Frustrated with society!

[BambinoMiracle]

So I'm totally in the interest of remaining positive but this has been bugging me basically since I got pregnant, and it gets worse with each passing week.

I used to be a super social butterfly and talk to everyone and just was very outgoing and always the bubbly one. Well I'm still that way with my closest few girlfriends, but I've "settled down" and mellowed out severely with age and when my man and I got serious and started to build our lives together. I'm perfectly happy and content, my goals in life are just changing and my interests including my personality have shifted. My focus is on taking care of my man, becoming a Mother and a wife and raising our family. So with that being said, I feel these changes are totally normal and should be expected during these years of our life, but I feel I have lifelong "acquaintances/family friends" prying into my every day family business. There should be a level of privacy in a family in my opinion and just because I quieted down as a person these past few years does not mean I'm unhappy, it means my life and how I carry myself is changing.

This isn't specifically related to pregnancy, but I find that some of you ladies are going through similar situations and can relate. I feel like I'm constantly having to justify my life and my choices to people who have known me for years. Am I crazy for being bothered by this? Just trying to start my family and do it right.

[chisaac]

I understand. I'm getting the same reaction even worse people are trying to tell me my husband married me for papers. But they are not in my marriage and that accusation frustrates him the most.

[dmariejj]

Thanks wish u the best and god bless you

[BambinoMiracle]

Lol that's a good goal. I have one sister and obviously my Mom. I live far away from them both but that doesn't stop them lol. Even though I've never been close with my Mom that doesn't stop her from giving her 2 cents lol. I don't blame her though, if my daughter ever tries to shut me out she'll have another thing coming! ;) more just noticing this with friends/family friends and it has been a challenge to say the least. Glad you also got through it. Best of luck Mama!

[dmariejj]

I'm 25y almost 26 I'm expecting my 3 child ND I noticed that ur mom, sisters nd friends will allways try 2 know what it's happening nd then complain about what you tell them nd then u find ur self explaining so what I did was I called them 1ce a week and just tell them hi I'm fine nd u and when ever they ask something of my life I'll change the subject it works eventually they stopped asking.  But mom's are allways nosey nd they r allways asking is just momm

[Alexis__]

Welcome (;

[BambinoMiracle]

:) thank you so much!

[Alexis__]

Yeah its a lot to take in. Being with someone and enjoying what time left you 2 have alone then getting ready for a baby, its a big change. You need to enjoy this time with your husband and rest as much as you can because once baby is here you hardly get sleep first couple of weeks. So don't stress them, do your own thing and enjoy pregnancy (: and your welcome!

[BambinoMiracle]

Thanks ladies! Alexis I feel like that's exactly what I'm going through. I'm distancing myself so that I can become a good wife and Mother. My man and I aren't married yet, but we are on that path and are going through all the motions already it seems. I'm happy with being invested in him and our daughter on the way, but you were dead on, I'm getting asked the same questions. I'm not shutting people out, my main focus is just changing and I wish other people would see that and be accepting of it opposed to questioning it. I'm sure it will fade with time I'm just frustrated with feeling that I have to justify my decisions. Thanks for letting me vent and I'm so glad I'm not the only one experiencing this. :)

[Alexis__]

When I first had my son it was the exact same thing for me. I focused on my husband and taking care of myself while pregnant and bring ready to be a wife and mom, so I know where your coming from. My mom and sister were like "your distant now, are you ok? are you happy?" and a thousand + questions I was just on overload and told them I was just trying to enjoy my pregnancy and my husband with the last time we have alone and tryna get situated in our new house too. In my opinion just focus on you and your family. don't explain to anyone. Im pregnant again and im enjoying the time with my 4 yr old son and still get texts here there like hey stranger you forgot about me and so on. don't stress it momma (:

[angrog]

if your happy it will show through. some of your friends may not stick through it with youbut your true ones will accept you for who you are at all stages.it is important to make sure you continue to keep your friendships strong though as well

[BambinoMiracle]

Very well said! Thank you! I am so thankful people care, and you're right, I could have no support which is not a good situation either. I guess I just want people to understand that I'm happy and to stop prying lol and my focus is 100% on my family.

[BambinoMiracle]

Thank you! I'm feeling so much pressure and I just want everyone to realize I'm fine lol!

[Brooke6589]

I understand your frustration completely.. Many ppl aren't going to understand the decisions you make and the things you do simply because they're not you and are not in your situation. Especially if they haven't settled down and had kids, ect. Their jobs as your family n friends are to support you no matter what and ONLY GIVE ADVICE WHEN ASKED... lol.. Be grateful that people are concerned about you.. Some don't have that at all.. But don't feel obligated to explain yourself to everyone.. Some ppl just like to be nosey unfortunately. Don't let it bother you though! Respond to who you want to respond to and let the rest wonder. I hope things get better!

[ThY_MrS_Decker]

Don't worry about what anyone says or thinks...just focus on you and your family.