baby shower. over barring sister in law.

[briannaalovely]

My boyfriend's sister is so excited for the arrival of my son. His whole family is but she has taken it to a whole new limit. I use to see all these posts about these mama's with the mother/sister in laws that make the baby showers about themselves instead of the mama's & I honestly couldn't relate but still gave my best advice & now I can.

His sister is making my baby shower all about her, has even made herself the center of attention. She says that since she's the host that her opinion trumps all, even mine. She wants this to be all about her & I can already tell I'm not gonna enjoy my baby shower & truly dreading it. On top of that I didn't even want one but his family insisted on it so I let them do it. I'm truly grateful for all they are doing & buying for my son & to celebrate him but I don't appreciate how is sister wants to run the show & make it all about her, inviting all her friends (who I've never met & don't know) I feel like this is a big party for her to be like "hey look at me I'm an auntie"

I don't know how to tell her to cool her jets because she's hard headed & not even her own mother can reason with her sometimes & she's only a year younger than me. Its crazy, I feel like I'm gonna snap & I seriously don't know how much longer I can bite my tongue with all of this. I need some advice or something to help me calm myself with this.

[cfamily4]

I hate my sister in law for making my wedding dinner rehearsal day all about her. I even cried. And my mother in law of course took her side because she is such a damn brat. What I learned from this, if you don't like what she is doing let her know she is done. The family may be upset with you. But this is your special event and no one else's. Let her know you must have control over the guest list no questions asked, and she can assist only when asked. And if she gets pissy over it. Then she needs to grow up. Don't let anyone delegate what you want in life even if it is as simple as what to serve at the party.

[shoppinmomma]

My mil was the same way. Wanting to serve food she knew I couldn't eat inviting all her friends from work I had never met. I had several meltdowns about it and finally canceled it. Wasn't worth the stress.....

[Jenn0717]

My sister in laws don't help with anything ever . I have 3 . I'm having a small baby shower and did a Facebook event invite ..
They haven't rsvpd because they act like I don't exist .
They are pretty pathetic . Lol .
But sure enough they will go . I'm thinking about saying something to them . Like my mom and I need to know who's all going to the baby shower that way we can plan the food .. lol

[ncmitch]

^I agree, I had my friend try to host one baby shower and my mom was gonna host another. My friend dropped the ball and was about to send invites the week of the shower so I cancelled it. She had already bought items for it so I let her help my mom which was a huge mistake. She ended up putting the wrong date (for Friday) on the invites and realized two days later (was supposed to be a saturday) and I sent out new ones with a correction. Long story short, only three person showed up not including the people that were hosting. Apparently people were so confused about the date, I cried. Ended up having to spend about $600 and I havent even bought diapers yet.

[patty1848]

I understand how you feel something similar happened to me.
But after the shower I was a glad to have it.
I received tons of clothes, logreaf mm? Kof diapers, High chair, bath tub, bottle warmer & sterilizer, bassinet,  blankets, emergency kit, booster seat, car seat, stroller with another car seat,  baby monitor, and tons tons of other things!  Imagine how much we saved!!! So have your baby shower and enjoy it. If you are rich,  whatever be a hermit lol, but If you poor like me have it and forget about your sis in law and have a healthy snack

[YaryMommy]

I be super happy the more gifts the better. It's just one day and I wouldn't care. I'll take any help because I'm not rich. But I see what your trying to explain and it's always a good idea to be honest. Open up your heart to this girl and see what she says. Or don't say nothing and then maybe your families side plans a baby shower and this time you can help with ideas n stuff.

[BabyGABsMom]

I just had mine this past weekend and my mom invited a bunch of people from her church I didnt even know. Was expecting 30ppl but ended up having over 70. But at the end of the day I got most of the items on my registry and my husband and I both agreed that we saved a ton of money which is the whole point of a baby shower. So if she wants to invite a billion people you dont know dont sweat it as long as they bring a gift and dont show up empty handed.

[kfw6293]

Def agree w/ above comments.  Ull go home with tons of stuff! Invite away! Put a smile on ur face and have fun! Not alot of ppl r blessed with someone who wants to have a shower for them.  Enjoy!

[lkaykirk]

I say let her do it. If she makes a fool out of herself then hey at least you got a laugh. We aren't allowed to talk about our baby in front of my sil unless she brings it up. So I'm wondering how it will be once the baby comes. My hubby has also said she isn't to be left alone with our kids. So even though your sil wants it about her then just think of all your gifts that go home with you. Lol

[Mia7232014]

Honestly the more people she invites the more prepared you will be and the less money you will have to spend.  Make sure you put everything that you need on your baby registry.  Diapers, wipes, elimination communication diapers if you are trying that, slings, house baby proofing stuff, first aid safety kits, bath tub for baby, bath tub water temperature reader, potty for baby, wet pads for babies co-sleeper or crib, qtips for baby, bedding, so on and so forth.  I don't know if I'm doing a baby shower or not I have no idea who I would invite. But you are lucky to have your sil inviting all her friends as well as your friends. Let her invite the world if she wants just make sure to have a great baby registry with everything that you need. She might feel like she is the center for the day but you will go home set for Your baby. She might be trying to be super helpful and nice by inviting a bunch of people who you don't know trying to give you a big party with lots of great gifts.

[nonishy]

Try talking to her about it, that this shower is suppose to be about your baby. Not anyone else. And that it's ok for her to invite a friend or two but most of the people there should be both families and your friends. That this isn't about her, and if she can't come to terms with that then the shower is off, because you being surrounded by people you don't know is going to make you uncomfortable.  
Make sure you tell her you appreciate her being into this, and appreciate the things she's doing but it's about the baby, and no one else.
If you don't want to talk to her then talk to your partner, and maybe he can talk to his sister instead and fix things.

[rosealie23]

Just tell her your baby your decisions... if you can't make final decisions then she can just enjoy her party... what is a baby shower without a pregnant woman...lol..

[springblessings2014]

The best way to  solve  this issue  and straight  up this situation  is  You to talk to her on private  it's always better to  express your feelings  .  Just tell her how you want the baby shower to be . Also invite your friends  mami  . Ask I'd she had forgotten about your opinion  because you're the mother of your own baby !! God bless you  and give you knowledge.  Hope to hear from you soon please keep us posted.