FIX IT JESUS .... ( advice needed )

[Ohh_Baby]

I think I mentioned in a post before that I left my self ex. I even kicked the poor man out of the room for when Im in labor ( I really don't need the extra drama ) well lately ive been thinking about atleast inviting him & his family to the baby shower. I really dnt want to see him BUT im atleast trying to rational. Only thing is he's gonna swear that I want him back BUT I DONT. He can kicks rocks for all I care. What should I do??

[3rdtime_mum]

*his

[Ohh_Baby]

He's not that understanding. I'll probably just reach out to his brothers who I am pretty close w/ to invite his mom & sister, but leave him out. Idk what to just alot of thinking. One minute its yes , then I get mad & its no again

[shaelouisebubba1]

If I were in your shoes I'd invite him and his family but make it very clear where you stand. That you don't want him back and if he tries anything he will be asked to leave immediately. I'd try to establish some form of a co-parenting relationship before babys here just so things go a little smoother.

[3rdtime_mum]

I would just invite him parents and family, and let them invite him.

[Ohh_Baby]

Exactly!!! Thats why Im a little apprehensive about inviting him. If he puts coaching over my child one more time. He'll be talking to my lawyer discussing child support , visitation, & drop off locations through a mutual party bc i'll be officially done.  

[BritNyabuto]

Wow...I would be laughing to keep from crying too!
It's not like his schedule isn't slightly more flexible that it would truly keep him from being there...IF HE REALLY WANTED

[Ohh_Baby]

Thanks britnyabuto I feel the same ! He's a basketball coach & teacher & his excuse was his court had to be waxed.. REALLY?? Waxing floors over seeing your baby for the first time... REALLY?? All civilization left then...


Im laughing as I type this bc reading his excuse is just plain ridiculous... Im so mad I had to laugh to keep from crying!  

[Ohh_Baby]

No sweetie im not selfish. Ive done alot of sacrificing for him. Me not dealing w/ him for the remainder of this pregnancy is my way of coping. He can't have his cake & eat it too. & I am not the type to hover a guy. If he's not putting forth an effort to be here then Im not either. & ne inviting him to MY baby shower is just a nice gesture for his family. I could care less if he showed up

[BritNyabuto]

By sounds of it...I wouldn't want to deal with him either... Try the civil thing but honestly I don't think it will work, if he really wanted to be there for the sono he would move mountains to do so. Invite him, if he shows he shows...if not, oh well.
Though, technically you don't have to deal with him...when the baby is born just don't put him on the birth certificate...
Good luck with dealing with him and hoping he will at least be civil.

[yolvonlee]

Wow you don't want to deal with the guy for about 5 months. Sounds really selfish of you to me. I mean he must of really peed in your Cheerios.

[Ohh_Baby]

Idk . Im just really not to fond of the idea, bc I tried it all. He even missed the first ultrasound because he so say had to wrk. He's also mad that im not changing my next ultrasound when I find out the gender to accomodate him. At this point Im tired of meeting his needs. Im the one pregnant, he should be meeting mine.

[ThY_MrS_Decker]

I would let him be a part and see how he does if he doesn't treat the baby wright or is in and out then you could do something else

[Ohh_Baby]

& i gave him the co parenting speech he's so caught in himself he just doesn't want to listen

[Ohh_Baby]

Im not stopping him from being a father , I just dnt want to deal w/ him for the next 5 mnths. I just want a little peace & quiet before I have to deal w/ him for the nxt 20 some odd years or so

[luka_n_baby2]

Its his baby to and if he wants to be involved I think you should let him. Remind him you are not trying to get back together with him but trying to set up a good co-parenting relationship. Baby deserves to have both as long as he cares and isn't a complete loser. If you are comfortable having him at the shower I would try it. At least you can say your being civil about the situation