any one ells fly off the handle easy?????

[TWINS_15]

IM SORRY ITS SO LONG........I'm 29weeks 6days with twins.... my temper is threw the roof..... we just got a place of our own and I feel like I am the only one doing anything to get the place set up and ready. I have to have one hell of a melt down to get any help from my boyfriend or my kids. My 2 year old does more than my boyfriend and 7 year old daughter does. I know he works night and needs to sleep as well but for your whole weekend seriously I maybe see him 5 hours out of a 3 day weekend. I'm so sick of getting my *** chewed out by my doctor cus I keep having contractions and they are worried but how ells are things going to get done if I don't do it???? My boyfriend keeps saying he will help and do things but things are still not getting done unless I do it. I have mounds and mounds of laundry in my room and my kids rooms that need put away but I have no were to put them as the cloths shelves are shoved in my deep freezer with mold all over them and I'm not aloud to clean them (plastic shelves not wood). I'm so stressed out and ready to shut down. I don't know what to do anymore.... I cry way to much from the stress or I scream and yell so much I look like a crazed lunatic.  I'm starting to hate my life and so much more. I have teied explaining it to my boyfriend but its in one ear out the other. I try and get advice from his mom and she says just leave him alown he works to support me and my kids as if we are free loaders... I'm working to damn it I'm making his babies as well twins ir does that not count???? Gerrrrrrr I'm so mad what am I to do???? Go in to early labor and harm my babies I don't think so.... I'm going on strike I won't do a darn thing that helps him out if he won't help me out...... am I wrong for just giving up??? I hate living in clutter but I'm done cleaning to the point I feel like I'm in labor or so swollen I can't stand and I hurts to sit or lay down I get maybe 4 hours of sleep a day maybe some times non at all cus if I don't keep my 2 year old quiet wile he sleeps we end up fighting because if it...... its hard telling a 2year old he is not allowed to play during the day. They don't understand and then he wants to stay awake all night cus he has so much energy I get no sleep....... I just want to run and hide...


once again sorry it so long just need to vent some and hope to get some advice if at all possible..... sorry if any spelling mistakes I'm on my phone teying to stay quite as he sleeos and my son watches a movie

[TWINS_15]

My boyfriends parents are supposed to be here in december around the 20th as that's when hisom gets her winter break from teaching.  They just informed us theybare not staying for xmas and it pissed us both off as we live so far from them and they would rather drive 12+ hours here for maybe 2 days to see us then go to there daughters house for
Xmas after already spending thanksgiving with her and her family. We don't get along with his sister she's the reason we moved from our home state. I am to have our rwins no matrer what in December my doctor said as long as I can keep them in past the 16th I'm okay to have them other wise me and the twins well be sent to a bigger hospital and I can't be that far from my other kids I'd go nuts with out them. I'd rather them not show up if its only a two day trip makes us feel as if we are not important enough for them to stay longer than 2 days

[kfw6293]

Sry for typos. Dumb phone

[kfw6293]

Ur MIL should come help u! I'd ask to see if she can come over and help you. I know is hard.  It took me weeks to finally get caught up worth laundry and the house.  I'm preg with #4. R house was the same way!  I had to tell my husband to find a 2nd job so I could go on leave from mine to get everything in order.  First do the laundry.  If u have bins, boxes, garbage bags to put it til u get the shelves cleaned.  Each person has their own bag or box.  Just so u r organized and not digging through mounds everyday. ( I know the feeling) if bf won't clean it. Maybe lay em outside spray lysol cleaner all over n house em down or wet, shake comet all over n let sit then spray with hose. That way ur not scribing and being super physically and have ventilation. Get ur 7 y.o to help sort clothes. Put baby in the playpen with some crackers and toys.  Do one or 2 chores a day. That's what I did cause husband wouldn't help clean and I didn't have no 1 to help besides my 11 n 7 y.o. I pour my 15 mo in her playpen put some movies on for her so I could get stuff done.  I had to do what I had to do. Got the kids to work as a team! Then I did something nice for them after. Just take a breath and relax.  U can do it. It's annoying but ur doing it so ur kids have a clean nice home to live in.  Don't look at like ur making a clean home for ur man! It will jz make u mad.

[wyattsmom2015]

I am so bad right now that people avoid me and the ones who don't are stupid because they should. Don't feel bad and try to relax the best you can. I know it is easier said then done. I am in a similar position I have so much to do and have been walking 10 miles a day to take my pre k student daughter to school. I am starting to dilate and am having contractions and I am only 26 week's. I am aggravated that no one wants to help with all that I have to do.

[TWINS_15]

I wish I had friends were I live we moved to a new state and I have no friends here at all and everyone I know lives 14+ hours from me. As it is if I go in to labor early I have no one to help with my older two kids cus my bboyfriend does not want to take any time off of work cus we need the money. I'm just over stressed and need a day to myself with no one to bug me at all.

[keaanddan03]

Yes you need some girl help around you!! Im sad that your mother in law isnt helping you!

[ms_naye]

First take a deep breath!!!!!! Second do u have some friends that's willing to help you get ur house in order? Invite a couple of your homegirls over n turn them into a house party. A couple bottles of wines n have a good time talking and laughing. Hope this helps ur stress levels