newborns and crying and sleep

[octoberpumpkin]

Help...any advice? My newborn baby is an angel all day long sleeping/eating/being content and happy, and will take naps in his bassinet no problem. But at night he'll wake up to feed or be changed and will cry nonstop after when we try to out him back in his bassinet. Idk what to do, I'm so stressed out that I find myself just crying all the time, I'm exhausted and I'm at a loss

[Daisygonz]

I'm glad placing him on your chest helped
That always works with my baby when he is fussy
And you getting one of his blankets and letting it have your scent is a good idea !

[sew2009]

Or instead of a shirt, sleep with one of his blankets...then use that in the bassinet... I forgot I did that till I read the shirt comment.

[octoberpumpkin]

We went to the couch last night and slept there with him on my chest, it got him to sleep which is good...a few hours later we finally moved him to the bassinet without him waking, it was around 5am though :( such a rough night. I'll try laying a shirt down thst smells like me though, that is a good idea

[newmommytyra]

Wear a t shirt all day let it get your smell on it...
Then when u put him there put the shirt in there so he feels like he is still with u in bed...
He maybe needs ur smell and heart beat

[Daisygonz]

Have you tried laying him on your chest so he can hear your heartbeat send feel your warmth?.
This usually helps with my baby.
I put him on my chest while I'm sitting an a angle.  And start patting his back with my other hand I'm rocking him up and down my Chest. This usually calms my baby and starts sleeping.  (My baby is actually on my chest at the moment)

[octoberpumpkin]

To answer your question @river_melody we need him in his bassinet because like u said sleeping with us could be very dangerous as tired as we are...I do t trust it. And as much reading as I've done about letting babies sleep in swings..u dont feel safe with that either. I had a cousin die of SIDS and so I am doing all I can to prevent it. They say sleeping reclined can cause breathing problems and increase SIDS. The safest place for a baby is on its back on a firm flat surface... So that's what I'm trying my best to accomplish. Even at the risk of my own sanity at this point :(  

[octoberpumpkin]

Yes. We do bath time, feeding, rocking, and then bed. But tonight the second I lsid him down he started freaking out, and has continued ever since. Gripe water and gas drops have had no effect.

[Daisygonz]

Bath***

[Daisygonz]

Have you tried giving him down both before bed time ?
Usually babys will go to sleep right after a warm bath.
My baby has colic and gripe water helps
As long as you give it to your baby very slowly and give him time to swallow he will be fine.

[octoberpumpkin]

We do swaddle him as well at night. Gas drops before bed. I've tried white noise. We keep it dim/dark for feedings and changing at night. He's been crying for about 6 hours now. I'm losing my mind.

[joamb]

My sister in law has a little boy and he would be and she found that swaddling him really tightly at night with his arms down helped a lot and she was able to put him down without crying and also making sure he's not gassy as it can cause discomfort. Since she does that he sleeps a lot better and doesn't need to be held all the time to sleep anymore.

[Emilee99]

You could try putting him in his carseat. And also the swing is fine. They tell.you not to let them sleep.long in it, but that really helped us get through some tough nights. My swing would shut uff after awhile anyway. Also the incline helped with my son cuz he has reflux and that usually made him cry. My son was also getting breastmilk too and he still had thr slight reflux. So maybe that could be an issue too. He might like the incline for that reason. It will get better though! It seems like a lifetime but when you look back it's just a blink.

[jess56m]

Are u swaddling him?

[sew2009]

I wish there was an answer for you...but every baby is different. My oldest did that... but just keep at it and know that the calmer you stay the better. I had a few nights where I sat in the nursery floor and cried with my baby. A nightlight and low noise did help.

[River_Melody]

Can I ask the reason you need him to sleep in his bassinet?

[octoberpumpkin]

I am breastfeeding. He sleeps in other places but I need for him to sleep in his bassinet. Unfortunately as soon as I lay him in it at night he freaks out. Like right now. I'm losing my mind

[kfw6293]

R u breastfeeding?

[kfw6293]

This girl I know gave her baby gripe water and he turned blue and u responsive.  So be careful with that! All 3 of my kids slept in a swing for like the first 2 months. Try giving a pacifier? Also I'd lay on the couch and put a bouncer beside the couch and just bounce the baby til they fell asleep sometimes the vibration mode helps soothe em. Try different things til u find out what works for u.

[luka_n_baby2]

My sons doctor who is AMAZING said if I ever get to frustrated and tired to just stop by and the nurses will take turns watching and walking with baby. My baby is very collicky he cries all day and is a little better at night but wakes up constantly. Doctors office is better then crying and getting mad. It will get better in time! Try and always sleep when baby sleeps. Don't worry about the house. A routine will definitely help but it does take time for them to get used to it. The warm baths also help with calming some babies, lavender is very good too

[octoberpumpkin]

We use gas drops and gripe water... It helps but not enough. I can try to leave a light on and see if thst helps. We live across the country from all family and we just moved recently so no good friends either...we're literally on our own completely and with my husband at work all day and unable to help much at night I feel like I'm all alone in this :(

[BabieMakes3]

My son did this as well. He was an awesome baby during day. Nighttime was awful. He ended up having cholic. I did car rides...Yes, middle of night exhausted car rides, we rocked in a rocker forever, warm baths with lavender lotion and a little massage while rubbing it in helped too, he liked music and having some kind of music or sound on low, he's 10 now and still cant stand complete silence while hes going to sleep..they also make co-sleepers that go in bed or next to bed. And always sleep when he does sleep. It does help!

[octoberpumpkin]

I really hope so. I literally just want to cry, and its like I can't even talk without tearing up. I'm just so overwhelmed. My hubby helps but he works all day so I'm up with baby all night since hubs needs his sleep more than I do. I just hope it gets better. Is there anything I can do to encourage better sleep habits? I try to stick to a schedule as much as possible to hopefully get him into s routine

[luka_n_baby2]

We bought a swing that lays back, its almost flat. And baby may have nights and days kinda mixed. Try leaving a light on, that also helps my little man, for some reason he isnt a fan of the dark. Have you tried any gripe water or gas drops? Sometimes them help. Try asking a friend or family member to help at night so you can get some rest, even just a really good nap will help so much. I have been there and it *****! My 2.5yr old still doesn't sleep threw the night and I now have a 6week old.. I have had the crying nights too! Baby should get better the older he gets. But there really isn't to much you can do. Maybe move the bassinet out of tour room and are if that helps. Good luck!

[Soon2BeMommaOf3]

For my daughter.. the only way she would sleep the first few weeks was in a swing. I think as long as its fastened and your ok with it then it cant hurt for the baby to try the swing if it helps calm him down.