scared of starting over again..

[Sophiajojo]

I have a daughter of 9...and im due my boy in may. As much of experience I already have im nervous about it all. Feels like im starting all over again. Have enjoyed getting my freedom back but I did want more than one child. How has anyone else coped with this age gap?  My daughter has had me to herself all these years and weve both been through alot together. Now im with a new partner who is very lovely and is very much involved. I never expected to find someone new and start over.

[Amy1830]

I have a 9 year old and I'm due in August with my second from a different father. It was always just me and my son until I met my fiancé. My sons dad was never in his life. So I felt just like you. And still do. My son and I are like a team and I feel that we have a special bond since we never had to share each other with anyone else. I have up alot of freedom and now that he's older I love having some of that freedom back as well. It is hard for me to just give it all back up. I honestly never would have had another kid if my fiancé had children of his own. But he doesn't and wants one, if not more. I said I would have one more and he agreed. Now that I know I'm having a girl and my belly is beginning to grown I'm feeling alot of love for my new baby. But in the beginning I felt some resentment towards my fiancé and towards losing freedom again and I felt guilt towards my son for knowing that soon I'm not just going to be Joshua's mom, I'm going to be someone else's mom now, too. I still feel that way, but it's lessening as this new baby grows.

[firstat20_2ndat30]

I'm due in August with my second child and my son will be turning 10 in July. I know exactly what you're going through!  'Enjoy' those sleepless nights we said good bye to so long ago! Good luck!

[SaSa28]

I have a 9 year old, 4year old, and a 9 month old. I felt exactly thid way when I was carrying my 9 month old. Scared snd nurvious., like ive already finished eith babys and was not sure what wss about to happen.  Well when I had my baby. I did need a little help to remember how to do some things. Things are going well, however I am up for my next challenge.  Raising 2 babies at the same time. Im due again in sept  
Good luck hun, everything will be ok

[keaij]

I have a 9 yr old as well and the best thing I can tell you is get your child involved in picking out clothes diapers bath stuff, make it fun.. Im sure your child will love the new baby. My daughter has been asking for a sibling since she was 3 lol 6 yrs later I finally came through. Take it one day at a time, but make sure you make it a fun experience

[Sophiajojo]

Thankyou. Yes I am worried about my daughter as well. Will def include her and shes a natural with babies..this time just feels different. I felt quite bonded with her in my pregnancy with her..this time im busy at uni etc and so forget hes even there!

[mirian83]

Everything will go good for you.. being a mom is something natural that comes when you have a new child after so many years everything will be ok... I have a 10 year old and a 6 year old and baby #3 almost hear ... you will find comfort when your daughter tells you she will their for you ... also try to include your daughter with the helping of the new baby so she dosnt feel left alone... good luck