Trying not to worry

[bebe_looby]

I'm 25w+6 FTM. We found out at our 20 weeks anatomy scan that out Lil guy had an EIF and short femur bone 12th percentile. The doctor said not to worry and would scan again at 24 weeks. 24 week scan still showed EIF and femur bone was measuring 23w3d when I was 24w+1. Still said not to worry. Per my request I saw a perinatologist yesterday and along with the EIF she also found a VSD. Now I was born with a VSD and they are genetic. The long bones showed minimal growth discrepancy but still within normal range. She drew blood yesterday for the Harmony test to check for chromosomal abnormalities. Of course I'm freaking out. I cried all night and can't stop thinking that something is definitely wrong. Anyone else experienced this? Is the Harmony test pretty accurate? My nuccal fold measurement was 2.2mm at 13w+1. Which is within normal limits. Help

[sara1015]

That's what you have to do. We went through moments where we were OK and felt like everything was going to be fine to the crying the next. You become a parent not when your baby is born but from the moment you find out you are pregnant. And nothing can stop you from worrying. Most of the time there is nothing wrong. Even a soft marker only increases your chances by a percent or two. Those are still really good odds.  

[bebe_looby]

Thank you. Just anxiously awaiting the results of the Harmony test. I'm trying to keep faith and stay positive.

[sara1015]

Just went through something similar. We were told at our 20 weeks our little boy had a thickened nuchal fold, echogenic bowel, and an enlarged brain. Four extremely long days later we had our appt with maternal fetal medicine and got rescanned. Turns out his fold was normal, his brain looked normal, he just has a big head, and his bowel was less bright. We were told by a geneticist not to worry. We had a quad screening done and we were very low risk for chromosomal anomolies. I read so many stories where people had these things happen with multiple markers and babies were fine. Having a vsd doesn't mean the baby has anything else wrong. I won't tell you not to worry because its impossible not to, but more often than not the babies are fine. The bones are fine and your doctors aren't worried. Take comfort in that. It will all be OK.

[bebe_looby]

I'm sorry to hear that. It's so frustrating. I'm trying not to worry because the doctors don't seem too concerned about it but I can't help but stress. Did you do any genetic testing?

[mandab123]

I'm still going through it my baby is in 3-5%

[bebe_looby]

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