Who will be at the hospital when you deliver?

[ver3]

Who else will be there waiting in the outside waiting room? Alot of people are telling me to tell them when I'm in labor so they can come. But I really don't see the point. I don't want anyone else in the room while I deliver but mom and boyfriend.  My dad will go and my boyfriends parents. But anyone else I feel they will just be waiting for nothing. The hospital I'm delivering at are a baby/breast feeding friendly hospital. So after birth I plan on skin to skin contact to help stabilize his body temperature and hopefully get to breast feed right away. To my understanding I can't really have people in and out of my room causing distraction during that bonding time.

I'm kind of confused. Should I just let people know after I deliver and have the bonding time and timento myself to rest up a bit? Or let people come and wait it out? Any suggestions?

[schenner2]

My mother, fatherinlaw, motherin law, sister and sister in law were all waiting in the waiting room.  I had my little one at 11pm so by the time they got to see her i was midnight(i had alot of stitching done)  I too had some skin to skin and nurse her before they came in the room to meet her. My thought was they waited hours to meet her whats one more while i nurse. I agree that the nurses will guard the door if you want!  

[Jenn28815]

I only wanted my fiance and I in the delivery room. Well, he bailed and is going to be in the waiting room at least for the pushing and having the baby part. Afterwards he'll come back in. I will probably let my mom in after baby is born too, but that's it. Everyone else can wait. I will tell the nurses to make up strict visiting hours and restrict the number of people because I know plenty of coworkers that would randomly show up to just say they wentv to see the baby snap a picture with baby then annoy the hell out of me. Lol. I may even say no visiting until I am home from the hospital. I havent decided yet.

[Newmummy657]

Wow people cease to amaze me! I would never dream of being at a hospital waiting for someone I know to give birth unless I was asked, and I only go up to visit after calling to make sure it's ok and when I get there I always double check it's all good again just incase they want to feed in private or are having a bad moment and don't feel like visits. When we have our bub in two weeks it's just me and hubby, we have a scheduled csection first thing in the morning and have told our parents they can come up late in the arvo for an hour or so, then our siblings etc can come the next day. Then once they have visited others can come, but I'll have a do not desterb sign up so hopefully only people who have called ahead will come in. Especially after having a major operation plus caring and learning to feed a new borne I just don't know how I'll be having every man and their dog with me. Thank god our hospital has very strictly visiting times!!

[HunterGrace2015]

I'm also going vbac this time..

[HunterGrace2015]

My first I had my mom my cousin and ex bf.  My dad and his dad were waiting in the waiting room. No one came to visit untill the next day.to. my second one was a c section I had just husband with me my mom step dad sister and husband's parents were waiting in the other room and didn't stay long after bc I was out of it. This time it will be my husband cousin and my 4 year old son. my husband's parents will be with our toddler and my mom In The waiting room.

[Soon2BeMommaOf3]

The hospital I deliver at only allows 1-2 people in the delivery room depending on how you deliver and the first hour after baby is born they dont allow anyone in your room except you the father and the baby for bonding time. After the first hour its up to you who comes in but thats just the policy at my hospital. If you dont want everyone there at first then just tell people that. Let them know that ur in labor if nothing else and that you will let them know when they can come to the hospital so theres not so many people at once.

[BamaMom15]

Oh also I got very bored the next 3 days. She was born Mon and tues and Wed and thru I was so bored lol cause the baby just slept and I was like ok what do i do lol having the nurses know is key like I previously stated.

[Brynn_Taylor]

This is my first and I know I might regret it but both mine and my husband's family are very close with us and his mom my mom and my husband will all be in the room when I deliver. As far as who's waiting outside the room I don't really care because I have no problem being rude and telling people when to leave. Of course our mothers will be able to stay in for as long as they'd like after delivery but at my hospital we don't switch rooms after birth it's combined so it's the same thing. I have a large family though and many older brothers who will be there mainly to make sure I'm alright because I will have complications during my delivery. It's completely up to you though but sometimes I know with my sister IL it helped to have those people there because it distracted her from what was going on till she had to push then everyone left.

[kfw6293]

-Last child. Stupid phone!

[kfw6293]

Every delivery I had ppl around and it was to much. Especially with my 3rd. To many ppl in and out. So when we got pregnant with #4 first thing we said was,  no 1 is coming to the hospital until I'm up in the regular private room. Not in the LD room. I just want it me n husband.  My MIL said she wants to wait out in the waiting area.  But she's gna have to wait til I go upstairs to c the baby n stuff. It's r lady cold and we want it to be peaceful and relaxing. To much going on for ppl to be around.  I don't feel like covering up n stuff. Plus I like to bf right away. Everyone's face is always up in my boobs trying to c baby while I'm getting baby to latch.  Not in the mood this time lol. They'll Get over it if their mad. Luckily Everyone understands in r family andv aids they don't care, they understand.

[ver3]

Okay I'm glad you guys understand what I'm talking about. I really want that bonding time after. I really want to breastfeed and I know the importance of that skin to skin after birth. And I may have to schedule a c section since I have to deliver this week and my baby hasn't dropped and my cervix isn't ripe and I have no dialation. My doctor said I'm not even inducible for success.  We can still try to induce but if my body isnt ready we are fighting nature and may end up with a c section anyway. I think I may just have my mother make phone calls to people that want to know and ask them to visit the next day if they want.

[wyattsmom2015]

Hoping for birthing center but my husband and all of my children will be there.

[alid32]

*bond not bind, lol

[alid32]

I would take the time for yourself actually. Them wanting to be there and demanding you call them is selfish on their part (although they probably aren't even aware). You need time to bind with your baby and boyfriend as a new family unit. I don't even let people visit (aside from immediate family) for the first two weeks. You need to rest and adjust. It's your time no one elses.

[Theanna1989]

I know exactly what you mean. When I had my first I had people coming in and out very uncomfortable because I wanted to breastfeed and I had guy relatives coming in and out I definitely didn't want them to look at my breast.so yeah very uncomfortable with that. This time I want to deliver and be alone my husband won't be able to go because his going to have to watch over our 2 yr old

[BamaMom15]

You can let them stay at the hospital because your not going to want to call anyone. With my I had a slou. Of people waiting but I was asked by the nurses when I was ready to see people! Make sure your nurses know what you want because they will be your personal body guards while your there