Unhappy abt baby gender

[Alondapooh]

Just left the doctor and found out I'm having a girl. I never wanted a girl and instantly I felt a lose of connection with the baby. Normally I'm very happy n sending the ultrasound pics out quick but I personally haven't looked at them myself. All my life I imagined having a son because honestly motherhood can be scary and ive helper raise my nephews. Seeing my female cousins grow up has been a disaster in my family. I just don't feel like I can be a great mother 2 a little girl. I'm so unhappy and upset right now its baffling smh All I want to do is cry but unfortunately I have to hold off because its time for work. Just want to know what am I honestly experiencing.

[Shohna]

I was just thinking reading this..do you think that finding out before the baby is born is what could be the problem?this time the father and i (seperated) felt closer after finding out it was a girl..he said it made it more real etc..but on the flip side when you dont find out the gender and you give birth that love your baby is so powerful and you are so happy to have the baby in your arms..maybe not finding out takes away dissapointmsnt..(just a theory...i have no idea really) my friend has three girls..and when pregnant with her third had a huge strop in the ultrasound and didnt even get a photo after they told her it was a girl..she said that within two hours she had come round and started buying/ordering all things pink..and she seriously adores her little girl..also (sorry long post) my mum has a lot of issues..abused asxa child and has a drink problem which has worsened since her abuser (my grandad) has been charge wiith the abuse etc..theres things my mum has said and done to me I could never do to my baby..but you make the choices on how you bring up this baby :)

[Alondapooh]

Listen here Tavi12 u need 2 find another post 2 post negative things on. I'm sorry ur unable to carry a child full term but those are issues or demons that you have to face. I'm not tryna bring you down abt it but seriously u need to keep ur negativity to yaself! Its obvious that u don't understand nor see where I'm coming from but obviously the other mothers do because I'm doubting myself to be a great mother to a little lady I'm bringing into the world. A major concern is having a healthy baby and believe me this little lady is very healthy, all the tech could say was wow she's so healthy. So again u wanna be negative please take it elsewhere. And to all the other mother's thanks so much 4 all your support, it did jus take a minute for it 2 sink in that what my boyfriend and I planned can't be but it can definitely be something better! Again thank u all 4 ur support and understanding and I apologize 4 Negative Nancy.

[chocobella]

I can understand the disappointment but tell me r u going to let ur female cousins raise ur little girl? Or r u like ur cousins?If u believe u can be a mother to a baby boy then u can also be a mother to a baby girl.all that baby needs is love and a good role model.just give all the love u've planned for a boy to the baby girl ur carrying. Hope u get the connection with ur unborn baby girl

[Mrs_MP3]

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[ksbwebdesign]

Who's passing judgment Mrs_MP3!??

[Mrs_MP3]

So judgemental...I understand there are women that are waiting for their blessing to come their way in the form of a baby, but that does not change the way other moms are feeling nor does it limit their desire for support on the things that is important for them.