Aa
need to vent
I don't usually do this but...I have to get it off my chest.
So my best friend just had a baby like 4 1/2 months ago. She had a boy and right when I told her I was pregnant she said she would give me all of his smaller clothes he grew out of if I had a boy too. I'm having a boy. She even told everyone on Facebook, everyone at my baby shower, my mom,everyone, so no one has given me clothes and I haven't bought any clothes because I thought she was giving me hers. Well now I'm closer to my due date so I finally asked her hey. .are you still planning on passing your clothes down? And she said no, she's keeping them ( which is weird because she doesn't want anymore kids). I'm mad because I never asked for them, but for the past 7 months she's made a big deal to me and everyone that she's doing this for me, and now I'm stuck last minute shopping for all of the clothes, while I'm so huge that walking around a store for long gets hard.
Rant over. Sorry
So my best friend just had a baby like 4 1/2 months ago. She had a boy and right when I told her I was pregnant she said she would give me all of his smaller clothes he grew out of if I had a boy too. I'm having a boy. She even told everyone on Facebook, everyone at my baby shower, my mom,everyone, so no one has given me clothes and I haven't bought any clothes because I thought she was giving me hers. Well now I'm closer to my due date so I finally asked her hey. .are you still planning on passing your clothes down? And she said no, she's keeping them ( which is weird because she doesn't want anymore kids). I'm mad because I never asked for them, but for the past 7 months she's made a big deal to me and everyone that she's doing this for me, and now I'm stuck last minute shopping for all of the clothes, while I'm so huge that walking around a store for long gets hard.
Rant over. Sorry
Try amazon too! Baby clothes are pretty cheap but Ross and clearance sales have saved my a s s. Im so sorry about your friend and sister! I dont know why people say they'll do things and not follow through or at least mention they arent going to do something. One of my best friends offered to buy me a stroller and carseat and I kept saying no and she insisted. Never happened so I just got the carseat at 33 weeks and now I'm saving for a stroller. It would have been nice to know earlier so I could have saved more.
Thanks y'all. I did tell my mom, but other than that I don't want to create drama, but yes I am putting on Facebook about clothes shopping lol that's a good idea!! I also looked up some thrift stores so I'm going to start my shopping there. I went to Walmart and target and it is SO expensive!!
I trust no one to give me anything until they actually do. So I went to garage sales and got complete outfits for a quarter or a dollar. I also went to thrift stores on some things.
What is frustrating for you is that she had averted anyone else from helping you with what you need. Her prerogative to keep her baby's clothes, but she made a public promise over and over. You don't have to publically shame her, although its tempting, but you can however ask anyone else you know for hand me downs. People like to step up and help.
In the future, I'm sure you won't be able to trust her. That's unfortunate for her and your friendship.
What is frustrating for you is that she had averted anyone else from helping you with what you need. Her prerogative to keep her baby's clothes, but she made a public promise over and over. You don't have to publically shame her, although its tempting, but you can however ask anyone else you know for hand me downs. People like to step up and help.
In the future, I'm sure you won't be able to trust her. That's unfortunate for her and your friendship.
Yeah put that on FB! Also say something like "let me know if anyone sees any good sales"
Don't forget about writing on Facebook: just went to shop for my babies clothes, cause people will believe she got everything for your baby!!! It happens somehow similar with my MIL, she said she bought clothes for my son before he was born and she only had 2 pants and 3 onesies...luckily i did buy baby clothes up to size 10 months. But she was saying too how she got baby things etc!!! And let your family know what happened to see if they help. My family lives 10.000 km away so they can't help me but hubby does so is fine!!!
Hey i wouldn't worry about it...do what you can for your baby don't ask that girl for nothing anymore...even if she offer say no thanks cuz she's playing games...
Ugh that makes me mad reading it lol. That's not fair for her to do that to you and leave you hanging with little time and money. But ya the thrift store idea is good, also if you tell your family what happened I'm sure you'll get some extra outfits from them. Good luck with everything, it will all work out and be okay : )
Aww hon I'm sorry. As for your sis, take a picture of the outfit you bought and send it to her saying "here's what the gift card bought". People can be so insensitive!
Thrift stores!!!!!!! Same thing and u get to pick the clothes for ur baby! I've done a lot of thrift store shopping and people will bring u gifts and as soon as u tell peeps how awful she's being then that will make them want to bring u baby clothes! It will be fine don't stress about her pregnancy tends to shows u who r ur real friends and who need to be cut out anyway!
Yes I hear that. The last thing a pregnant women needs is dram. Especially one near the end of pregnancy, we already have enough on our minds. Take it easy though dont stress to much. You might get some cute outfits when they baby comes. Ppl sometimes bring gifts to see the new arrival:)
That is true. It's just difficult being so big, and we didn't put money aside for that many clothes so now we're scrambling. If I would have known sooner I would have been buying them slowly during the whole pregnancy. Uhg. It feels good to finally vent about it though. I try to be so nice to everyone so I don't want to go off on them. Being pregnant is hard enough without people jerking you around you know? Lol
Oh. And then....
I told my sister I would get her a gift card as a thank you and she said "no no no, go buy that baby a cute outfit from me instead" I told her no, and she told me the same thing again. So finally I go buy an outfit for my baby (an expensive one that was super cute) and the very next day she texts me and says.. So where's my gift card? Is she serious?! My money is tight right now, and wouldn't have bought the freaking outfit if I knew she was still expecting a gift card. She told me no so much so I finally said ok. Wtf?!
I told my sister I would get her a gift card as a thank you and she said "no no no, go buy that baby a cute outfit from me instead" I told her no, and she told me the same thing again. So finally I go buy an outfit for my baby (an expensive one that was super cute) and the very next day she texts me and says.. So where's my gift card? Is she serious?! My money is tight right now, and wouldn't have bought the freaking outfit if I knew she was still expecting a gift card. She told me no so much so I finally said ok. Wtf?!
That's awful am sorry you trusted her. I would be upset to, especially cause she didn't mention it sooner, that she decided to keep the clothes. Well try to look at the bright side, your baby will have all new clothes. That his loving mommy picked out specifically for him♡
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