advice please

[2LMP]

The father of my unborn & I planned this pregnancy because he had been in a previous relationship with his ex fiance and she had twins and it came out that the boys were not his and they had gotten to the age of 5. Well, every since I have gotten pregnant it feels like pulling teeth with him to check on me or even get involved in the pregnancy. I understand that he is in the military and we live in two different states which is why I feel like he should be calling everyday so I don't feel alone. Well, I unadded him from my social networking sights because I felt like it made it too easy for him to keep up with me but my sister and him are still friends so I snoop from her page just to find out he's liking picturesof all kind of women and telling the ex fiance that he will prepare dinner for her and they still act as if things are great. I am just curious as to why he would make a baby with me to make me feel like crap and barely check on me when his ex fiance has betrayed him and she can still get a dinner prepared for her meanwhile I'm carrying his real child & I get not even an inch of sympathy. Makes me want to abort but I know it's wrong. Please help!

[Candy_T]

I can totally relate with feeling like pulling teeth to get the bd involved by at least checking in every now and then. Also, the part about living in two different locations. It was explained to me that some men don't automatically feel like a daddy until the baby is here. I can see some truth to that. My bd would upset me when he wouldn't ask how we were doing, but he's made the conscious effort to do it now, especially since we are so far apart, but it's still a struggle. I know he means well. As far as your bd sending those messages to his ex, maybe he's not over her or maybe they are just joking. I hope its the latter. Don't worry about him and focus on your baby right now. It's going to be hard, I don't expect it to be easy but the bundle of joy in your belly needs you right now, mama. Unfortunately, we can't control what men do but that's OK. Use his lack of sympathy or care as motivation to be the best mom you can be. :P. Everything will work itself out and you'll be a great mom. :)

[dannyzgirl]

Jeliousy hun that might have been all he wanted honestly make he used u to make her jelious and used u as revenge u need to *** him back and talk to him about all this and get the truth sorry to hear the truth but that's what it sounds lik