discouraged with the bdaddy :/

[Rippy_Baby]

I'm pretty sure my bf and I broke up last night... I love him to death and he's a good guy but I don't feel that my stress level should be so high at this point when I'm supposed to have support. It's not good for any of us especially my unborn baby. I'm single mom of two already (this is his first) and I'm freaking out about raising this one alone now too. It's hard enough as is and I don't get much help from the kids father. Oh and when we argue he wants to say the baby probably isn't even his... I know he says it out of anger (we both say mean things) but that really hurts and I feel like that's being disrespectful to our baby. Feeling extremely discouraged in my mommy abilities today....  

[westonsmommy66]

I'm going through the same,  I'm 28w and things have been pretty hostile and stressful. My boyfriend also says the same thing about the baby not being his even though he has no reason to say it.  I feel like I cry all day and stress over his own issues. Hopefully things get better for both you and I! Keeping you in my thoughts xo

[AlllieKat]

Sounds like the environment is not the best to raise a baby. He should be reaching out not lashing out. Good luck hun

[ftm_sept2014]

My hubby was a complete a hole the majority of my pregnancy the minute our first child was born my husband did a complete 180 hopefully your man will snap into reality when baby gets here men get freaked out and reality often sets in when baby arrives we have 9mos to prepare mentally it gets real for men when you put the baby in their arms. Hang in there preggo hormones are a b----! Ps don't fight when your angry walk away cool off and then revisit the topic.

[Rippy_Baby]

Yes... great advice. Thank you ladies. I've just decided to occupy myself with my kids and other things for the time being. If its meant to work out then I guess it will but for now I'm going to try to focus on other things and keep my sadness/insecurities at bay. Thanks for the well wishes and advice.

[hellojojo2200]

She gave.great advice ^^ ....good luck hope it gets bettr for u

[mamabe4r_31]

My husband and I have been together 12yrs-we are expecting baby #5-we have been thru hell and back ups and downs-and I would never wanna be with anyone else-if you truly love him and wanna make it work-you both have to work on it-learn to get past petty arguments and walk away before the name calling-etc starts-each of you both know when you're  getting to that point-it doesn't matter who gets their point across-2nd no you shouldn't be dealing with all this stress and if you are overwhelmed then tell him-when you are both calm and let him know how you're feeling and how he can help-or what you need from him-it Being his first-I'm sure he's full of all kinds of insecurities-and while it doesn't excuse his behavior-it might give you some understanding of why he's acting out that way-relationships are not perfect-they are work to stay together-people grow and change and its learning about each other thru all of it--and saying things that you don't mean in an argument hurt even after the arguing is over and takes time to heal-try not to feel discouraged-just remember you have 2 other kids to care for including yourself and this baby as well-leave him be while he's mad and you're upset-there's plenty of times where my husband and I won't talk till we're over whatever argument cause we're both mad and have learned by now it's better to not talk then to say something we don't mean-try and keep your chin up and try too keep yourself busy-occupied-it'll help keep you from dwelling on stuff and stressing out-I wish you the best!

[Rippy_Baby]

I'm really trying not too :/ Just hormones and how I'd feel emotionally unpregnant aren't always a good combination. I just wish he wouldn't say that about the baby. Although its an attack towards me... I can't help but feel offended for our baby.

[loveYou4Ever11]

Don't let a man's words bring you down, if you were strong enough to raise your first baby alone you can do it with this baby as well. And him saying that the baby might not be his is hurtful, and even if he says it out of anger,maybe that's how he really feels. Its bs that you don't need..