I guess its a Vent.... i was just called phony lol

[Kiya3]

So one of what was supposed to be a good friend of mines just called me phony because another friend of mines posted pics of what she bought my daughter and put that she is going to be the #1 god mom now my supposed to be good friend didn't buy my baby nothing and she asked me if she can be my baby god mom I said yea but she has yet to buy her anything my other friend didn't ask she told me she was going to be the God mom she's the one who buys my baby everything ok I really don't care who is the god parent.... I didnt tell anybody who was a god mom I just let it be..... I guess my supposed to be good friend is mad I don't know so under the girls pic she posted she put I'm phony then I asked how she put nothing that's just who you are I was like wow.... I don't have friends so Idk how I'm phony and why she so mad at me..... This is why I stay to myself cause I don't have time for childish crap anymore...

[Mandatace]

For starters I would be thanking your friend for making a special time in YOUR life about her.
My son doesn't have godparents he does have many surrogate or honorary aunts and uncles who love him and spoil him in their own way. I have a will written out stating that should anything happen to me or my husband then our son goes to my sister.
Sound like you need to shut this down before becomes a big problem.

[analyzethis]

There's a lot more to being a God mother than who buys the most. I had my first child at 16 yrs old and had all these folks designated as "God Mothers" when only two lived up to the tittle and still are around today.

I remember the fights such as what you describe and it got on my nerves.  Now with this baby, I've designated one God mother and she is one of the GMs from my first child.  One of my other friends attempted to pick a fight about it, but that got shut down real quick. Not stressing myself out over her foolishness. She can have herself a seat.

[cammie2003]

I think it depends on if how you view God parents. The real traditional way is what the last few ladies are describing. Legal work and custody and all that. If that's the case then yes it is a very big deal. However, nontraditional views such as mine just involves a close friend who wants to be there for you and baby and help you when you need it. If something were to happen to me then my children would be raised with family.

[Kiya3]

Thank you for yall advise ladies!!!!!!!!!

[taymill]

I think ur friend is just jealous of ur other friend that is doing more right now, n trying to make u feel a certain type of way about it. Bcus its not all about gifts anyway or who buys the most, just like the ladie said above being a god parent is serious. N I know u just don't want care or want to deal with it. But u should make a good choice on the god parents... Bcus if ur friend is calling u something so childish now. Just imagine the unnecessary drama u may have. My daughter have the same god father who is my bestie n her god mother is a cousin of mines n it will be the same for my second daughter. N I have official documents. So u really should give it a lot of thought. Good luck with everything:-)

[rotsi]

Being a god parent can be a serious roll. But no one is a god parent till paperwork is done. Just remember the point of having a god parent is so that if something happens to the mother and father. .the god parent will get custody of your child. So remember if you go through with legal terms and papers to give someone the right to be your childs god parent...ask yourself if something happened would you trust and truly wan

[Kiya3]

@Cammie2003 That's how I feel  I don't care who wants to be the God mom

[cammie2003]

I hear you! No time for childish crap anymore. I let two of my friends say they're the God mothers because I'm not about to decide or have to hear any fuss. The more help the better.

[Kiya3]

The one who told me she is the god mom is doing more without me having to ask and the other one that's mad not doing Nothin

[Kiya3]

I don't care who is the  God mom its just my so called good friend asked and I said yea and my other friend told me I don't have a problem if both be god mom I'm just not picking

[Treksy]

Well it shouldn't be about who buys more lol but shame on both your friends for putting you in that uncomfortable position!
I had a similar fight over my maid of honor when I got married. My oldest friend assumed it would be her but I had asked my sister as to not show favoritism over my friends and she lost her mind.
Maybe ask relative to be the god mom... ya know?