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Why would u be home I was always kept in hospital nvr got sent home they break my water..thats horrible if they send u home I wouldn't go home.
Mamamacmurtry you sound like you did your research. You sound like the mama ready to labor and even birth at home. That is what I mean women need to do there research and have a plan in case of emergency. You got to have a plan and not just up and say I am doing this at home. I think it is great , I plan to have this baby at a birthing center like my last. I don't care for hospitals but I did my first 4 at hospitals to make sure my baby was safe. One of my girls had the cord wrapped around her neck and I had another that went into distress, I am glad I was at a hospital. Where I live now there is a birthing center and I can relax and have a safe place for my midwife to deliver my baby. I get all the comforts of home and get to leave as soon as I get done having my baby.
Totally agree I don't mess around with my or my child life! Hospital is safe and clean place well if ur at a hospital that u deserve to be at! I'm not going to change my mind and yes mine is downtown Houston and if I'm in labor at 5 o'clock I'm screwed but I will take my chances knowing I'm on my wy to a great place! Stand ur ground and a no comment needs to be in place for all the "at home/hospitals r not for me" people!
I said I don't mess around when it comes to labor I feel safe in hospital and so does my doctor however long it takes thats where I wanna be ppl can stay home if they want just not a safe choice for myself and baby!! I am blessed to hv a great top hospital and my doctors nurse comes personally to assist him and they kno the plan!
Well some women are dilated to 3cm for two months before going into active labor... I don't know about you but I wouldn't be the slightest bit interested in staying in a hospital just waiting for something to happen just because I was dilated.
I was in active labor for over 12 hours after my water broke before I left for the birthing center where I delivered my son. Nobody was in danger, my midwives knew I was low risk and perfectly capable of knowing when labor was advanced enough to want some supervision. I wasn't interested in hanging out waiting and being poked and monitored and pressured into hurrying things along or getting an IV inserted it anything else I didn't need or want. Spending less than half of my 21 hour labor in a white room was fine with me.
Women have options, women should be allowed to have the birthing experience they choose unless actual intervention is needed otherwise. Women should be informed of ALL risks and benefits of ALL possible interventions before labor starts so they can make informed decisions without the pressure of imminent birth making informed consent difficult or impossible to be given honestly. Women should know what pitocin can do to the bodies of mother and child. Women should know what an epidural can do to the bodies of mother and child - during labor and for years afterward. Women should know the risks of a forceps or vacuum-assisted delivery, the risks of an advance episiotomy (and the easy ways to reduce the likelihood that one will appear necessary). Women should know the risks of hospital birth outweigh the risks of home birth in low-risk full-term pregnancies.
You want to spend your labor in a hospital hooked up to monitors that's fine - don't tell others that they're putting their children's lives at risk by choosing a different path.
I was in active labor for over 12 hours after my water broke before I left for the birthing center where I delivered my son. Nobody was in danger, my midwives knew I was low risk and perfectly capable of knowing when labor was advanced enough to want some supervision. I wasn't interested in hanging out waiting and being poked and monitored and pressured into hurrying things along or getting an IV inserted it anything else I didn't need or want. Spending less than half of my 21 hour labor in a white room was fine with me.
Women have options, women should be allowed to have the birthing experience they choose unless actual intervention is needed otherwise. Women should be informed of ALL risks and benefits of ALL possible interventions before labor starts so they can make informed decisions without the pressure of imminent birth making informed consent difficult or impossible to be given honestly. Women should know what pitocin can do to the bodies of mother and child. Women should know what an epidural can do to the bodies of mother and child - during labor and for years afterward. Women should know the risks of a forceps or vacuum-assisted delivery, the risks of an advance episiotomy (and the easy ways to reduce the likelihood that one will appear necessary). Women should know the risks of hospital birth outweigh the risks of home birth in low-risk full-term pregnancies.
