Family's Disappointment Of Gender

[AprilBabe26]

So my side of the family were all thrilled to hear we are having a girl, my husband's side is clearly still disappointed. Last night we were paid a visit from my husband's grandma & when he went outside to look at her car which wasn't running properly, she asked if he was still disappointed about our first not being a boy. We found out at 16 weeks & are now 28 weeks along & honestly at first he was really upset & it just broke my heart. Now he's excited for our baby again & picking out little pink camo things but it seems like every time we're around his family this issue is brought up. His mother came right out & said she'd wished it was a boy & last night his granmda was going on about how nice it would've been if ours & his cousin's (due soon haven't found out gender) were boys & she's really hoping at least the cousin's baby is.
How flippin rude is this?? Just hurts, I can't believe these people can't just be happy our child is healthy! I want to tell them all to just stay away from her if her having a uterus is such a damn problem!!

[AprilBabe26]

Rng2006- I'm so sorry to hear that! My husband didn't walk out but he immediately got irritated & was very short while paying. My little sister was so excited, he yelled at her in front of my mother to get in the truck & the only thing he said was that the only girl name he liked was that of his highschool friend (first love, though unreciprocated, he still has an obvious crush on her). He didn't want to call his parents like we planned on & wanted to go straight home. I cried the entire way. He also ruined that very special day!
His mother has told everyone how disappointed she is from the second we told her. I can't believe people! It hurts my heart that we are both going through such similar things right now. My husband is coming around more but even last night he made a comment about how the next one better be a boy. We are so blessed to have a healthy baby growing & I feel she's being taken for granted by people that are supposed to love her unconditionally! Truly is sad but like you said I hope too that people come around!! Shame on them if they don't. Good luck & congrats on your princess!

[Rng2006]

I'm going thru the same thing with my hubby and his family. Honestly it's pushing me away from him and tearing us apart. We just found out a few days ago that we ago re having a girl and he ruined that day for me. He literally walked out of the sonogram room as soon as they said it's a girl. I was heartbroken as well. He acted this way in front of our daughter, my mom and nd his mom. Of course his mom feeds off of his negativity and left with him. The two of them went out side "to get air". I swear they acted like they had just heard of someone's death. They don't want to talk about the baby, if I show any excitement my hubby just ignores me. He hasn't told anyone the news. It's like he is ashamed. I think he is acting like a 3 year old that didn't get his way. At this point I'm pissed. Our baby being healthy is reason enough to celebrate.  My family is excited even tho they had hoped for a boy. It's our baby and she is a blessing no matter what. I don't understand how he doesn't see that. It boggles my mind because he is an amazing father to our daughter. Hopefully our families come around. Good luck to u!

[DionneandJacauri]

I know that's right!!! It will be their loss not yours people are so rude and when you give them a taste of their own medicine they act as if they never said or did anything wrong smh shame on them

[AprilBabe26]

Thank you all for the support. I'm sure they'll act like they never said a thing once she's here! Or she'll be on the back burner if his cousin's baby is a boy. They are so opposite from my family. If they don't want as much to do with her than she's a bit lucky because I don't want their negative influences on her anyway! Either way I'm excited to love on her & she'll never be deprived of affection!!

[wyattsmom2015]

I would be offended and trust me I have been. I had five girls before this baby, we are happy that this is a boy. Although I thought it was very rude of my husband's family to assume they had a right to comment on all of our girls not being boys. His mom kept saying oh if it is a boy you can name it after him (my husband) she got offended when she found out that we would not be doing so. She kept saying what's wrong with his name I had to flat out tell her she named her son and he is not a Jr so I have every right to name my child what I want. Bet she is real mad now we are having a boy, I would not know cause we have not spoken to her in a few years. Good luck honey and don't worry about what they say and I say if you feel you need to make the comment about them staying away because her uterus seems to be a problem for them, then go for it. Lol funniest thing I think I ever heard. Wish I would have thought of it.

[monuhm]

In the beginning of my pregnancy I had women coming to me over and over saying how they hoped it had a boy because girls were awful.  I don't understand the ignorance.

[jannahmre06]

What's even worse tho is when mom's are upset about the gender. ..a baby is a blessing:)

[jannahmre06]

Yea it's very rude. Pray your baby healthy and whatever baby is you should love it regardless!  Exactly why didn't find out, bc i know some people on my husband's side might want a certain gender over the other, and i didn't want ti be brought down by them. Sorry you're going thru that, but congrats on your girl that is so exciting! :)

[AprilBabe26]

Thanks that's exactly how I feel. All babies are blessings, I would've been happy either way! Just can't believe they're still harping on this! It really is sad. He's so close to his family it doesn't even faze him-"oh they love her they don't mean it like that" he says. Yea. Clearly. Then they shouldn't be saying stuff like that I'm sick of hearing it!

[dorkiemama83]

Omg seriously.. they should be thankful that your pregnant!!! Blessed to have a boy or a girl.

[sush_123]

Seriously these ppl r samples. Girl or boy how does it matter. It will b a cute lil bundle of joy. How can some resist their affection based on gender. U don't feel upset let them b disappointed. U enjoy . Lots of love to the cutie inside ur tummy.

[francadp]

I'm sorry to read this.

[francadp]

I'm sorry to read this.

[kitcat2015]

I would tell them straight up if they don't want a beautiful healthy little girl in their lives, then they just need to say the word and you will make it happen.  Either they want the joy of her in their lives or they don't.  Your little girl should be surrounded by people who love her, not those who wishes she were a boy.

[Secondbaby_2015]

Don't worry, karma is real and they will all feel stupid when they see how gorgeous your baby girl is. Just stay away from negativity and focus on your bundle of joy with your hubby :)

[MF1205]

I am having the 15th grand baby. There are 13 boys and 1 girl. I already have 4 boys and my family is insane about this one and how it better be a girl! I personally dont mind either way but they are making me not want to find out. Im trying to avoid all of the negativity if it is another boy.

[mommaDof3]

Ya that's pretty rude. I would just nor expect anything from them when it comes to your daughter. It's going to rough if the other baby ends up being a boy. It's sad to think about :(