Freaking out. HELP

[Camsmommy9995]

Okay, so today my baby daddy told me that if I file child support on him, then he will take me to court for harassing/threatening him the whole 7 months i've been pregnant so far. I've said horrible things to him, from telling him he will never see his daughter..to actually telling him to kill himself. I only said those things because I was so hurt about him leaving me..he pretty much made it clear that if we go to court, I will loose and he will get full custody because not only do I have a mental illness, but i've also sent him pictures of md cutting myself while pregnant. And yes I know I sound crazy, but this has been a VERY difficult pregnancy seeing I have had no support from my BD whatsoever. Should I fole child support or refrain because I don't want him to get custody of her..somebody please help.

[expecting6thbaby]

It is very unlikely for a mother born with mental illness to get post partium. Depression. If a mentally ill mother hurts her child they developed mental illness as an adult or they liked to hurt things or people as a child..  with her self mutilation. She was likely born with mental illness. Since that. Is. A childhood or teenage development.  And about 70-80 percent of self harmers would not hurt someone else. There is a difference between normal mental illness and being a phycopath. There is nothing wrong with being crazy and crazy can be smart and productive.   People with mental illness just handle emotions differently. Just because she wants to hurt the guy who walked out on her does not mean she is harmful to others. My advise stands the same I have experience with mental illness.. my mom and most of my family have it.... the only person who knows if that baby is safe is her... if she thinks that baby is unsafe with. Her she should give it up. But she may be a great mom... my mom was as crazy as it gets she. Tried to kill her self and any guy that did her wrong but I could not have had a better mom. She never hit me and stood by me. She was skitso...

[Mreeah]

You have a mental illness and are not worried about postpartum depression?
You should really think about helping yourself . I used to be a cutter, angry, depressed, suicidal, and i wouldnt of been able to take care of another person. Ive heard so many stories of mamas in jail because theyve killed their child! You may not have depression now but it could come up with all this stress & being a new mom...

[expecting6thbaby]

Don't worry crazy... they will not take your baby away... they always lean to the mom even if she is crazy... but help your self by taking away his leverage... admit that you need to work stuff out and find a Dr.... tell the Dr that you would like to wait till the baby is born to take meds.... but get into therapy with a Dr so when baby come you can get meds... then when he tries to pull the your crazy you can say you are under the care of a Dr and are a good mother and you never intended on hurting yourself why pregnant you were just dealing with stress and the emotions. I have my own issues theyvrun in my family and I have a Dr.... my husband crys to pull the crazy card with me to when he don't get his way but he has no leverage I know the laws and I am in the care of a Dr..  as long as you don't threaten the baby or harm baby they won't take baby. If you already have said something bad about baby trying to scare him.  If the court says something say it was stress he put on you by abandoning you and the baby in you time of need and you will never hurt the baby and ask if they have lost their mind's...  you don't have to fight like that with him.. you have that baby and you can make him miserable... file for child support and when he don't pay put him in jail.... there is no need in being sad enough to hurt your self when you have a baby to think about...

[NoahEthan]

You sound very stressed & I think you should talk to your doctors & relatives and always keep in mind God has everything under control. He got you if no one else does. This is my first baby & though sometimes I get stressed I tend to talk to my baby,because when I'm low he's my soul & energy. Don't ever depend on a guy. Either he be there or don't. There's a lot of single moms that do what they have to do & take care of there responsibily by themselves. I really think you should keep calm & relax .. Talk to your baby more. & don't forget your living for 2. And your health affects your baby stay strong. And take it 1 day at a time!

[mamabear8911]

Honesty he could take your baby away for fear of endangerment of his baby. Maybe you should stop harassing him and sending threats that could back fire on you. I know hes a jerk for leaving you and it hurts but you and your child deserve better than him.  You two can coparent. No need to be dating. You should go see a psychologist to work out your feelings and get mental help you need,  so when u file for child support and take that prick to court you can prove you got help and it's under control.  Go see a lawyer too

[BriannaLeigh]

I believe that you should seek mental help, and then go for custody. If they see that you are seeking help and possibly on medication I do not believe they will hold it against you. Good luck, I hope you find happiness :/

[Mari004]

Before your child is born speak to your doc about what you have been feeling and go from there that way your bd cant hold anything over your head then seek out a lawyer. I know what you are going thru sort of I once was a self harmer but I chose to drink and by the grace of God my child was born healthy.  I'm going to pray for you everyone needs prayer so may God bless you and your child

[jessicamae79]

Unlike most people I understand self harm as I am a a self harmer myself it is hard to over come and know the difference between self harm and suicide attempts self harmers are NOT a danger to others and use self harm as a coping skill that is unhealthy but rarely fatal momma if you need to talk pm me I have been there hugz good luck mommy

[BABYDOLL774]

I'm truly alarmed that you would cut yourself while being pregnant. You could get a really bad infection in your blood or in general. I kinda don't blame the Dad for leaving you, you do sound crazy. A lot of us have had extremely difficult pregnancies with baby daddies out whatever, but to harm yourself and potentially your unborn child is ridiculous! Please seek some help and I'm not talking about a lawyer. Don't mean to be rude or anything but you have more to think about than yourself now. Please think twice before doing something like that again and ask yourself if it's worth it! Best of luck to you

[laurenmichelle0425]

Right now, lets focus on the most important thing....and that is the health of your baby and your health. Do you have a psychiatrist?  Do you need to vent other things out? You can personal message me if you want. We are all here to support each other. I dont like to see a distressed momma. Prayers to you my dear. I have faith that everything will work out perfectly.  Lets get you well first :)

[CallmeCarrie]

I agree that it would be best to ask a professional. I'm concerned that the cutting makes you danger to self, and if you've threatened him and he has proof then you're danger to others and a judge could frown on that. Please just think of your baby and do what's best for it. You say you have mental health illness,  are you following up with your psychiatrist?I wish you peace and that you may stop cutting.

[Novembermommy1104]

You should talk to a professional .....meaning a lawyer. But what I will say is that it takes A LOT for a mother to get her baby taken away. And its obvious that he would only be black mailing you. If he was that worried about the safety if his baby while you were acting crazy he should of brought it to someone's attention then, anyone with a brain will see that. A judge may order you to seek the care of a mental health professional which is fine, don't let him hold shi t over your head. Best of luck !