Hormones or Heartache

[mrsajstephens]

Does true love exist? Do husbands look at wives with loving admiration? The stories of old men that have lost their wives and are beside themselves everyday because it's nearly impossible to live without their best friend; are those stories really true? I get really sad sometimes, and blame it on the hormones or my unrealistic expectation of love, but I find myself yearning for that kind of relationship. My heart aches, literally aches, because whenever I see these stories or see pictures of people in love ... my heart just hurts. Am I alone in this? Is It normal for a husband to seem disinterested?

[bigmamapagaza]

True love is real. It took me a long time to find it, rather, I believe God sent it to me. Finally after a failed eight year marriage and three wonderful kids, I found my perfect man. He does everything he can to make me happy and I do the same for him. He's not perfect but perfect for me! Hang in there.  My true love happened to be 13 years older than me and a different culture. The hormones might be tossing you around so think about everything good before you make any big decisions!

[Amy1830]

The words you used in your post are so perfect and I feel exactly the same way. I daydream all the time about what it would feel like to have someone be as dedicated and loving towards me as I can be towards them. Sometimes I don't think it exists either. But then there are stories like you said about elderly people who's significant other is sick or dies and they almost can't go on. My mom just told me a story about her neighbor just like that. And I think to myself wow, my fiancé would be totally over it in like a couple months. You would think bringing another life into the world would draw two people together in such love and awe, but in my case and it sounds like yours, it's not that way. I feel cheated and sad. I'm sorry you're going thru your situation too. I don't know your specific circumstances but I just wanted to let you know that I feel exactly the way you sound like you feel.

[tabatha_nunes]

My husband and i are far from perfect but together we have a wonderful relationship. I truely married my soulmate and he feels the same way. We dont fight or anything like that. And we talk about everything. Sometimes we even question why were so good n then we realize that we dont let anything get to us if we have a problem we always discuss it. I never thought relationships could be like that either until i realized i was in one. I couldnt imagine going a day without seeing him. And i think my husband is more excited about the baby than.me..only cuz im about over being pregnant lol i think the most important thing is that we are eachothers best friends and that makes a big difference we dont truely having anyone except eachother and we apperciate that within eachother. Sorry its so long!

[esmeralda_panther]

I honestly don't think this would really exist. N I don't think it's my pregnancy hormones. But just like kesky said, I love him for who he is.... there's no perfect relationships either. I hope u get me. But I do understand what your trying to say.

[mrsajstephens]

It's not me being pregnant. It's just our relationship and now, having a child, I think- do I want this person in my children's life when he had such a bad temper and says such hurtful things or do I choose to do it alone? ...

[KMahoney2112]

I think we as women expect men to have a similar reaction to pregnancy that we do. My husband is not a super emotional person, and I definitely feel the excitement is one sided. However he told me that he is excited, but he's also terrified, plus its easy to forget that I'm pregnant since its still early in the pregnancy. I've heard that women fall in love with their baby when they find out they are pregnant, but men fall in love when they see the child. Give him a chance to process and you might be surprised at his emotions when they finally show through.

[mrsajstephens]

It does help. I don't know. I guess I want to be in a relationship with someone who moons over me as much as I do them. I just don't know if that really exists or not.

[mrsajstephens]

It does help. I don't know. I guess I want to be in a relationship that someone moons over me as much as I do them. I just don't know if that really exists or not.

[kesky]

Don't know if that helps you, but, it's how I feel about it-
;o)

[kesky]

I hear what you're saying and I think that those kind of relationships do exist, but everyone is different! So every relationship is different! Would I like my husband to moon over me, sure, but he's not that way... he is who he is and I love him for who he is, which happens to be someone that doesn't moon or gets disinterested.. but I love HIM, not who I want him to be. I try to remember that when I find myself wanting something else.