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am I being too sensitive?
Ok, I'm 26, and 20 weeks pregnant I just told my dad that I'm pregnant considering we aren't close I sent an ultrasound pic with a cute poem & my due date, he text back with "really, thanks for telling me is the dad gonna be around this time or are you still on your own"
I'm sorry but what happened to congratulations!? Why be so rude, I mean he's getting another grand child I don't ever ask for help....am I being too sensitive?
I'm sorry but what happened to congratulations!? Why be so rude, I mean he's getting another grand child I don't ever ask for help....am I being too sensitive?
Yes everyone is entitled to their opinions, looks like there are more dealing with similar situations than I thought.....Thanks for all the advice lovely ladies (: I still have 19 weeks of these crazy hormones eeeek!
Summer, I hope things work out. Maybe things will be better later. Keeping you in my prayers. :)
Mommy......calm down chica. Opinions is all any of us have on here. If you dont like hearing another opinion other than your own, maybe a forum isn't the right place. And I wasn't judging...I was just trying to look at the other side of the story. Like I said earlier....often its harder to look in the mirror than to blame others. It's a human trait we all have. I wish you the best of luck.
Mommy......calm down chica. Opinions is all any of us have on here. If you dont like hearing another opinion other than your own, maybe a forum isn't the right place. And I wasn't judging...I was just trying to look at the other side of the story. Like I said earlier....often its harder to look in the mirror than to blame others. It's a human trait we all have. I wish you the best of luck.
I had no expectations from him other than a possible congratulations, but for him to say that was simply rude, I'm not expecting or asking him to be apart of his grand kids lives if he wants to he knows where I live.
If you didn't like what she had to say you shouldn't of been on here it's called having opinions. Nobody but that person knows what they have been thru so for someone who doesn't "judge" sounds like you was to me. I can say what i want about my parents and if you don't like it don't read it!
Yerp.I agree^^^^^^
You know, we keep putting our parents up to expectations....much as they do us. Yet we are quick to judge our parents and not ourselves. I have to agree with gianna who posted that our parents raised us hoping and praying that we will never have to do something like raise children alone....much as we do for our own children. While some of our parents and step parents aren't supportive the way we would like them to. Maybe they never will support you the way you want. I know my step dad lost his previous wife and is just one of those people who can't handle being alone...so he marrued my mom shortly after his wife paased. I can't judge him. It's not my place. I was not in that situation. I have a friend my own age who lost her hubby and was married withinhe year to her new hubby. Can't judge her, so why do we feel the right to judge our parents? My bio father is a loser and will never have a relationship with my child...it was his choice. Not by me judging that he isn't worthy, but because he chose not to be a part of my life....be ready to look in the mirror before you ladies hold your parents to expectations...because your doing the same thing......and your hormones are raging. Not the beat time to make big decisions...
When my parents are absent grandparents I remember they were also absent parents! It hurt me at first but I eventually realized that they are teaching me a very important life lesson!! They are teaching me how to parent and to be nothing like they are!! :-) Their selfish ways have made me be a better parent and I do my best to not expose my children so they don't have to be hurt like I was for so many years!! As long as you love your kids that is all they need!!
Yeah, my parents were married almost 20 years then my mom passed away when I was days from turning 18, he started dating 4 months later and married within a year I get being lonely but he didn't even fully grieve....I do hope one day soon he realizes what he's been doing
*Did not know lol
Did know suks was a bad word
Oh man, that *****, but believe one day will come that he will regret. My dad (the greatest dad in the world) got distant when he had a new woman in his life. My mom moved on right away after the divorce but my dad was single for awhile dating here and there so he used to be the one who spent quality time with us eventhough we lived with our mom. Then all of a sudden it changed when he met someone. For years we grew apart, he did what he had to do but me and my siblings weren't as close with him plus we were getting older (this all started @ 13, I'm now 29). Now that he is no longer with her and has someone new his guilt is getting the best of him. He ran out and bought me an ipad for my last bd as a surprise then gave me a whole bunch of money for my kids. Not saying he never did anything for us all these years but we weren't as close. How we were with our dad and he was with us we were inseparable. No one would of ever thought he would of abandoned us like that.
He used to be around & actually talk to his kids, but since they got married it's all about them even 6 years later. I have mentioned that my son would like to go on there adventures & he always says not this time & lives on the great planet of denial when I point out he's never taken him
It's sad that they don't take your boy fishing or camping. Women can really influence men especially when they're in love with them (stepmom). Have u ever pointed this out to your dad? Thst he doesn't take your boy with him @ times? Was your dad ever really there for u? Tell him about it. Maybe if he has a conscious he'll feel a little guilt and change.
How rude and insensitive! But if he is naturally like that then I wouldn't take it too hard... but I know it hurts. Don't be ashamed! Love and cherish your kids. You are all they have, they depend on u, remember that.
How rude and insensitive! But if he is naturally like that then I wouldn't take it too hard... but I know it hurts. Don't be ashamed! Love and cherish your kids. You are all they have, they depend on u, remember that.
This is my third child and I'm yet again alone. Actually in a really good place but without a man cuz he turned out to be a lying douche so my mom asked if I was getting an abortion with this one when I told her. But she sees how responsible I am and how I'm saving and handling and I told her I'm getting my tubes tied after this so she's coming around. I think maybe he doesn't like seein u have to do this alone. No parent wants their child in our situation alone and pregnant...and men have a hard time with emotions.so I wouldn't cut him out. If he wants to be there he will.if not sounds like u have plenty of other support.good luck!
Yeah it's a not fun situation, he was more supportive with my first when I was 19 now I'm 26 & he's acting like this......mommyofsoon that's sad I'm sorry.....what's even worse in the situation is my son loves fishing & camping & that's all my dad & step mom do & have never taken him. My friends parents do though...
Its bad when step parents dont act like adults and make it a point to include step children in their lives or make it hard for the parents to see their children :(
Girl don't feel bad i haven't even told my family yet because they all have something to say. No one is supportive anymore. It's a cruel world =( my mom doesn't even see my two kids i have now she's always at the bar every night. It's not being too sensitive
When I was doing bad in school my dad said things like that to me and wasnt supportive, but that was his version of tough love. We were distant for awhile and he came around again when I had finally learned my lesson and started making better decisions about my life. The way parents handle things isnt always right but this could just be your dads way of saying he doesnt approve of your choices. Your family probably does love you and dont feel the need to sugar coat their feelings because they are family and the people you count on to be real with you.
I hope so but, not setting my hopes too high he doesn't even come around and be a grandpa to my 5 year old or any of his other grandkids either.....I think my step mom influences it, if my mom were here she'd be the one making sure they got to see the kids & be grandparents.....
Im.sorry :( for our immediate family i told my mom last i knew shed react weird even though im in a very committed relationship and we already had plans for marriage before we got pregnant i told her and i didnt get congrats or anything :/ first sentence out of her mouth was but you're gonna get married right?! I started crying and basically hung up on her she's come around though maybe your dad will pull his head out of his a$$ and be better
Babyluv wow so rude. I don't understand "family" I mean it's obvious to me why I waited so long to tell my dad, I have more support from friends & their fams.
Yea I might have to cut ties with my family as well...I never ask for help unless there is something major that I might need help with but that's very rare and very unlikely...my Grandma asked me why would I have another baby without having a stable man...um okay first its none of your effin business old *** and second I am grown...so u worry about U..u don't take care of me so wtf are u concerned. Idk? It's just irritating...if they are for you or against you...time to cut Daddy off because that was rude.U are not being sensitive...
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