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2 babys due in the family and feeling lost
I have recently found out my brother is having a baby too, 5 days before I am in April so not only do I feel like the excitement has gone from me having my first child I have always wanted to name the baby after my grandad as he has been like my best friend in life and I have always been so close to him and he passed away last year but before I had the chance to announce the name I have chosen, my brother said that he is naming his child after grandad now I feel like I've lost that too :-( i said to my mum how I felt and she looked at me like I'm just a jealous cow. Am I just being pathetic? I don't want any other name for my child but I can't have it, what can I do l? X
If he uses grandpa's name as a first, u can use as a middle or vice versa. Or use grandpa's middle as ur sons first.
I'm due April 30th and my sister is due May 1st. We are a day apart!
My daughter and my nephew are 3 days apart. Me and his girlfriend were due the same day so I know the feeling.. you can possibly use your grandfathers middle name or part of his name? I know how it feels to be jealous I've been in those shoes and honestly still am, I always feel like my nephew comes first but it's something you get over quickly..
When I eventually announce in a few weeks I will be stealing two peoples thunder. My first cousin announced her first pregnancy in august and judging from her attitude since is going to be less than thrilled when I make the same announcement next month. The one I am the most worried about is my little sister because my baby is due the day of her wedding. Not only will I not be able to go because it is to far to travel but my parents will be in an awkward position as this is the first grandchild. Any advice on how to make the announcement?
Your totally not alone! I struggled with fertility issues and my younger brother got pregnant with his girlfriend by accident on the pill! I got pregnant after trying for about two years and very nervous about the pregnancy. My brother and sister in law got married shortly after I found out and they announced they were pregnant shortly after me. I felt totally devastated having tried and waited so long for my special moment. I didn't even get to announce things myself because both my mom and mother in law told everyone. So I completely understand you wait for your special moment and it's gone so quickly because others. I have gotten to the point where I am happy for everyone but most. Important is my husband and I love our little one already. My sister in law just had her baby and I will have mine in 5 months then a month later my sister in law will have hers.
I feel you. My sister in law everytime we do anything has to one up us. We had our son in 2003 but she just got married because she had to catch up to my husband(literally her husband 8months before that was not if he was the last man on earth would I marry him). Well four months after I got pregnant with my daughter she got pregnant and had a girl. Then two years later she got pregnant so they could have a boy because she has some crazy jealousy issue with my son. Well she ended up with a girl. Then about two years ago she knew we were trying again and miracle she got pregnant and it was her boy so her husband had a vasectomy. Well long story short her baby boy died at 9 months due to the fact they don't watch their children well enough. At that point I had given up getting pregnant several months before that. Well th is spring break I found out I was pregnant and my husband accidentally told her before we were going to announce it that we were pregnant. She wouldn't even talk to us besides to tell us it better not be a boy and dont expect her to come to baby shower. Well in the mean time she decided she needed a baby boy after telling everyone she'd never do this.she started doing treatments for IVF and when they went to put the embryos in last week the only one that was healthy was a girl embryo which she had to be talked into putting in her. Ironic in my mind. Well shes decided to announce it all over Facebook that she's pregnant because she took a test and it came back positive. Still not having a heatbeat or ultrasound to prove it. I just feel she's doing this because my baby shower is next week and she wants to show up to it and be the center of attention. Little irritated probably a bit of pregnancy hormones.
Talk to your brother and his significant other and come to an agreement. Maybe you can both use your granddad's name but as a middle name. It's only fair. He probably impacted your brothers life too. You can only hope that their next ultra sound reveals that they're having a girl. Lol wishful thinking. Good luck!
I got pregnant 5 months after my brothers wife with my first, and several months before her with my second. I unfortunately miscarried, but got pregnant again when she was 10 weeks along. We joke that we have to be pregnant with each other for moral support. I love it, she's the only one who truly understands what I'm going through and doesn't chalk it up to hormones.
Thanks Guys knowing that I'm not the only one feeling a bit hormonal about baby's lime light but I do understand about the name thing maybe I can settle with a middle name, my brother lives in another town but I love him to bits we are a very close family I would never want to take the pride of naming his potential son after a man I'm so proud to call my grandad my brother has been through a lot and this is his first baby too, thanks for the advise ladies good luck in all your pregnancies xx
In my husband's culture, multiple children in the same extended family may be named after the same person.