You want to spend your labor in a hospital hooked up to monitors that's fine - don't tell others that they're putting their children's lives at risk by choosing a different path.
Thx gd luck to you to.
It is an interesting topic. Home births used to be very common and now they are becoming more common again. I was told not to go to hospital before contractions were 5 mins apart. unless I notice anything I felt was wrong or different. I have been high risk and my dr has stressed she thinks ill have a quick labor. I plan to wait a lil while at home but not too long. Goodluck and I hope we all have safe labors!
I wasn't upset at all, and I'm glad you weren't either :-) none of us needs that added stress. Its just a topic I have researched quite a bit...guess I got a little carried away, looking back at it...haha
I dont see it as attack im not taking none of this to heart just dont want u to feel some kinda way its ur choice what u decide to do ..I just felt u got upset and we are pregnant no need to be upset ..
I respect your opinion. I was giving mine based on research I've done. I stated in my post that home labor or birth is not for everyone-but neither is laboring in hospital. I was merely asserting evidence that choosing to labor at home does not make me a bad mother, as implied by several of the prior posts. This was not an attack on you or anyone else. Just a sharing of information.
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@mamamacmurtry Listen u hv ur opinion thats ur choice but if u dont agree with my post u dont hv to comment im a firm believer of going to hospital my hospital is huge and my doctor always orders my private room and I nvr take drugs I hv had 3 natural births so plz dont let any ones opinion get the bezt of u! We r pregnant u dont hv to agree witj anyone just dont see ur agreement .I trust my doctor and thank god we hv been good
These days, statistically, more birth related deaths are caused by hospital interventions than by any inherant problem with laborbor the birthing process. Epidurals, IV drugs, foreceps, etc-alk of these are unnatural processes that change the way your body goes through labor. Yes, there is an OR down the hall if something serious should come up, but that OR isn't perpetually manned by a surgical team 24/7, unless you were high risk to begin with. Most of the leading causes of birth related deaths in the past are now obsolete. The illnesses & conditions that used to be the common cause of death (preeclpsia, placenta previa, incompetent cervix, etc) are due routinely checked for during regular prenatal care & its extremely rare that they go unnoticed if your OB is doing his or her job correctly. On the other hand, epidurals are known to frequently lengthen labor time causing many doctors to administer picotin when it isn't necessary because labor "isn't progressing as quickly as they'd like". We are told throughout pregnancy that most drugs are not safe and can harm the baby, but as soon as you arrive in hospital, you are offered a veritable smorgasbord of drug choices, and are often pressured to choose one from column A and one from column B, and rest assured, those choices will be reflected in your bill. Many women are pressured into so called "emergency c-sections" when labor is progressing slowly or a drug causes some sort of complication. In most developed 1st world countries it is far safer to have a home birth with a medically trained midwife in attendance than it is to birth in hospital. I'm not saying its the right choice for everyone, but it is no more safe to be in hospital hooked up to machines, monitored by one frazzled, overworked nurse who is on the tail end of a 16 hour shift with your on call doctor out to dinner with his family somewhere in town. In most cases it takes time to assemble an OR team, so what's the difference if I'm in transit or stressing out in a hospital room, surrounded by beeping machines and anxious nurses & doctors during that assembly time? While I would prefer the option of Having a trained midwife or doula attending me in my home while I labor, that's an expense I can't afford & my insurance doesn't cover it. Even though it is a safer alternative when hospitals are telling their patients to labor at home for as long as they can, it is considered a luxury as far as my insurance company is concerned. Therefore, I will do the next best thing. I have already discussed my plan to labor at home with all 3 of the physicians who work at my OB office, as well as the Midwife who works there. As soon as labor starts, I will be in contact with them. They offer phone or text consultations with the on call practitioner as well as two on call nurses (in the event that the doctor is performing a delivery when I have a question) throughout your labor & will be able to tell me if something is wrong & I need to get to the hospital. If they are the on call staff for delivery, they are required to remain in the office for the entirity of their on call shift. If one doctor gets called in for delivery, the next on the list is called in. Their office is across the street from the maternity ward at my hospital. I live exactly 7 minutes from the hospital-10-15 in bad traffic. I will not hesitate to call an ambulance if something seems seriously wrong & there are 3 emergency rescue houses within 5 minutes of my home. You just have to be smart and open about laboring at home. Communication is very important.
