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Relationship with stepsons mother?
Ok so me and my husband are expecting our first child together in February. He has two children from a previous relationship. I love them and treat them as my own. Do you think it is necessary for me to have a relationship with their mother? I don't think so but the hubby does!
I don't see anything wrong with co parenting together. My mom is "friends" with my sisters mom but is 2faced towards her.
Communication without judging is a good thing, it's funny when we are in a relationship with the guy the other woman because the bad mum or not that responsible with her kids even though she spends majority of the time with them! I think all woman in that kind of situation should do what's right for the children in volve and stop putting the their own personal feelings about either party because frankly no one knows when that would be the ex dropping their kids to they ex's house with a new partner!
If she wants to communicate with u fine, but if not stay away. My husband's ex wife is soo evil, I had to stop helping them out with the kids. Everything I did for the kids she had a problem with. If I feed her kids she would say "I feed her kids nothing but junk food and cold food" I couldn't even buy them something for their birthdays with her finding something negative to say about it so I just gave up.
I agree there's no reason for your child to be dropped off at the ex's house. Communication and being civil with each other is important...but I would not have my fiances ex keep my baby either. My fiance is luckily with me on this.
I agree with mfayb your child never should be dropped off there. I know mime sure as hell wouldn't be and on the aspect of house training and her non activity checking on her kids well that just sounds like she is mostly inactive in her children's lives which is kinda sad but that will be OK because they will have you and your hubby :)
All children need to be equal to each other and not having at least a calm and respectful relation with the other mother could impact the kids negatively
I think that its something you can't fight and even though she isn't a parent she is going to be there and in some way I would think impacting your baby's life. Their siblings will be an important aspect of the baby's life and I think for the good of the new one and the previous children you should both make an effort to be respectful of each other. The last thing you want to do is give a negative impression and create tension for the two children who have a different mother if that makes sense.
@mfayb that's what I want him to understand! It's no disrespect to her but she isn't anything to my child our children just share their father.
There is no reason why your child would go to her house. The siblings will see each other at your house. You should absolutely be able to communicate but she won't ever need to have a place in your child's life. You are a step parent to her child. She is certainly not to yours.
@dorothy701 we had the boys for the summer. I know first hand they dont have any home training. I had to tell them to take showers as well as clean up after themselves. She never called to check in them and when we would call her she would text the phone back!
@dchunny614 I completely agree to being able to communicate. My hubby seems to think that our child will be dropped off at her house to visit. I don't trust anyone with my children...
Bump!
No you don't need to call or text eachother every day but your now a parent in her children's lives try to turn the tables wouldn't you want to be able to at least mildly communicate with that woman and know who she is and how she is helping there father disapline and tech them things such as there morals and what not.
No you don't need to call or text eachother every day but your now a parent in her children's lives try to turn the tables wouldn't you want to be able to at least mildly communicate with that woman and know who she is and how she is helping there father disapline and tech them things such as there morals and what not.
You all don't need to be BESTIES..but your children are siblings so you should be able to communicate and respect each other..
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