extra stitch

[abbb01]

Has anyone been stitched back up too tight after delivery? I always hear jokes about "that hole was never the same" w/e I don't think I look any different down there after my first and my husband says it doesn't feel any different but I just can't help but think he's lying to spare my feelings or a fight. I do kegels already and am thinking of trying out weights. I love my babies more than anything & know its a possible sacrifice but I would still like to be the best thing ever in bed to my husband.  Would a doc put in stitches to make it snugger or anyone tried vag weights?

[brooke_13]

Sorry, after reading all the comments I see that I misunderstood the question!

[brooke_13]

One of my best friends was stitched up too tight. I didn't think that could happen until it happened to her. Sex has been painful for her since she had her baby almost a year and a half ago :s I needed a lot of stitches after my first baby was born, I tore and needed a huge epesiotomy. It took months to heal because the stitches got infected, but once I was healed it was all back to normal. I don't think it's very common to be stitched too tightly. I had to same ob as my friend who was stitched too tight during my last pregnancy, so I was a little worried, but I didn't tear at all and didn't need stitches. I'm hoping I have the same luck this time around too!

[Chas4683]

Nope , a stitch on the entrance isn't nothing , if it was something you was serious about, , it would be  a cosmetic surgery , vagina reconstruction , & surely that has a pretty price to go along with it .. The stich on the outside is only if you tear - or your Dr has to do an cutt to help you  get baby out , witch will then require stitches , which I had done twice with both of my girls .
But as for you ! Your husband should be proud of you and your body , for giving birth to his children :) so think positive , I'm sure it's just in your head as it probably is with all women whom had children .

[miss_lucky]

I don't think stitching it up would do anything considering its a muscle

[muhshe]

Every once and awhile Groupon has kegal balls that sell for a good price. I doubt they are safe while pregnant but could be a good investment for afterwards.  

[thepenguinsrock]

I think it's obvious from my hubbys reactions during sex that he doesn't notice any difference in how I feel after 3 kids then before them so I wouldn't worry to much, do your pelvic floor exercises maybe get some of those metal ball things that you have to hold with your vagina muscles to help you feel better :)

[lasilk]

I don't know anyone who dose. It would be a little tricky as an optimal closure of a tear would realign the skin.  An "extra stitch" would overlap skin edges. Unless done my a specialist who is familiar with vaginal reconstruction of course. Plus the extra stitch would only make the enterance tighter not the full canal.

I don't know you're husband but in very broad strokes, I would believe him. In you he has a receptive partner who cares about his sexual needs. Additionally, there are many ways to augment positions duing sex that would make it feel tighter, if you are still worried.

Plus while I have no data to support it I personally don't believethat the vaginal canal changes that much.

Try not to worry about it. If god forbid you get pelvic floor dysfunction or just want to tighten later there are a lot of surgical options. Just remember surgery is like magic, it comes with a price and sometimes not just a financial one.

[abbb01]

Thank u it's kinda lowered my libido worrying about it that I might be a disappointment

[AnnieBrooke]

Before you worry too much, ask the doctor if your lady parts are looser.  An ob-gyn would not lie to you about this.