mixed family's .

[nikki8915]

So I have a 3 year old daughter and its just been her and I from day one . I found out Monday I'm pregnant and due in may :) .this babys father isn't my daughter's but he wants my daughter to call her dad and he wants to be her dad . Which sounds great but I'm having a hard time letting him in :/ I keep having horrible day dreams about us splitting and it breaking her heart I didn't think starting a blened family would be such a roller coaster emotionally :( am I crazy? Lol

[LeeshaMiranda]

I have a very blended family. I have one sister who has the same mom & dad. Both of my parents got remarried when we were around the ages of 3 & 1. My dad has two other daughters and a son with my step-mom & my mom has a son with my step-dad. My sister and I have always had a strained relationship with our step-mom & have always called her by her first name, but my step-dad has been a much better father than my dad and we mostly called him dad also, but sometimes by his name.  On both sides our other siblings have at one time or another called their parent by their name because of us. I think it just happens when you're at such a young age. I'm 25 now and both of my parents are still married to those same spouses, so I think it's just going to have to depend on your feelings of how your relationship is progressing. My dad really never put much effort toward his relationship with me & my sister once he was remarried, so it wasn't difficult to call my step-dad dad since he took care of us. However, I don't how I would have felt if he hadn't stayed with my mom for some reason. I hope my experience helps a little.

[babybrown2]

I agree with shib181 about being around for a while If you just met the guy give it time but if you know him and know he will always be there for his kids the go for it

[babybrown2]

Congratulations ! By the way we are expecting # 3 due may 5th

[shib181]

Nope. You use those mommy senses! Don't let him in until he has been around for a long time and you are SURE he isn't walking out of your girls life! It may be harder that way but you are an awesome momma for It!  In time it will come together or you will know you made the right choice. Good on yah for protecting your baby girls heart :)

[babybrown2]

I feel ur pain but your starting a family with this guy and you should want your daughter to feel apart of that they are going to be sibling and when your other child gets older there could be a chance his child will call him by his name and not dad because the other child does ...I have a 5 year old son I started dating my daughters father when he was 2 he never knew his real father or what a dad was I got prego with my now 18 mo old and  my boyfriend and I made the decision together that if he wants to call him dad he can I know there's always the possibility of broken hearts but of you break up it don't mean he stops being a father even though he's not blood to one your kids are family and that's how you should see it ... My opinion