mother trouble :/

[bria23]

My mom is, how do u say, controlling. everything has to be her way. She takes control over my kids and tries to take control over my pregnancy.. she stated once that my baby feels like her own. And that hes going to have everything he needs and wants him to stay at her house every other week or 50% of the time. Shes addicted to prescription pills and can be careless sometimes. I dont want to hurt her feelings and am not going to let my baby stay there 50% of the time especially with her addiction but how do i say it without hurting her or getting her upset???

[AnnieBrooke]

I would be plainspoken about the addiction being the reason.  As Melissa says, it might wake her up.  It is enough reason with no explanation necessary.  ("You have an addiction" - full stop - is enough said.)  Knowing this, you should simply never leave your child in her care.  Not even for a half hour, I am sorry to say.  What if a freak accident happened and you had to explain to the police that you left your child with her knowing she "has a prescription pill addiction and can be careless sometimes"?  Bad enough if an accident happened when you left your child with someone who was not addicted to drugs, but if you knowingly leave her with someone who is, and then a disaster occurs, whose fault is that?  Hurting your mother's feelings, or having to go against her wishes, means zero compared to having a safe child.

[melissa724]

I agree with you. I wouldn't even let her watch the baby alone, you don't want her to be "high" when your child is in her care. It sounds like she could use some help. But regardless, anything that is said probably will hurt her feelings. I would just tell her that this is your child and you have a plan that you feel is important to follow for raising your child. Or tell her that you do not feel safe keeping the baby with her due to her addictions. It will hurt her feeling, but it may also make her realize that she is going to miss out on her if she doesn't get help.