heartbroke :(

[bex220712]

Well am 21 weeka pregnant with my little girl. I have 3 boys youngest who is autistic. Anyway i had my 20 week scan yest and they think she has a slight speration of the lip. Some of the pics showed nothing and some did. Im going to see a specialist for a scan on mon who will giv me 100 per cent if she has or hasnt. I feel so devastated like i have done something wrong. I cant stop cryin. My partner doesnt want to talk.about it. I was being toldwo much yest and cudnt take it all in. Cleft lip/ cleft palate but her palate seemed normal. What they will do with her when shes born. I cant take it all in. I dnt know what to think or feel. Please dont judge me. Ive wanted a lil girl for so long and feel like.am bein punished etc. Xxx

[bex220712]

All weekend amd was for nothing. Im had my baby girl is fine. I have 3 boys and youngest is autistic etc. And have wanted and wanted a girl. But thank u so much for ur kind words it really helped xx

[bex220712]

Update... well went to.see specialist today and managed to see babies face as her hands wernt other it lol. And she said theres no clefts there. And i got the all clear. I felt shocked as was expectin the worst coz of what was said on fri. And started researchin on clefts etc. Ive been stressed and upset

[wickedxchick]

Yes stay strong! It is superficial it will be ok!#

[lorijo85]

I have a friend whose daughter had a cleft lip and palate. She's 18 months old and just had her last surgery. She's absolutely beautiful. She had her lip fixed early on and you can't tell she ever had it. It's probably hard to picture it now but your baby's going to be just fine. I'm not going to tell you not to worry because it's hard not to but everything will work out in the end.

[polgara437]

You are not to blame for this so dont blame yourself try not to stress yourself out to much and understand that is is fixable mpre so now with the abundance of technolgy. Pray about it and know your not the only person out there my mother was hairlip and cleft palate and she was beautiful

[baby2014]

The good news is cleft lip and palate are easy to fix. Some more good news is ultrasounds have been known to be wrong. I was told my son was going to have cleft feet and hand's he came out normal. I can't tell you not to worry because I know I worried when I got bad news. I prepared myself for the worst and prayed for the best. I will keep you in my prayers just keep in mind ultrasound aren't always right.

[havincinco]

I know its really difficult to not feel that way, but don't.  One of our friends has a 2 month(ish) old and they discovered she has leukemia. Shes been in chemo now for a while, but is doing better. Like the above poster said, a cleft is something that they can totally deal with and babies are super resistant.  Good luck to you and I hope everything works out alright with your lil girl!

[neebs26]

Awe dont be sad  i know just how u feel. My son was born w a kidney problem and hes had surgeries and been on meds since birth. Not a day goes by i dont think it was my fault but babies are so resilliant and they can handle so much more than we adults could. Just know that now in days medicine has come aa long way and im sure ull find the best surgeon if u  even need one who will take care of her. Stay optimistic it will all wotk out  xoxo

[dande2169]

Oh, sweetie, don't blame yourself or feel like you're being punished.
Things happen that are not in our control. I think it's great that you're seeing the specialist. Get as much information as you can - take a notebook and write everything down so you can refer back to what you were told. If your daughter has a Cleft lip/ cleft palate, I doubt there is anything you can do to change that now. But what you can do is prepare - find out what you can do for her once you have her, find support groups and just get ready for any and all challenges that await your family.

Also, if she has this, it can be repaired at an early age and nobody will be able to know otherwise. It doesn't mean that this is a potential life altering situation. Stay positive and don't stress over this too much (I know that can be a challenge on it's own).

[heatherr322]

Aew dont get too upset over it, ur still getting ur little princess and she will b adorable no matter what

[jjwmom]

A friend of mine had a little girl with a cleft lip. She had to have a few surgeries to correct it but now you can barely notice it and her little girl is a happy healthy extremely active 3 year old.

[annat33]

I know its devistating we all want our children to come out in perfect health there is nothing wrong with that. But don't get to worried or upset about it yet have faith that everything will be ok that they were wrong and that she's fine. In the end if she does come out with a cleft lip she will still be ok they are still able to help fix her lip so she doesn't have problems. But try to think positive.