Oh Wow what did I do? TMI

[whisper3rdbaby]

Omg after months I just saw my baby daddy and we had sex. I honestly don't even feel bad because my husband hasn't touched me since we got back together and has been buying condoms to use with somebody and told me he wants an open relationship. But the sex was so awkward because it's been so long and embarrassing because I kept orgasming. But now I'm starting to get strong contractions. Idk what to think about these contractions. I wonder if they will finally stay and get stronger or more regular or if they'll do what they've been doing. I would try and walk through them but it's 4am almost. I can't believe it caused contractions to start. I hope they stay and actually do something because I really don't want to end up being induced.

[chanti4]

I agree ruby31

[ruby31]

Ohh, I misunderstood chanti4..... my bad, well I personally don't agree with what she did, but she's a grown a×× woman. People make their own decisions and consequences come with those decisions. There's obviously a lot of issues going on in the relationship, but I'm not here to judge anyone and I still wish her the best.

[Emlue]

I'm sure you can figure out your personal relationships on your own. I just wanted to give a word of caution to you, just remember baby is first and please be really careful if the dangers that come along with multiple partners directly or by extension.
Good luck! Hope everything works out for you and ur family!

[chloe2014]

I think they need a jerry springer section on the community lol because alot of the stuff on here is just insane.

[chanti4]

Euby31 she didn't sleep with her husband. It was someone else.

[ruby31]

Well I don't think anyone should judge you for sleeping with your HUSBAND. It may not be the best situation right now ( I also have been following your posts) but I say better sleep with him than somebody else. I don't think you need to justify yourself to anyone. With that being said.... it wouldn't hurt to consider counseling to try and work out some of your issues to see if your marriage is going to work because it is a very touchy situation. You do seem like a sweet person and I'm wishing you the best. I really hope all the sex helps the labor proceed.... lol cause I know you been trying everything else and that was the one thing you hadn't. Hopefully it'll do the trick.

[KieaRai]

Even if yall switched to an open relationship it doesn't negate the fact that he's been lying the whole time anyway. And relationships like that still have rules like no bringing other partners home or having to use condoms all the time that he may still lie about. Him cheating and then you giving him the OR that he wants will just have it set in his mind that he can do whatever. I'd do marriage counseling first and air everything out THEN do an OR if that's what yall really want. I've been in those kinds of relationships and I always got pissed if my partner was having all the sex with someone else and wouldn't touch me. With my husband I told him we could try it if he ever wanted to but we laid down strict rules before hand. We haven't found anyone in 5 yrs that we'd even remotely consider being a third in our family but the rules are still there for a reason. A lot of men use the excuse of an OR to give them a "legitimate way to cheat" so their women can't really say anything.... those women just don't know how to go about putting their foot down and telling him enough is enough. Just from this there seems to be way too much bad blood to just give him what he wants and try to forget the rest. Everything needs to be talked about beforehand so that when your kid gets older it's easier to explain and no one gets their feelings hurtm

[whisper3rdbaby]

I really wasn't planning what happened. I just couldn't sleep and was feeling lonely. My mother has been pushing me to call the baby's father for a couple weeks now and then when he called I just kind of figured WTH let's see if this will do anything. Afterall, the doctor keeps telling me to have sex that she wants me going into labor on my own or progressing as much as possible before she induces me because last time I was induced my BP went dangerously high my baby went into distress and I ended up hemorrhaging. Contractions have been slowly increasing but still not 100% regular, pressure has definitely been intensifying slowly as well. And I cannot stop peeing to save my life. I tried going to sleep several times now but can't go to sleep. I have been extremely restless since yesterday. Even if it don't work as far as labor I hope it at least helps me to make some progress.

[CountryMomToBe]

Have yall tried counseling? I know it's not my place to say anything,  but didn't you mention in another post that this baby is a different race than your husband? I just think it's going to confuse baby sooo much more.  I've been following your posts forever and you seem like a great person so I'd just hate for everything to just blow up one day.  You can only ignore the white elephant for so long... I know everything might seem fine and dandy right now but I think yall should try and work this out before baby coms bc then you've got a whole new set of grudges and what not.  Not to mention the fact that your husband might be bringing home stds from sleeping with God knows who.  Condoms don't prevent everything.   I think you deserve to be happy and no offense but the situation with your husband doesn not seem like a happy one. :( I wish you all the best!

Also, not that I condone it... but hopefully your sexperience got this labor going. :)

[chloe2014]

Im sure it will work while the baby is little but once its old enough to understand whats going on i think it will be clear that somethings wrong with mom and dads relationship because being married is about being with one person and one day the kids will find out and how do you think they will feel knowing its all a lie? Sorry but you cant post something like that not expect some negative feedback..

[whisper3rdbaby]

Not preterm I'm 38 weeks and been in early labor for weeks. And as for the point I'm trying to figure that out he wanted to and said he was done cheating but has yet to stop then this week when I pushed issue of him not touching me he told me he wanted open relationship. Honestly though there are a lot of couples who have an open relationship and still have good relationship. I would rather he be honest than lie and sneak around it eliminates the stress and the arguments and our kids know nothing of what goes on as far as that is concerned they see mom and dad happy and getting along.

[ftm_sept2014]

What was the point of getting back w the husband if the two of you are doing other people.just curious? I would clean house if you catch my drift before baby arrives your dilemma doesnt seem like a healthy enviroment for a child plus the stress of the situation is starting to impact your childs health with preterm contractions I would seek medical intervention and focus on baby not judging just giving u my honest opinion