Scared and confused

[Fallennnm]

So me and my husband have been having problems in our marriAge due to my family issues as well as our problems as well. He sees how screwed up my family is and sees how disgracing my sister was to her family and says I'm just like her because she is my sister and always tells me when he is mad that I'm a hoar like her and that he is gonna divorce me. My real problem is the fact he texts with a lot of girls on messenger and Facebook and caught him a few times having phone sex. In our culture when a girl disgraces her family she is put upon and no one respects that family no more. So every time I catch him doing something bad he turns the argument back to what my sister did and says I'm just showing u what your sister does. I told him its over I want a divorce he said ok but I'm taking our kids and the one still to come and u will never see them again. In our culture they can do that sometimes especially if they find a reason why they should stay with the family. What should I do? Should I stay with him and be depressed all my life and I'm only 29 or leave and pray for the best. I just think ill die if I can't see my kids

[Fallennnm]

I'm Muslim but I was born in the United States. I don't have no support from my brothers at all and they are lost in there own world. I haven't finished college I hv 2 more years to go and I don't work. I hv money but it won't last me and my kids for long.  My parents are in Yemen and if I go there with my kids his family can and will go in our home and take them away from me. If I stay in the USA he can't do nothing but I don't have anyone to help me. I'm just so scared I can't go out and look for a job he won't let me and if I do leave him it will be hard not having a job right away and my baby coming soon. Oh god I can live the rest of my life without a man but I can't live a single day without my babies. I pray that god helps me through this trouble time of mine. I do hv a plan if worst comes to show. But my plan is a long shot but it might work.

[lizzieadam]

Why would u have another child with a man like this, makes no sense to me. Marraige is a equal partnership and can add stability to your life if its with the right person. If i were i i would get out as soon as.

[Steph_2]

I would leave him and take my kids with me then let him fight me for them through the courts. I would talk to an attorney and get some advise from him, you need to be smart about it. But living a depressed live is not healthy for you or your kids. Culture is important but your health and happiness is more important, just my opinion.

[NatFox]

Where do you live? Culture might be important in some places and very difficult to deal with. Do you have the chance to leave country? You should do something about it as it will affect your children.
My parents had a bad marriage and it sure had a huge impact on me and my brother :(

[New24888]

What culture is higher than court? You can just decide is keeping your kids!

[nicq]

get help from someone that can get you away from him and get you custody of the kids if necessary. Don't tell him as it may infuriate him? Be careful. If you want to get away and its in your children's best interest...leave but be smart about it.