is it just me??? rant!

[chloeeddy]

Or is anyone else sick of being told not to buy things for their baby or not to tell people they are pregnant bcoz they are only in their first trimester!!!! Yes i realise there is a chance of miscarriage!! Yes i am worried!!!! Yes i do freak out everytime my belly does anything or when i go to the toilet!!! But NO I dont need to be reminded by everyone else everyday!!!! What happened to all the positive people in this world? I dont remember all this negativity with my first born. Whatever happens is going to happen whether i buy baby stuff or not! And yes it would be awful to be reminded by the things i had bought but r we supposed to wait until we r in labour to buy things? Or maybe after bubs is born my SO can go out and get everything? Or maybe we should wait til bubs is 1 b4 buying anything permanent just in case anything happens???

[disha_preg]

In my culture.. we dont buy baby stuff before the baby's arrival its considered inauspicious. But i never faced any problem bcos of this orthodox thinking.  Wen my family and frnds got the news they got us gifts which sufficed the baby for the first month. We have a ceremony for the mother and the baby on the 40th day. After that me and my husband went shopping and got all that we wanted.And now for my 2nd kid i have the bear minimums needed.. plus here we dont get to know the gender of the baby so its difficult to buy stuff.

[skipapage]

I hear you im over the moon about being pregnant and I get so frustrated beimg told oglf dont buy stuff yet or I know someone that lost their baby at 5 months.  Im sorry for them but dont make me worry, let me be happy and start preparing.

[HappyMommyBear]

yeah.. when my husband was trying to stop me from telling people that i was pregnant at 8 weeks, i told him that if he's not proud..i am.. then he started with saying risks and all that.. i want a baby.. and everybody is happy about it.. since then, i talk about it all the time.. he started talking about it too.. just dont mind those people.. they do not know the real joy of having a blessing inside you that makes you wanna be ready for it..

[happysnaps]

Ooo baby shopping is so much fun!! Go nuts! If you want to buy a bunch of stuff then go ahead. Its your baby and your joy. Who cares if someone goes shopping even if they havent conceived let alone are actually pregnant. Make the most of stress free shopping without a little one in tow. And dont listen to anyone elses silly opinions

[BryonyKate]

I'm 32 weeks and everyone is still telling me not yo buy stuff because it's "bad luck" and too soon. It drives me crazy!! I was ready to start buying as soon as the test came back positive.  I feel your pain

[smileymonn89]

It annoys me when ppl say of but your not in the safe zone blah blah.

I Faith in my God and thank him for this blessing and our first and i know this one as was our first is healthy and will make it.

All those negative comments really make me mad

[KieaRai]

I think it's kind of nice to know that people care so much to say that. I mean, I had two miscarriages before this one stuck and was so depressed before... all my friends were excited but made sure I remembered not to get anything until after 15 wks this time (lost the first at 8 and the second at 13 wks) just to be safe. I was truly touched that they cared so much and remembered and they all rallied around me to keep my spirits up so I wouldn't worryover losing this baby. I just hit 25 wks and so glad I waited because I almost did lose this one too.
It may seem annoying but people telling you that just shows that they care and that they worry about you. I started buying up stuff like crazy after 15 wks. I've got almost everything I need already and some of my friends bought a ton of toys and clothes already to help out with the baby. :)

[SlavicaTurpin]

Yeah like the other girl above in my culture they do things differently but I make my own little culture. I was told don't buy anything until baby is born you can easily go to store and get things or send friends. Really ***** cuz I just moved across the country and don't have any friends and I like to be prepared. It's your baby buy things when you want to. I think people are just jelaous maybe because they didn't get a chance to buy things or they were dumb enough to actually listen to someone else who told them the same kind of stories.

[knufrio]

I am 14 weeks and haven't bought anything yet for baby. We are holding off a little longer. Although I did start my registry.

[Jackiebro]

My best friend does this to me and it pisses me off. As my friend she should be positive, not freaking me the **** out by saying "oh I'm not going to congratulate you until it's after the first trimester" ********.  Makes me not want to talk to her.

[insomniac185]

As soon as I told my mom she said she and my dadwoild pay for the whole nursery (glider, changing table, crib, orthopedic mattress pads, decorations, anything I wanted) and took me to babies r us so we can get an idea of what i wanted. That was when I was five weeks. Hubby says I can buy one outfit a week because he knows I will ggo crazy with buying stuff and not waiting to see what I get at the shower

[regcjl]

I'm 31 weeks and have had 3 ultrasounds since 18 weeks.so I just started buying girls clothes and ppl keep telling me u should wait til the baby is here so u know its a girl for sure.... I have seen her vajayjay I know she's a girl

[Jenn28815]

It drives me crazy too. I have seen so many posts "I would wait until 'x' weeks/months to start buying because someone lost a baby at this time..." I've lost 3 myself, but I'm not going to let those losses keep me from getting excited about this pregnancy. I know people have had still bitths, so do I not buy anything until after the baby is here? I say buy stuff when ya want, if you start early,  just save receipts.  

[Jackiebro]

The only reason I am waiting, is to know the sex if the baby. If there were some reason to know that now, I would start buying things!

[AmandaSchuller]

I feel yhey same way. I'm actually glad my mom is just excited. My son will be six and we have the baby dresser and changing table but when I called her the other day she said she was looking for a crib. I am only 5 weeks 4 days. I look at it this way I but some awful change I miscarriage we when eek sill try for another so I still need it.

[sprmom87]

This is my third pregnancy and I have never waited to tell anyone or buy anything. Although I wish I would've waited to buy clothes only because when her dad and I went shopping and bought things according to season and normal baby sizes, only to find out she will be extremely small, but thankfully everything has tags and I can easily sell them since the return date is up. Also I got extremely lucky with the carseat I purchased can be used for 4lbs and up and has attachments for preemies, unlike most. I do not however regret telling anyone before 12wks or purchasing anything before baby is here!

[14yearslater]

I understand where your coming from I felt the same way. If something is going to happen it's gonna happen regardless of what you do and don't do. So I finally told my husband one day my faith is stronger than that superstitious bs. It took over 3 years after an ectopic pregnancy to get pregnant with this baby and if God brought us this far then I believe it was meant to be so I'll buy and tell whomever when ever. That was that.

[Cheskit]

I got the same thing till I was in my second trimester. Really felt messed up that some people said I could miscarry at any point. Close to 32 weeks and my son is healthy and happy.

[tleidy09]

Honestly, I don't think I told everyone I was pregnant until I was about 17 weeks. I had a rrough pregnancy. Threatened miscarriage at 7 weeks, bleeding again at 8 weeks, and bleeding again at 14 weeks. I loved the advice that my mom and my sister told me about not telling everyone. At 20 weeks I had to have a cerclage in (stitches in my cervix) because I only had .5 cm left of my cervix. I almost lost my baby. I wish I would have never told anyone besides the important people. I'm also not buying anything because I don't know what I'm getting at my shower

[triple_a_mama]

As a person who's had several miscarriages either after announcing the pregnancy or buying things, I personally chose to wait this time around because it makes it easier to deal with the loss when I'm not staring at tiny socks and stuffed animals all the time. It was easier when I didn't have everybody hounding me and feeling bad for me. So after my second miscarriage, I just decided that I wouldn't say or do anything until I felt I was outta the woods. Doesn't mean I wasn't excited or didn't enjoy and embrace my pregnancy.