One month old baby questions

[BabyMarquez]

I'm a ftm I had my son a month ago. Well like baby's way of communication is to cry right.. Well my son cries often so I feed him make sure he doesn't have a wet or poopy diaper. Sometimes he will still cry so I hold him or cradle him to console him till he falls asleep or not crying. I get a lot of criticism from my in laws about him being babied or holding him too much that's why he cries only when he is not being held. I guess my question is what am I doing something wrong or am supposed to just let him cry.. I really don't think so. I just want opinions of other moms

[Lilmummyems]

There's no way you can 'spoil' a newborn baby that baby has been inside of you for 9 months so they're used to feeling you and your warmth... Your family is plain wrong you hold you baby when you see fit!

[ayahnolan27]

I go to the free clinic thingy.... and they had me watch a video on caring for a new born (as I'm a ftm and really nervous). In the video it says you can NEVER spoil you newborn. Once s/he gets to 5 or 6 months old then it time to get them to cry it out. I'm gonna hold my son as often and as much as I can. I don't care what anyone says. It's you and your little one bonding and learning each other

[ButterflyKisses23]

My doctor has told me over and over that babies can't be spoiled at that age. When my daughter cried, we held her. I kept a bassinet in my room so she could be near us (also so I didn't waste precious sleeping seconds walking back and forth to her room hehe). My daughter is almost 10 months old now and is so independent. She is so active and happy. She still wants mommy and daddy but no one has ever said she is spoiled. So, I say do what feels right to you. Go with your gut. If someone is giving you a hard time just tell them you appreciate their advice but you want to try things differently. If they keep going, ask them to leave. You're a new mom. There is no need for extra stress.

[nonishy]

Your baby is only a month old, i think it's too soon to let the baby cry it out. Maybe later when baby is older. But not right now. And it is your baby, do what you feel is best.

[bump_2_be]

No way, I do the same. And I am constantly being told im going to 'spoil' her. Firstly, you can't spoil a newborn, and secondly, what's wrong with trying to console them when they're upset?! Absolutely nothing! This big wife world is new and scary to them I guess, and i think the more hugs and kisses they get to calm them the easier it is for both mum and baby

[BabyMarquez]

That's exactly how I feel. Some nights are good some nights I just get no sleep. So I have to hold him in my arms till he falls asleep and he's a very light sleeper so if I put him down he wakes up and my god what it takes to put him back to sleep. I just know as much as I explain myself to them why I do what I do they're still going to have their opinions.

[kelsam26]

My 3rd was a crier bc she was colic.  It didn't matter what i did to console. I held her in a football hold sometimes ALL night long if that was what it took for her and me to get any form of rest. You keep doing what you are doing. Everyone has an opinion. Just thank them and keep on with what feels right to you. :)

[3babyboyz]

I agree with the above ^^. I have always held my youngest son bcuz i was breastfeeding him. Don't listen to other people cuz everyone has their own opinions n techniques on how to raise a bb its ur child n u do whatever u think is right.

[sarahandmarky]

It's called co-parenting.  Read up o n it n feel confident in providing the love your child needs.

[Byrd02]

Whaaat no way your are doing Nothing Wrong... Thats your Baby dont let anyone make you feel like you are doing anything wrong... If you choose too hold your baby which is Natural you can do that! Im a FTM as well baby due December 11th I truely understand

[BabyMarquez]

I know that's right. I mean I know there may be some things I don't know but what I do know is I'm going to nurture and care for my son to the best. They make it seem like I'm not supposed to hold my son when he cries I'm not gonna let him just cry until he stops I'd feel like I would be neglecting my son of nurture.

[NCazier]

When my baby is here, and she's crying but doesn't need to be fed or changed, I'm not letting her cry it out. I don't think there's anything wrong with giving your baby attention when they cry. Your baby, you do what you think is best.

[Iloveaidanjamis]

It's your baby & you can take care of him ANY way you choose no matter what anyone says as long as there is no harm then you are perfectly fine. Don't let anyone make u feel like a bad mother!!