chooses to, but abortion is something you have to live with always and only you know how that would personally affect you.
I think you feel wrong because you know this is something you don't want to do. You don't make and appointment and "couldn't do it" because of money or because dad isn't ready, etc. Be honest with yourself hun and recognize regardless of his readiness that YOU are a mother now and YOU have to be ready whether he sticks around or not. Usually men do not bond with the child until baby is born. Not always the case but maybe this is the case. This is a decision you need to make regardless of his opinions, money or readiness to be a father. SIngle moms have been raising children for years. It's competely possible to be a good single mom and have a normal child. It isn't the american dream but you have to do what is best for you child. Consider adoption maybe..?
My dad has 3 kids, 31, 26 & 13 & he still claims he's not ready. Ready or not, he's going to be a daddy & he'll love your baby to pieces. No worries mama, its an awesome, terrifying thing to create life. A little trepidation is in order.
My husband isn't quite accepting yet...and I'm almost at 10weeks. Though, hearing the heart beat and seeing the baby in scans it will all start to become real to him....
It really took my hubby til he could feel our son kicking to really hit him. After first it was total fear and stress now its all smiles and wishing our son was here already. I wouldn't change a thing and neither would he. Be sure of your decision before you do something you can't change.
Im due in 3 weeks and mine still isnt ready, he is definitely going to be one of thoes who isnt ready and doesnt really understand it until the baby is born
I think you need to just stand up and decide what you want to do, if your going to keep your baby or not and stop worrying about him! Men are useless when it comes to pregnancy.
Whether he is ready or your not ready, please consider adoption vs abortion. That baby inside you already has a heartbeat and is living! There are so many women that would kill to carry their own child and can't and would love a newborn to adopt!!