Wanting to be comfortable and be at home is understandable and I am all for natural labor and home birth. But to labor at home you should be very experianced at giving birth or have an experianced person helping you. Knowing something's to watch for will. Limit the chances of a problem getting out of hand. If you labor at home you also take the chances that you may wait too long and haveyour baby at home and you need to know what to do. If I waited till I was 5cm to go to the hospital or birthing center I would be having my baby at home, I am very lucky we don't have that policy where I live. Once I get that far along my labor progresses very fast. If y'all plan to labor at home please do a little research so you will be a little prepared just incase. Good luck to all during their labor.
My hospital will not allow you to stay if you aren't at least 5cm dialated, unless you are high risk or the baby is in distress. Their policy is to send you home. I have friends whose labor has lasted more than 24 hours. Most smaller hospitals don't have the extra beds to let you go through the early stages of labor in house. Personally, I am more comfortable laboring in my own home. I don't wasn't nurses fussing over me all the time or anyone to have the opportunity to pressure me into drugs or procedures I don't want to have. I will be in contact with my physician on call from the beginning, but I don't want to be at the hospital the whole time.
I'll be going early to the hospital BC I'm giving birth in winter, there's going to be Ice and snow on the roads. I don't want to risk being stuck at home, especially BC the snow is usually 3 plus feet every year
Thank u ladies exactly go to hospital I.dont mess around with babys life it serious u nvr kno my neighbor that same thing and how sad babys cord was around her neck they rushed her for csection emergency first thing hospital said why did u wait thank god there ok but she was 2cm thought to wait at home....I hv 3 kids and this is my 4th I kno enough that every labor is different so I hope u take advise to go to hospital! Better safe then sorry gd luck ladies
With my first i went in at 8 pm was 4 cm. They had to keep me in because I was high risk pregnancy. They broke my water at 11 pm had my baby at 346 am. Before I went in that day the labor was all over the place so the nurse that came to my house said it was false labour. Then at 8pm it was just crazy strong so I went in anyway.
I agree! Especially me.being on muber 3 no way I chance.my kid commi g out.on my floor! No thanks! I'll go be monitored be real medical professionals. Hubby wanted.a midwife at home.I told hahah nope.
I agree, I would rather be in a hospital for monitoring in case something goes wrong. With my son I waited four hours only because my contractions were 10 mins apart, and I was sent home.
You women that are laboring at home without a experienced medically trained person . How are you going to know if something's wrong and what are you going to do if something's wrong and you don't have time to get to the hospital. I did have my baby at a birthing center which was like having a home birth but better because the bed was more comfortable and a very large tub with jets that I was able to give birth in. I am not saying this as a bad thing but a lot of women said they would stay at home till active labor or close to it. Out of that many women one or two are bound to have a problem. I gave birth5 times and have had medical issues come up twice not serious but would have been if I was not in hospital.
Id rather be in the hospital. U cant monitor ur baby from home. My 2nd baby kept going into distress with contractions and if I wasnt in the hospital she could of died before I even gave birth. But thats just my preference. My friend did a home birth with het last but she had her doula withbher monitoring her.
Nope I rather hospital no matter what!
I plan on staying home as long as I can. With my 2nd daughter I wwnt into labor around 6am and didnt go to the hospital until 5pm and I was 8 1/2cm. I rather be in labor at home where im comfortable and able to move and walk around.
I live on a military base and they will send you home if you aren't dilated enough..I'm going to labor at home I live like 10 minutes from the hospital
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