I'm sure his wife has another name she would like. Just explain to him you have wanted that name forever. Girls do that, boys don't
I thought i was the only who felt like this..i know what your going through. .my sister has 2 kids a boy and girl anf me and my husband had a hard time getting pregnant for 5 year ..every time i goy pregnant she was pregnant to and i end in a miscarriage while she would have a healthy child and show him and her off. And when i want to hold the new baby she would not let me get close ...i was so sad..this time i got pregnant and so my thank god my pregnancy is going well i am 24 weeks and happy and i just found out she is pregnant again with a third child. Her son is not even 2. I felt like the spotlight has been taken off of me. I know i sound selfish but i cant help it she took the girl name i wanted and the boy now i am lost and dont know what to name my child. Its hard to enjoy your pregnancy when you know that it doesn't matter anymore to anyone..but you should talk to your brother about the name and just remember that the bundled of joy coming to your family that how i get through it. Good luck
There are three of us expecting within 2 months of each other in my family & the girl due first has some of the same names picked out as us. I stupidly announced a very unique name that we would use for a girl & of course she loved it (should of kept my mouth shut!) so now I'm really upset thinking she'll probably steal it :-( my husband is convinced its a boy anyway so we'll see.
My sister in law was a pain in the *** when I got pregnant. I got pregnant before her and she was all.down and upset because she wanted the first grandchild in the family. Then when we both found out we were having boys she was all upset because she thought mine would be the favorite because he is first. Honestly I thought she was being kind of a baby about it. But I know hormones make us nuts so when I overheard her telling her grandma how mad she was that her brother was having a baby first, I said "listen, it doesn't matter who is first. They are both going to be the most loved babies in the world and they are going to have so much fun playing at Christmas and Easter and all the holidays! We should be glad that they are close in age and will be best friends!" I think she felt better. On the name thing, apparently my brother wanted my dad's mom's name and I never knew and I had that name planned for me too,but I decided just to use it as a middle name. Even though he doesn't even have kids yet. Sometimes we have to compromise and it ***** but in the end it won't even matter! And those precious babies will be so cute and loved and have cousins close in age!you guys will have a blast!
Well my boyfriends sister is due the same day as I am I was a little upset because she announced it right away I felt It took the excitement from my announcement but I'm ok with it now and happy for her ! The name thing I can understand ur frustrated but in the end it's only a name and your grandfather I'm sure wouldn't want you to be so upset with something so silly ... Wait to find out for sure what you are all having sometimes ultrasounds can be wrong and so can intuition if it is that your both having boys talk with your brother and maybe you can understand he may feel just as strongly about the name maybe you could compromise there are other ways to go about it ....
I can't relate to the naming thing but I have two cousins that are due around the time I am due...a month before and two months after. When I heard about my first cousin I was kind of annoyed but she's on her fourth and this is my first so I know that people will be just as excited about my child. When my other cousin got pregnant after me my hormones were going crazy because it's her first as well so I feel like we're going to be vying for attention. Names didn't even come up in my mind so I hope she doesn't take the ones that I want! I would try talking to your brother if it means that much to you. Maybe you could both name your boys the same, but one gets a nickname so that it's easier when they are together? I'm so sorry that this is happening to you.
Hopefully his baby is late and/or ur early. So u can give the baby ur grandpas name. Thats if talking to ur brother doesnt workout
Do you see your brother that often? you could both name your sons after grandpa if it is so important to you. just talk to your brother and see if you can work it out.
A couple months after I announced I was pregnant with the first grandbaby, my sister announced she was pregnant. It was no longer about me and my baby but us and our babies. My son had 3 months to himself before my nephew was born. At first I felt like all of my son's thunder was stolen bc it was about "the boys." They are 4 now and I couldn't be happier that my son has someone so close. They are best friends, go to school together 5 days a week and go to my parents house every Sunday.
As for the name, that's really hard. First of all, definitely explain your feelings to your brother and how hurt you are. If things cannot be resolved, try hard not to be bitter...I know easier said than done. Maybe you could use the name as a middle name? Good luck.
As for the name, that's really hard. First of all, definitely explain your feelings to your brother and how hurt you are. If things cannot be resolved, try hard not to be bitter...I know easier said than done. Maybe you could use the name as a middle name? Good luck.
