eight weeks to go...

[happymomma22]

I feel like a terrible mommy. This will be my first baby and I haven't been able to get excited about the pregnancy. Things are great with me and the daddy...we have been engaged since January if this year. Its just so much change happening so quickly. Plus I have a history of 4 miscarriages. I remained pretty detached from the pregnancy thus far. Quite frankly, it is depressing to see other mommy to bes so happy because I want to be that happy and excited...but I just can't seem to get there. Now we have found out his mom has cancer. Any thoughts ladies?

[happymomma22]

Thanks for the feedback. I will definitely make sure to follow up MD if this doesn't subside soon.

[KJV_always]

The baby will be fine. I bet he will be such a good thing.for.your.mil as well. My husband's mom was.diagnosed with cancer 5 years ago and she just recently found out it's Back and worse. he is the only child so our boys are the.only grandkids they are 4,19months and this one I'm 29 weeks. So they.do lots of good cheering her.up and giving her something look forward to. Maybe do something sweet for her regarding the baby. Cancer ***** there's alot in my Family. my closest Uncle died from bone cancer a year ago on Halloween. a years ago Thanksgiving my.other Uncle was diagnosed with throat cancer. He is.doing well luckily.  and my aunt just had a double mastectomy.  my grandfather and his brother both also died from bone cancer. So I know how hard it is to deal with. But just be positive for her even if things aren't.good. that's all you can do.  Good luck momma I'm sure your baby is going to be a miracle that keeps her going...

[Gaby1822]

It probably hasn't hit you yet. Don't be so hard on yourself. Besides I think I would be traumatized if I went through 4 miscarriages too. I'd be afraid of letting my hopes get to high. I'm sorry about mom in law. Don't be afraid to be happy though. You will make a great mommy. Good luck hun!

[cunningmdc]

I'm only about 7 weeks into my pregnancy and it has been difficult to become excited about it as well although for my husband excitement came easy. the pregnancy was unplanned and we weren't even sure we wanted kids, but with our feet put to the fire, we decided we did. I was talking to a friend who has 2 and a third on the way. She said she didn't feel anything for her first until he was born but as soon as she saw him she knew she loved him with all her heart. I would like to encourage you to monitor yourself for depression symptoms which are very common with pregnant women. You talk about not wanting to do anything which is concerning ad it can be a sign of depression. Don't be afraid to talk to a professional if you don't start to feel better or even if you just think it might help a little. Good luck!

[happymomma22]

The doctor says he is healthy in there. I have just recently been able to refer to myself as mommy and actually talk to my lil one. His daddy talks to him all of the time. I'll try to keep positive the last eight weeks (I'm 32 weeks now). If I can't get out of this slump the baby is going to get here and nothing will be ready. I have some stuff bought, but everything is just sitting in the closet in totes. My fiance is set on buying the crib next week...but I find myself wanting to put it off. I have even told him the baby could sleep in the bassinet part of a pack n play just to put off buying and putting the crib together. Jeeze, I should already have the nursery all done, but I just can't seem to get there. I appreciate all of your encouragement. Its also good to hear other stories about others feeling this way so I know its normal sometimes.  

[Fontcait]

Ohhh you only have 8 weeks me to :)  and don't panic then I'm sure everything will go great you made it this far.  The first 3 months Is you should stress not now! Good luck btw I'm having a boy can't wait

[DNov13]

I'm with you. I had 3 miscarriages, and I'm now  37 weeks. I'm still terrified! Don't let it rule your pregnancy like it did mine. I feel like I missed out on a lot because I'm always scared. I wish you the best of luck, hang in there mama :)

[b4b]

With only 8 weeks to go, your little one will be here soon. I think you need to let yourself be happy. You will more than likely have a healthy little one.I can understand the worry and the fear of being let down or losing, look at the amazing things your body is doing, the love that created this baby, and the new life that you get to help mold and create. I am sorry about his mom, life is a cycle and I hope she goes into remission. Stay positive, make an effort to have positive self talk and eventually you won't have to try so hard. Best of luck to you!

[lilmonstermommy]

I was very detached from this baby until I was around 24 weeks and let myself get attached. I had a miscarriage before him and so many problems I was told I couldn't get pregnant again. It was hard to have everyone so excited about it and not feel that way myself. You will have that moment though when something just clicks/sinks in and you will become attached. Don't be upset with yourself just take it day by day it will happen :).

[Fontcait]

How far along are you? And never be ashamed of being a little worried I know I was very nervous as I had difficulty convincing. Just take it a day at a time and remind yourself the father you get the more likely you are to have a full term pregnancy. I just kept giving myself positive reinforcement and unfortunately if the worst happens you have lots of support online and from your fiance