grief and pregnancy

[morankn11]

Hello- last week I experienced the death of a close relative after trying to resuscitate him. The next day I found out I am pregnant. I'm 7 wks along and struggling with the grief and worry over how it will affect the baby. Has anyone experienced something similar? How did you handle it? Thanks in advance.

[Novembermommy1104]

:( sorry for your loss.... my dad and step mom live a few hours away, we drove over for the day when I first found out I was pregnant (7 1/2 weeks) to tell them the news, well that day they become some news to us......she was given only 6 months to live, I struggled with it because I couldn't imagine my dad getting such great news and the worst news together like that, my heart broke for him and I felt so selfish that I was on cloud 9 about this new life when one was sadly ending soon. Unfortunately 3 weeks ago (25weeks along) we received the call at 2:30 she had passed, peacefully at their home.we of course immediately got dressed and hopped in the car , the longest 1 1/2 ride of my life.. it didn't help that the last few weeks me and her had been arguing horribly +long story+ partially due to my hormones and in part to her literally losing her mind.when my husband and I got there, she was still there, and it may sound crazy, but I found great comfort in sitting quietly with her in their bedroom while the radio played apologizing for years of arguments between her and I and thanking her for loving my dad. It's still hard, and being pregnant intensifies every emotion of course. But I look at it as god makes no mistakes with timing and I will say that for the family, the upcoming birth of my daughter Has been a bright light in what was dark for a long while.
Again, sorry for your loss, grief at anytime is hard. Timing is strange at times. Sorry for my long post, but that's my experience and it felt good to write it :) so thank you for this too!

[TinkerBelly65]

I was 12wks when my father just died suddenly.  Im 29weeks now and Im still very heartbroken.  Im happy about my baby but will always have a sad spot, The baby is healthy and doing great so grieve as much as you need

[JMccubbins]

I lost my dad three weeks after I found out and had told him. We knew his time would be soon but we still didn't expect it that quickly. What helped me was not holding it in and just letting it out when I could. I found that when I tried too hard to be brave I hurt the worst. I know it is hard, but remember that no one would want you to jeopardize your pregnancy grieving over them. I'm very sorry for your loss.  I hope the good memories carry you through this difficult time right now.

[morganLR7]

I am 17 weeks and lost the love of my life July 1st last month. I slept alot more and lost even more weight at this point prayer to stay strong and keep your baby strong is what helped me. God bless

[morankn11]

These stories are comforting. I'm so sorry for all of your losses, thank you for sharing

[ctberalmu]

I found I was pregnant eight after my dad passed away.

I was with my husband on our honeymoon, we still had a week left when my mom called me to tell me the sad news.
Some weeks after I found out.
I want to think my dad is guarding over my baby, because the conception day and his death were so close..

[Nique5683]

I was 38 weeks pregnant when my grandmother passed. I spoke to her the day before and the next day she was gone. The worst part is I couldn't even go to her funeral because I couldn't fly. I live in Texas while my family lives in California. It was the hardest thing to endure while pregnant. You may have lost someone, but it was no coincidence that you found out you were gonna bring a life into this world after a loss of a loved one. Time will make it better, just try to relax and stay intact for your little one. God bless

[morankn11]

Thank you very much for your responses, I appreciate the thoughts as well as hearing about your own experiences with this. You ladies are wonderful

[Shaunray]

1st sorry for yur loss,& yes i been thru the same thing i lost my grandmother 2weeks after i found out i was pregnant it was really hard but as long as yu have family&friends around to help yu get thru you&baby will be fine. Jus try to relax n think of all the good things with that person may god be with yu & yur family at a time like this! God Bless

[mommybrandyozuna]

Sorry for ur loss! I was 12wks when I lost my grandmother! It hurt and even worse they wanted me to speak at the funeral and make the floral arrangements!  It was a very emotional time and I didn't know if it would ever get better but it has and I rubbed my belly and apologized to my baby girl that she would never meet her but she would always have a special angel! Hope ur ok and remember that everything happens for a reason and we all have a special reason for living! ♡☆♡☆

[morankn11]

Thank you for your kind words

[Zara830]

I've lost a close friend but I was 33 weeks when it happened. I'm sorry I don't have much advice. I just wanted to send you my condolences and let you know that you will be OK. Its not fair to tell you not to worry or feel sad because that's your family. Just remember that stress does affect the baby. There are some nice ladies on the board so reach out and connect and if you need to talk to someone we're almost always available.