starting to feel lonely

[sky1989]

Me and my husband have a big group of friends. It feels like a whole other family. Unfortunately we are the only ones in the group married. I few of them have a girlfriend but the girls don't seem to hang out much and the girls of our group have moved away. I love all of our friends but they are all about late nights and getting super drunk. It was fun when I was able to be part of that but now my life is changing (I'm very excited to become a mother). My husband still wants to go out with them all the time (every weekend and some week days) and I just don't have the energy to. I don't want to tell him he has to stay with me, I would rather him make that decision himself. He is never able to tell me when he might be home. I get so lonely sitting home a lone all the time and wish there was someone going through this with me. Are any of you ladies going through something similar?

[kbugs3]

I understand, but especially being close to due date, what happens when you go into labor and he's been drinking somewhere? It's not just about you nagging, it's about the safety of your child and you as well. On a level of respect, talk to him about how it makes you feel that your the one carrying yals child and he gets to go do those things. I know initially I went through a similar situation, and as mentioned above, I did have to express my feelings a few times before it finally sunk in to him and he understood and respected my feelings.  He bickered back at first, but I made sure I didn't sound like a crazy woman and kept my cool with it, and just asked him to understand and it did work. Men don't often understand imhp how much of a toll pregnancy takes on a women. And a big part of getting through all the changes (emotionally and physically) is having him there with me as a support system-- doing it together. He got on board eventually after drilling it in lol and I have no doubt that if you explain how you're feeling to yours he will understand what you need a little bit better!

[sky1989]

Thanks ladies:) I know he can't read minds... He has made that very clear. I will have to sit down and talk to him but it's like you said, I don't want to be a naggig wife. I want him to be happy, I just wish his happiness was staying home with me.

[Samnoor]

Of course you don't want to be that annoying wife nagging him waiting but I go through the same things as you. If you don't tell him how you feel he will never know and he probably thinks your ok with it.  He needs to understand that us pregnant women go through so much emotions when we're pregnant and we want them with us. You should defo speak to him about that. You never got pregnant by yourself just because his body isn't carrying the baby he needs to feel connected he needs to understand he is becoming a father and he chose to be a father so he needs to step up. Men are like babies they need to be told over and over again which is annoying but let him he is your husband and father of your child and he should know it's bothering you . I'm going through the same thing I tell him all the time he approved and now that baby is here any day he's more excited and here for me often. Before he would go out a lot and I never because I'm forever tired . And also he used to go out a lot because he doesn't know what to expect when baby comes so that stress was on his mind and going out was a way to block it. Ah hope this helps :) don't stress

[mommalombardi]

Wow that's how it was for us with all of our friends. .and just to let you know they do stop calling and trying to hang out once baby is born. I had a stern talk with my husband in the beginning about how I didn't care if he went out every now and then but not every weekend and he understood and actually more towards the end of the pregnancy our friends just stopped bothering to call us.

[Evie55]

I'm not, but I would say sit down and tell him how you are feeling. they aren't mind readers, and he might understand. Maybe you could just ask him to cut back how much he goes out? Tell him you want as much "us" time before the baby gets there. It's worth a chance, right? Good luck.

[Elena2220]

Yes I was I completely understand, my friends still go out all the time then send me pictures of them wasted and having a good time.  I am also the only one that is married and pregnant out of our friends. My husband was going out and getting drunk weekends and a few times during the week and it started to boil my blood I would get really upset.  I told him last weekend was his last weekend getting wasted I am 40w3d and I said I don't want him wasted if I go in to the hospital and so far his been good that is so far.