I totally can understand since I am currently pregnant along with my niece and first cousin; however, look on the bright side...your baby with have a cousin to grow up with and the babies will only make family gatherings more fun and an excuse to have them more often. I know that you're brother is using your grand dad's name but maybe if you have a boy too...he can share the root name of grandpa but with a twist so that his name is still a reflection of grandpa. Also, more than likely hormones could be contributing to you feeling this way so try and remind yourself of this so that you won't get too bummed ; however, I don't think that this is something you should divulge with anyone because they may not understand that pregnancy brings out "temporary hormonal insanity" and long after the babies are born they will still label you as possibly jealous/selfish because that's what it looks and sounds like even though I know you dont mean it that way...I understand but I don't think family. So in the meantime just enjoy your pregnancy and get excited about all of the joyous changes that are about to occur in your life because once you hold that little baby...nothing else in the world will even matter...not a name or who else had a baby because all you will see is your joy in your arms :-) .
Congrats and best wishes!!
Congrats and best wishes!!
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So You Are Not Alone! I'm In A Similar Situation And I'm Sorry About Your Name Conflict. My Aunt Had Her Baby Girl (First) Two Weeks Ago. She's Forty Ish. I An 27, Having My First Next week. Very, Very, VeryAwkward. I Had No 'Thunder' OfMy Own (PregnancyWas Unplanned) SoHer Pregnancy Was Celebrated, MineWas Not. There's Really Not Much You Can Do, Just remember, Everyone Loves Babies, Everyone. Your Baby Will Bask in The Love And Attention Of Your Family When He Arrives. Maybe You'll Have Bragging Rights Of Either Having A Harder Or Easier Labor Than Brothers Baby Toaster ;)
As For The Name: Are You Guys Close? Either Way, YouReally Need To Sit And Have A Private Discussion With Him. Maybe You Can Both Compromise And Use Grandpas Name For Each Of Your babies Middle Names. WhichI Know *****, But It's One Way To User His Name To Honor Him. My Sons Middle Name Is My Grandfathers First Name, So I'm Right There With You About Family Names. If You're Not So Close With Brother Try Talking To The Mother. Sadly, I Think The Right Choice Given The Circumstances Is That Neither Of You Should Use Grandpas NameAdd The First. Ooh Thus Is Such A tricky Situation. If YouTalk To Then And They Can't Or Won't Compromise, Heck, Name Your Son After Grandpa Anyway, And Inform Them Your Intention To Do So, Unless A Compromise Haa Been Reached.
I Know It'S Not The Greatest Advice, But You Are Not entirely Alone. Hang In There Mama
So You Are Not Alone! I'm In A Similar Situation And I'm Sorry About Your Name Conflict. My Aunt Had Her Baby Girl (First) Two Weeks Ago. She's Forty Ish. I An 27, Having My First Next week. Very, Very, VeryAwkward. I Had No 'Thunder' OfMy Own (PregnancyWas Unplanned) SoHer Pregnancy Was Celebrated, MineWas Not. There's Really Not Much You Can Do, Just remember, Everyone Loves Babies, Everyone. Your Baby Will Bask in The Love And Attention Of Your Family When He Arrives. Maybe You'll Have Bragging Rights Of Either Having A Harder Or Easier Labor Than Brothers Baby Toaster ;)
As For The Name: Are You Guys Close? Either Way, YouReally Need To Sit And Have A Private Discussion With Him. Maybe You Can Both Compromise And Use Grandpas Name For Each Of Your babies Middle Names. WhichI Know *****, But It's One Way To User His Name To Honor Him. My Sons Middle Name Is My Grandfathers First Name, So I'm Right There With You About Family Names. If You're Not So Close With Brother Try Talking To The Mother. Sadly, I Think The Right Choice Given The Circumstances Is That Neither Of You Should Use Grandpas NameAdd The First. Ooh Thus Is Such A tricky Situation. If YouTalk To Then And They Can't Or Won't Compromise, Heck, Name Your Son After Grandpa Anyway, And Inform Them Your Intention To Do So, Unless A Compromise Haa Been Reached.
I Know It'S Not The Greatest Advice, But You Are Not entirely Alone. Hang In There Mama
He has told the whole family already and unfortunately I was one of the last to find out l, I have felt like I'm having a boy from the beginning and he went for a early scan because he could afford it and it's more than likely he's having a boy, I think it's just my hormones but I feel so sad about it and I don't want to stress them out with how im feeling, I just suppose I have to hope for a girl
A little bit. I was happy that my child would have someone his age to play with. You can talk to your brother and let him know that you planned to name your child after your grandfather. You can hopefully compromise and one give the child your grandfather's name as a first name and the other his name as a middle name or both only use his name as a middle name. Hope everything works out.
Why not talk to your brother about it when you find out the genders of the babies. He might end up with a girl. But if you both end up with boys maybe you can compromise and someone gets to use it as a first name and the other use it as a middle name.
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