I read portions of my baby book (your pregnancy, week by week) to my hubby so that he understands what I'm going through, I always place emphasis on chapters about affection and sex, for example how the baby can't be hurt be hurt by it, so that he knows I'm not just making stuff up. I think the key is to have an open dialogue. Let him know the lack of affection bothers you and that you just want to feel special sometimes. With my hubby the issue is that he gets so stressed out he can't get an erection, so we sit down and talk through his worries and write things down so that he can see our plans on paper and it usually works to calm him down. Maybe try going on a little date? I'm not even saying like dinner and a movie, just going to sit down in your favorite fast food place and try to connect like you used to. Even going for walks together can help rebuild that affection.
Men are complete creeps! Lol My last pregnancy my fiance stopped having sex with me when I got bigger and he gave me some silly excuse about not wanting to hurt the baby... it really brought down myself esteem. Not like he was really affectionate towards me either. He didn't make me feel special being pregnant with his first child whom he wanted. I already had one of my own. I think he made my pregnancy worst. I was messed up emotionally and mentally. I am determined not to let his attitude towards me mess up my mood this time around. I have a feeling he's going to be worst because this one wasn't planned.
My partner doesn't want to have sex since i got big. But he still gives me lots of attention. Well....it is more like he give me AND the baby attention. But i like it. :)
Talk to him. I feel worried sometimes about things and i just ask him straight. Last night i was thinking if he is going to have enough love for me after the baby born....he sayd i was silly and he never going to love me less :)