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7400888 tn?1401574739

i messed up big time

I am the worst mommy I miscarried today and the reason we think it happen was Friday i got a migraine and knowing it is not pregnancy safe I still took my imitrex smfh I am not sure how I am going to be able to forgive myself for acting so selfish
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7530616 tn?1406419010
*loss
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7530616 tn?1406419010
Im so sorry for your lose. But im sure the medicine had nothing to do with it bcuz I didnt find out I was pregnant till about 6 months and my first 6 months I was taking my max-alt tablets which are a little stronger then imitrex and im now 38 weeks. Please don't beat yourself up i know you dont want to hear this or dont think itll happen but itll get easier as the time goes on. But you now have an angel baby in heaven looking down on you.
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  I am so sorry for your loss.

Imitrex is pregnancy category c.  Which means there are animal studies that indicate it is not safe in pregnancy but that no human studies have ever been done. There is currently no proof that these drugs are unsafe in human pregnancy. The recommendation for these drugs is for each woman to weigh the risks and benefits of use.

category D drugs are the ones that are known to b unsafe in pregnancy, also category X

Tylenol, which we are all told is safe,  is category B.  This means animal studies show no harm to fetus, but there are still no human studies available.

I do not think u caused this to happen. Hopefully you can find some peace and let your guilt go.  Thinking of you.
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I am sorry for your loss! My heart breaks for you. I don't think you should blame yourself. I took two doses of imetrex 100 mg each dose for my migraine. I was about ten weeks at the time and had no complications. I have had a miscarriage before that and sometimes it's just spontaneous. Dr said there is nothing anyone can do sometimes it just happens.
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Don't do this to your self. Imitrex it's in the same pregnancy category as Tylenol. It fact in Australia it is a category b drug. It has nothing to do with your miscarriage.

I can't imagine what u are going through. There is no need to add additional unwarranted guilt to your sorrow. Most spontaneous abortions are due to chromosomal anomalies. I know this can't erase your pain. But you can know that you didn't cause this to happen.

I hope that you can find peace.
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7400888 tn?1401574739
Ty to all the support it has been very hard to put on the happy face and get through the day with it being a holiday and having the grandkids over I didn't want to upset them and still try to care for our three year old foster child I know God has his reason but dang it is hard we are going to try again but I am losing my faith that we will have a child of our own
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7140159 tn?1396530233
Oh sweetie im so sorry but im sure that had nothing to do with it. There was a reason you miscarried but we will never know what causes a miscarriage, even docters cant unless theres a medical reason within your body that rejects the pregnancy. Please dont punish yourself for this i really dont think it had anything to do with it and it was just a coinsidence
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Sadly, this baby was probably meant to be taken to to heaven no matter what you did. Usually medications are deemed "unsafe" just because they don't know how it will affect the baby not because they are proven to cause miscarriage. So sorry for your loss, praying you'll have another baby soon!
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You can't blame yourself. I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks and I blamed myself b/c I was jogging still. For a year I ran 6 miles a day and when I became pregnant I jogged/walked 3 miles. I blamed myself for it and it was the hardest thing. I then researched miscarriages and understood that they are very common. Sometimes it just happens and its not anything you could have done. Don't blame yourself. You need to forgive. The only way to heal is to understand things happen and to forgive. I was bitter and angry for awhile and it just made it that much harder to move on.
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Anything could've caused your miscarriage. I highly doubt it was an imitrex. I partied like a rock star for a few weeks when I was prego with my first. Before I knew I was pregnant..obviously. and by partying like a rock star I am not exaggerating in the least. My son is 10 and perfect..inteligent, handsome, popular, the whole package. So don't beat yourself up..please. It could've been anything,  miscarriages are unexplainable 80% of the time.

So sorry for your loss..
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So sorry for your lose!
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Normally medicines affect the fetus but rarely cause miscarriage . you didn't do this to your baby hun somethings are meant to happen. Its heart breaking and my heart hurts for you but it was likely a problem developmentally not from a pill. And honestly the stress of being I'll or having migraines it hard on the baby on its own
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7602406 tn?1402367748
Sorry for your loss its okay it wasn't intentional praying you overcome this.
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6840085 tn?1395664392
im sorry for ur loss :'(
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Im soooo sorry for your loss.  :( Try & stay positive!

Guilt is a funny thing... it will consume you if you let it.  The important thing is to stop convincing yourself that it was your fault.  It may or may not have been the imitrex.   Focus on the fact that you now know you CAN get pregnant.   After 9 years you know it is possible and it might just happen again. :)
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We all think these thoughts.  When I miscarried the doctors ran a test on the baby we lost.  Found out that it was a spontanious abortion.  I thought the whole time it was because of something i took to make the pain go away.  Learning that it wasn't my fault or the baby's fault has made it easier for me, my husband,  and kids to greave easier.  Still sad but every day is a little bit easier to go through.  We are now expecting twins.   Our miscarriage was 8 years ago.  We was 19 weeks along.  Praying for you.
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7400888 tn?1401574739
Ty everyone I even called my dr yesterday to find out just how bad I had messed up and was told nothing conclusive it is so heart breaking we have been trying to have a baby for 9 years
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It's gonna be ok just pray about it. It was just a mistake I m sure you didn't know it will hurt the baby. I m so sorry for your loss n I will be praying for you and your family.
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5891248 tn?1406410864
Dont beat yourself up about. Forgive yourself or you will carry this with you the rest of your life. I hope you heal from this loss. I know how it is to miscarry and its a pain I wish on no one. My prayers are with you.
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