Feeling very alone

[Mrs_yensen]

I'm 10+3 with my 2nd child. My husband and I have been together for 5+years.

This pregnancy has been pretty easy other than a depression that I can't seem to pick myself up out of. My husband doesn't understand, and tends to get frustrated with me. The last couple days have been hard because he's found a new game on his phone and he seems to get lost in it...literally for hours. Its during those times where he loses complete awareness of what is going on around him and doesn't even acknowledge my existence. When he finally puts his phone down he realizes I'm upset, and when I tell him why, he acts like he was only playing for a couple minutes.

I get frustrated because I don't feel like he's actually understanding where I'm coming from. He says he wants to be supportive, but that I have to remember that I'm a little more emotional these days than normal, and that I should take it easy on him. How about actually being supportive and meet in me where I am for once???

I'm feeling pretty lonely and down, and we just got into an argument about it. I don't really ha e a question, just needed to vent because I don't really have anyone else I can vent to.

[rhi2014]

Brake or hide that damn phone and watch him freak!! Jk but seriously i hate when people are addicted to their phones.

[jojobeaner]

Early on in my pregnancy (I'm 29 weeks now) I definitely had moments like that with my husband. Not to say he didn't try, but often I felt he didn't try hard enough to understand the emotional hormonal roller coaster that I was on. I felt either depressed or angry 90% of the time.

However now it's a lot better and I chalked a lot of that up to hormones and my body going haywire, so he's much more understanding and caring than he was before.

It's an adjustment for you both even if you have been through it before.

All you can do is tell him how you feel, he may not totally understand but what worked for me was telling him "you don't HAVE to fully understand it, I'm not expecting you too, but I'm hurting and you are kind of hurting my feelings by not taking it seriously, and that makes it worse".

[abcqueen86]

I can relate to you so much. I feel like my boyfriend gets lost in his phone when were together and he acts as though its fine. I have to ask him to spend time with me and half the time he'll tell me in a minute because hes on his phone. Its been really hard and the hormones make it unbarable.

[joliemoley]

I feel you! My husband has been working full time while finishing up his PhD. He works ALL day then comes home to study. We recently moved to a new state 1600 miles away from my friends and family. The feeling of being lonely stinks. Hang in there! Maybe you guys can schedule a date night :)