why oh why

[icr4eva]

I am 30 weeks now and hubby hasn't wanted to touch me or be sexual with me for three weeks now. I know its not my looks, I look and feel better than ever. So, what can it be, why won't my husband be with me sexually?

[Sammi94]

I'm 26 weeks pregnant. If my baby had birth defects would I know by an ultrasound??

[dora89]

I agree with flickan, and me and my partner do it a few times a week still, he knows it's not hurting our baby boy and finds me very attractive pregnant :-)  

[wickedxchick]

Im 20weeks and my bf shut down. He automatically goes to sleep. I asked him if he was ok with us skipping out on sex-my sexual desire went out the window, and he said yes that he didnt desire it as much either knowing the baby was there. We do still have sex once in a while.....

[Heatherm4]

My husband for both my pregnancies got really distant once I really started showing and you could feel baby kick. It didn't have anything to do with me, it just weirded him out big time. Once I was healed up, he was all over me again. lol It's completely normal.

[Shawnakay2005]

From personal expirience and from other moms I have talked to there comes a point for most men towards the end of pregnancy that they lose interest mentally.  Like all the sudden they realize there is a baby in between you.

[Sarah765]

Its definitly just a mental thing, as soon as I told my husband I was pregnant we hardly had sex, hes gotten over it a little now, but I know he really has to try and pretend babies not there.  I know it wont be long before he doesnt want to have sex again because hes always been like that by the end of my pregnancies.

[ndeer422]

My husband told me at the end of my last pregnancy making love to me was like having sex with a boulder.  I didn't get offended cause my belly was huge and hard.  Sex for me was very uncomfortable in the last trimester anyway.  Don't worry, he will be more than happy to renew sexual activity after the baby arrives.

[kiki_lu]

I wish my hubby was like this its exactly the oposit with him and i just wanna be left alone atm :( cuddeling is fine but i cant stand anything else i feel bad for him as i wasnt like this with my first preg but that was 10 years ago

[Itsjenny]

I hear you! My hubby hasnt touched me for about 4mos now. We got married 2mos ago & no, he didnt touch me on our honeymoon! No matter how much I convinced him it is safe, he still finds it uncomfortable wth the baby inside. You have to make sure from your dr its safe for u while u keep convincing him in doing the deed. :D

[cindy82]

Mines just afraid he will hurt me and knows I'm very miserable right now. Just open up to him about it

[emmaftm]

My bf said "everyone keeps telling me baby can hear eveything that goes on so we cant have sex because she cant and wont know about that until shes like 50" lol

[teabugsmommy]

My husband made the comment to me, it is kind of a mood killer when I can feel my son kick when I am making love to my wife.

[sharii61]

Some guys believe that they'd be striking their child if they penetrate their lady. Maybe you guys may need confirmation from the doctor that sex won't hurt the baby.

[emmaftm]

My bf didnt want sex from the day we found out i was pregnant (i was 18 weeks when we found out).... he said its strange because he still wanted me but the fact that there was a baby in me freaked him out, the midwife spoke to him n reassured him that he wouldnt hurt me or the baby but he still didnt want sex. To be honest it didnt bother me as i got further along as i was so uncomfy lol

[Flickan]

Some men are afraid of hurting us or the baby. It's a mental block that some men get. :( The fact you are getting closer and baby is getting bigger could be a huge part of it. I noticed that my husband will leave me alone if I have been complaining about being sore and just assume I don't want any sexual interaction. It's his way of trying to help me out. It may be worth a conversation with him and some reassurance that it baby and you are okay. Good luck.