decided to go into labor by myself

[Theanna1989]

Well I'm 32 week pregnant with my second.  And I've decided that this time around I want no one in the room with me.  My husband I want him taking care of my 20 month old because our toddler doesn't stay with anyone else but us. And we'll last time I had my 2 sisters and my sister in law and none of them were any help at all. They all suckedd as support sorry for the word (sucked) :/ but it's true they were no help at all and they all saw my va jay jay which I really don't want to expose to anyone else but my doctor.  
But I was wondering am I wrong for wanting to give birth alone?  Never done it but I just want a peaceful delivery :)

[Theanna1989]

3babyboyz thanks I know that's our problem also we don't have people trustworthy that we can leave our child with. I don't trust no one with him. Until my kids can talk and tell me what goes on around them I'm okay with that.  But mean while my husband and I take turns taking care of him.  But back to my conversation I will try my best to go as far as possible alone as I can.  And also I will try to go without the epidural once again like I did with my first who was a 9lbs 3 oz baby

[nonishy]

I was alone with my first.  And i want to do it alone again but my husband wants to be there. I was single the first time.

[Emilee99]

If you want support you could also hire a doula. I have one this time and she has been so supportive and helpful. She's the one who will make all my requests known too. My husband will be there too but the doula is someone who knows exactly what you need for labor. :)

[3babyboyz]

You're brave for making that decision cuz when i was giving birth to my second child i wanted my BF there but he had to take care of our 12 month old cuz we could find anybody that we trusted to take care of him n i also went natural but cried for the epidural. To me it was scary n we have family that lives 4 hours away

[Theanna1989]

Yes exactly I didn't have a problem with it in my first delivery but now I really don't want my private parts exposed to the world except the doctor and nurses.  I don't even want visit. The onl only 2 people allowed after the birth for a visit are my son and my hhusband

[trista1986]

December 27th is my birthday: ) I feel the exact same way I do not want a single person I the room with me! I was like that with my first son, and it will be the same with this little man 8 years later I still feel the same! It is uncomfortable to me to ha e anyone in their besides the father

[Theanna1989]

Alliestwins thanks for the great advice ;) my mother won't be able to be here by that time she will have to be out of ttime due to work

[alliestwins]

As a midwife about 35% of my patients chose to labor just the patient and me. It is more common than you think. They do this for many reasons. Other children,  concatenation, the ability to sleep during early labor. It works for them. I always ask for them to have a back up plan incase during labor the end up needing their spouse or relative. Some people chose to have their mother and not their husband or a sister. Do what works for you.

[Theanna1989]

Wyattsmom2015 how did it go with just you a drink your midwife?

[wyattsmom2015]

I had my last baby with just the midwife. Husband was with kids.

[Theanna1989]

When3became4 it's not only my decision my husband also doesn't want to be there he says his wants to be with our first child at home comfortable and will come out to the hospital once our baby girl gets here.  He also expressed he will not spend the night at the hospital he will spend the night with our son at our house. We don't like the idea of leaving our son with family and friends we hate that. Especially because our son still doesn't know how to talk well

[when3became4]

I dont think its fair that your not having your husband there. It is his child too. Yes you may already have a child but your about to have another. Why should your husband be with one and not the other?

[Theanna1989]

Thanks ladies I just hope everything runs smoothly.  And not get scared being there by myself :/ I totally wish my husband could be there but like I said I rather know our son is being well taken care of

jdesir: I wish I could have my son there but I'm also planning on going natural and I know for a fact it's not going to be easy.  I don't want to scare my child.  Plus I don't think the hospital will alow any children in there.  While giving birth

[jdesir]

What do u think about having ur husband and son there....

[laurah87belfast]

Im seriously considering doing the same... people just annoy me lol

[Newmummy657]

Good on you hun!! Being prepared to give birth without your partner or support person is a very brave decision.. I think it's great if your want to do it!! All the best x

[Theanna1989]

Yes I definitely feel like I just want to be left alone. My  husband did help me out with our first but I want him to be the one who looks after our toddler I have no confidence in any other person to look after him. That way I will feel more comfortable knowing his in great hands while I'm in labor and delivery.  
And we'll my sisters and sister in law they were no help at all my sister in law feel asleep in the couch.  She should have stayed home. My youngest sister was on her dammmm phone the whole time while I was in labor and decided to go to the waiting room. She should have also just stayed home for that. And my oldest sister well all she was saying it's going to be okay. Blah blah blah I just wanted to punch her in the face :/ all I wanted was peace and never got it. And this time I want peace for the love of God :)

[nessath]

It's perfectly fine. You need to be as comfortable as you can. If you feel you want to be alone go for it.

[Theanna1989]

I'm due December 27th

[Dandi_2014]

Not at all.
that is your day.
You decide what you want/need.

When are you due? :)