Welcome home party for newborn

[3rdtime_mum]

My mother-in-law wants to throw a small gathering after baby arrives. I really don't think that's going to happen. First I don't want a lot of people around my newborn (germs and etc). Second, I want to heal quietly at home for a couple weeks. Third, I just don't want people around my newborn lol. Would any of you be willing to have this party? Every time I give her a reason I don't want this party she just ignore. How should I tell her its not going to happen?

[m_r_p]

I think you should say that you'll do it if you get to pick the date. Pick a date after you're healed and you've had time to adjust. And when you go, just tell people they can't hold your baby. Or wear a baby sling with baby in it so they won't ask :) That's if you feel you have to go. I'd say just say no if you don't want to do it. I told people I didn't want visitors the first couple days home from the hospital so we could adjust. You'll always have people disregarding your wishes.

[knufrio]

I'm with you! Absolutely not... Especially because my baby will be born right at the beginning of flu season there is no way I'd want all those people around at once. I'd tell her straight up that if she wants this party (at her house), that's fine but you and baby will not be attending. LOL she needs to realize that it's your baby and your decision.

[3rdtime_mum]

Thanks I will try and tell her. My mother-in-law is very aggressive. I keep telling her I don't want ppl over after the baby is born, and she keeps saying its only going to be a few ppl. I told my hubby we might have to avoid her after the baby comes. She want listen to him either.

[Sammiegirl28]

Heck no, lol. The last thing I would want along with no sleep, being uncomfortable and trying to heal, adjusting to a new baby, and if you are anything like me my house was all baby stuff everywhere for the first few weeks. I would tell her no. And that if she wanted to come over to see baby then that's fine but to give you awhile for everything to calm down.

[GeekMom1213]

I actually want to have a "meet the baby" party when I have my next little one. Since I have one kiddo already I won't have a second baby shower so that will be sort of the replacement party as the celebration of baby. It will likely be about a month after baby is born, to allow me to rest and recover and for baby to grow past the brand-new newborn stage when their immune system is super fragile. Since a due date is just a suggestion and not set in stone, giving about a month between birth and party gives time for people to plan for it, too. And obviously I will insist on people washing their hands (and staying home if they're sick).
But that's me. If you're not comfortable with it, that's your decision. Be honest with your MIL about your feelings. But everyone will want to meet baby eventually - maybe you can come up with a compromise that works for both of you? Smaller groups of people or waiting longer before having a get-together...

[michelle_0926]

I'm having that exact party but its my choice in lieu of a baby shower so my mom can attend!

[sprmom87]

Just flat out tell her. Sometimes thats what you have to do. My sister insists on being in the waiting room and coming in once I deliver after dropping hints I had to flat out tell her no one is coming into the hospital room for at least 24 hours and no one is welcome to show up at home for at least a week.

[cubby77]

You have to be completely blunt. Being honest doesn't mean you're rude.  Don't say you don't want people over. Say you will not have anyone over. Period. She will ignore your "Wants". You have to tell her what will and will not happen.   Tell her you will not have a party. Tell her you will be home alone with no visitors and you will decide who can and cannot visit you.

[3rdtime_mum]

I have told this women I will let you know the best time we for us to have it, and she told me the best time to have it is the day the baby comes homes. So he will be introduced to his family lol. If he anything like me he isn't going to want to be bothered either. I don't know guys! I told my mom I might hide out at her house until I heal.

[ross1112]

I don't think I would want to do it, I want to enjoy his firsts days

[ross1112]

Yeah go to your house, omg she's not respecting what u want, thank God I don't have to deal with mother in law lol

[ross1112]

*mother's house

[3rdtime_mum]

@Ross this women just called me asking do I want the same colors as my baby shower for the welcome home party. I told her I don't know, because I still think I'm having this party. She said oh hush I'm taking care of everything. All you have to do is show up. Lol she is really starting to hit a nerve

[3rdtime_mum]

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[oct3014]

I'm with you I dnt want anyone around my baby once I get home from the hospital. I told my bf that already because I just want us to get the hang of it especially me since I'll be the one at home most of the time since he will be working. I already know his mom will hover and might even take off work but I'll just have to let her know that she needs to give all three of us some space and wait until I'm ready.

[mommybrandyozuna]

I say let her throw it at her house that way u can day how u don't feel good and u need to go and she has to clean up and get everyone out not u!

[Retro_Raven]

Oh definitely not that would be my idea of hell, it's not your mother so it is down to your husband to handle this with his mum and to simply say we won't be coming because of such and such reason and then both don't turn up. You cannot be accused of doing anything wrong you told her you didn't want a party and that you won't be coming, if she chooses to ignore this or brush it off then that is her problem.

[ross1112]

Hahahahahaha omg u want me to go there and kick her ***? Or tell her in my way that u don't want that party? She's inconsiderate

[3rdtime_mum]

Lol @ ross yessssss plzzzzz lol. Yes I told my hubby I will go crazy and his whole family will hate me if this party is thrown without my permission. He keeps saying h he'll handle it. Okay!!!

[MrsAmos]

Just don't show up.... I guess I'm the evil woman I DONT HAVE FAMILY AT THE HOSPITAL AND I DONT HAVE COMPANY AT MY HOUSE!!! She shouldn't be that bold anyways!!! But I was thinking about a arrival party myself but I remember I don't like my in laws and I never talk to them so naw why be nice now?!? Lol

[shysmom87]

Girl flat out tell her look ive tried telling you i dont want the party and you wont listen so if you do have it, it will not take place at my house and if you have it somewhere else i will not be there or the baby. I need time to heal and bond with my child ALONE!

[3rdtime_mum]

Trust me ladies I call myself trying to be nice, but I don't think I will keep repeating myself to her. She's one those snobby women that wants all to go her way, but I will be letting her know sooner then later

[strengthbeyond_measure3]

Absolutely NOT! I wouldn't do it. That is not a good idea the baby doesn't need all of those people around that soon. She's a mom and should understand that. Besides you need time to heal and rest. I hope you are able to get out of it.  

[3rdtime_mum]

I will definitely update you ladies on how this turns out. She has really just turned into the mother-in-law from hell.