Telling a certain friend that I'm gonna follow through with Adoption

[BeautifulButterfly87]

For the past 4-5 months, I've been choosing to do adoption. With me 17 weeks pregnant, I'm a little bit further then half way done. And each and every day I keep thinking about telling a very good friend of mine I'll be going through with adoption, is one of the toughest choices. Just because she has been standing up for me every time I have a situation when it comes to people trying to say that I'd be a bad mother, for not giving them my baby. I may not get upset when people say that, just because, I know in my heart and mind that I'd be a really good mother. And even though I'll be doing adoption, it does not mean I don't love this child. It's that reason why I'm doing adoption. Also to help out a family that can't. It just stresses me out just because I can't get enough courage to up and tell her. Help!

[baby2014]

I believe you are making an awesome choice and you are going to make another woman so happy. My brothers girlfriend was pregnant before she met him and she decided she was going to adopt the baby out to a family that couldn't have children. Her daughter is so beautiful happy and healthy and so is the adoptive mother. She still gets to see her little girl and all of them are very happy. Even though the baby wasn't my brothers he still became attached to the baby while she was pregnant but was very supportive to her decision. Just talk to your friend or you could write a letter to make it easier to explain. Good luck congratulations and thank-you for being a strong woman in helping another woman to become a mother.

[itgarcia82]

If you feel that is the Best choice for the baby, its a great choice and I want to also say Thank you on behalf of so many woman who can't have children and are willing to take them as their own. My sister has not been able to have children after 16 years of marriage, her husband and her decided to adopt, they have adopted 2 beautiful children, whom we all Love very much and they have been able to provide everything for them and of course specially lots and lots of Love! So again Thank you!

[jennymommy]

I was in a similar situation but I was the friend.  I was proud of her for being so strong and doing what she thought was best for her baby.  I was in the hospital when she was born and now that child is 13 years old and they keep in contact due to open adoption.  If she is a good friend she will understand but it may take her some time to adjust.  Don't be scared!  You know what is right for you and your baby.  Good luck!!  

[Anj76]

Good on you for making such a tough but responsible decision. Good luck with your friend and good luck with the remainder of your pregnancy. X

[BeautifulButterfly87]

Thank you. It is really tough. I'm trying not to get upset in my pregnancy too much, but it seems one thing after another happens, and with an adult life, u and I both know that's gonna happen. It's just, what u say, needing support, now more then ever. Just gotta find the right time.

[bbm1188]

I want to say your doing an honorable very selfless thing by doing this, your thinking of the child's needs first and not your own. I think there is no easy way to tell your friend, just tell her and get it out of the way. Help her understand your reasons just make sure your reasons aren't generated from what others have said about you becoming a mom. Make sure you explain where your at with your life and why this isn't the time for you to start a family if you feel that way. I hope she respects your decision, bc you need support with this. <3

[BeautifulButterfly87]

Thank you guys. I'm sure she will. Thank you, babysheets, it may be a toughest choice I'm having to make in my life, I know that I'll still love this child till the day I die. Just really scared.

[babysheets828]

Its your baby, your choice.  It sounds like she is a very good, understanding friend, and if you explain you are doing this because you love and want the best for your baby I'm sure she will understand.  
I think adoption takes a strong person to be able to do it.  You are risking your own happiness to give your child a great life, and that to me is a wonderful mother.  Good luck with everything!

[jerica86]

17 weeks is less than half way done. I don't want to press and make you tell me why you chose this so all I will say is if you feel strongly that adoption is the best option then be open and honest